That’s the mindset of plenty of people at 25 or 30 even. I think personal development/priorities are to blame more so than the age gap
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kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 hours ago
I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.
Hadriscus@jlai.lu 7 hours ago
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 hours ago
I consider 25 to be scrapping the bottom of the barrel for dating. I’m 29
DeadMartyr@lemmy.zip 7 hours ago
I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)
I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn’t interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.
This is the best relationship I’ve ever had but I won’t deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it’s like to have a boyfriend in the city.
Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.
I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30’s, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.
ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he’ll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 57 minutes ago
Men definitely who like to date older definitely exist!
vane@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Maybe she was rich and could stay high and watch musicals for the rest of her life. What a lucky girl she was.