Yes he was being a bit rude but it is surprisingly common for women to expect the men to pay for their friends and it is not at all unreasonable for him to put his foot down early and refuse before she even asks.
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Garbagio@lemmy.zip 7 hours agoThis is what grinds my gears. At no point (if this is real) did she ask them to pay for the friend. But because of their own misogyny, they’re being an ass. And that’s not even getting into the probability that his is ALL ragebait to play off misogyny for engagement. People getting pissed off making shit up in their head, then making others suffer for it.
Soulg@ani.social 6 hours ago
echodot@feddit.uk 4 hours ago
Nowhere in the screenshot does she ever say she expected the guy to pay for her friend.
He’s getting mad about a made-up situation in his head. How do you actually deal with someone who’s mad about something that hasn’t happened.
Jerkface@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
The situation OP predicted wasn’t the one where she asks up front.
Garbagio@lemmy.zip 5 hours ago
“Its surprisingly common” OK buddy. Also yes, if you have a misogynistic belief about women, and then act on that belief, then it becomes misogynistic. Following a black person around a store isn’t racist; doing so because you think their a thief makes it so.
BussyCat@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Like the guy defenitely comes off as a dick but also if you check out conventional social media you will see guys who talk about being expected to pay for not just the girl but also their friend, and you will see girls talk about how if she brings a friend for protection then the guy should pay for the friend too.
So many variables exist that we don’t know but for some people there an expectation that if a girl brings a friend the guy needs to pay for both and I wouldn’t default that to just misogyny
echodot@feddit.uk 4 hours ago
I had girls bring a friend with them when I asked them out on a date and it didn’t even occur to me that I would pay for them. But also I wouldn’t expect the friend to hang around the entire time either, once it turned out I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone they generally went away.
Garbagio@lemmy.zip 4 hours ago
I mean but then that’s social media. Again, like this post, how many guys posting are posting made up bullshit for engagement? How many girls are giving “tips,” again for engagement? None of this is guaranteed to be real. The data stands, however: Per NBC polling, 44% of people think whoever makes more should pay, regardless of gender. 36% think it should be split, regardless of any factors. Only 20%, half of any other response, thinks it should be the one who asked (which is usually in straight relationships the man). I’m sorry, but all of this is at best a shitty date, and yet is at worst fuel for the fucking mgtow incel crowd.