Comment on Simpler times?
ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 1 day ago
As a teenager I would’ve been so shy and irritated by that sort of scenario. As a grown man now with much more confidence and life experience, I’d straight up ask them if they wanted to bang.
What if they were just doing it to make fun?
I remember being in gym class, secondary school a few decades ago and these two sexually prolific girls for lack of a better term, moderately popular, who would spend gym classes flirting and basically sexually molesting? (Idk what term to use when clothes are on) this nerdy kid most days in gym. Teacher only seemed to laugh when he noticed.
They would feel him up and tell him his balls were small or penis was crooked. It was fucked up.
Yeah, it definitely happens for malicious reasons sometimes, in which case it would be a very bad case of bullying. In fact, it’s a particularly cruel form of psychological bullying. It’s painful for a young man to be made to feel worthless and inadequate by girls.
As someone who went through much less bad bullying, it’s fucked up. What do you even do? Punch back? That works for same-sex bullies, but if you hit a girl hard enough to be afraid of you/have some respect for you, you’re the bad guy for hitting a girl. Ignore it? Contrary to popular belief, that makes bullies bolder, because they get to have fun without consequences. The only thing that kind of worked was avoiding bullies, and if you can’t, wait until there are no witnesses around, and then make sure to get the first good punch in, so that they’d think twice next time. Kids fucking suck.
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 1 day ago
As a middle schooler, I thought the idea of nonconsensual harassment was pretty hot. I still feel that way, but I thought it back then too.
Still don’t think such should be tolerated just because I liked it. Also, when there’s a credible threat vs minimal in-school harassment, its a lot scarier (although its still hot).
LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 23 hours ago
…then I grew up, and realized you can have consensual harassment.
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 23 hours ago
That would mean having to do things like be honest with your feelings and communicate with people.
RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com 19 hours ago
I’d rather die.
BakerBagel@midwest.social 23 hours ago
Yeah, i have worked at restaurants. Server staff are always consentually harassing each other