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Comment on Discussion Thread 🌏 Saturday 26 July 2025

CEO and Seagoon have such wise advice. I don’t have kids but it’s something I have thought about myself as an adult. I have never fit in with girls and my experience of my female biology has been pretty negative (endo, infertile etc). For a while I wondered if I were not a woman but it’s really hard to unpack (for me) whether you fundamentally are not your assigned gender or if you don’t really like the idea of your assigned gender.

I eventually came to some peace through some study I did related to yoga. The idea of feminine I was learning about was the fierce, fighting, transforming one. I understood that the gender stuff we have thrown at us is so empty and silly. I don’t wear dresses and I don’t like some aspects of my body. I’m just me. A she mostly.

I would hate to be a kid going through this and just wanting to belong. And it’s bloody hard to be the parent holding space but also trying to protect and guide.

No answers just throwing some thoughts out in case it helps.

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LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
I agree, the whole concept of girls toys and boys toys is silly to me. I grew up given dolls and “girly” stuff, so the way I’ve been socialised has made me feel like Hot Wheels, Star Wars, and dinosaurs aren’t supposed to be for me.

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- PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  The whole gendered toys thing shits me, always has. Some people just don’t get it; my MIL always bought her a doll where you’re supposed to style it’s hair and put makeup on it, and it’d be Elder who tried to learn to do hair with it as his hair was frequently the longest in the house but he lacked the dexterity to style it himself 😆 Generally it seemed to me that girl toys were about boring stuff like playing “house” or “mummy,” whereas boy toys were about building and conquering worlds and exciting stuff.
  
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- bacon@aussie.zone ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Every dinosaur / rocket / Star Wars birthday card has the word boy on it 😠
  
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  - Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    not the ones you draw yourself 🦖
    
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PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I appreciate your thoughts. The gender stuffis really silly and arbitrary.

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