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• GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Would you say that domeatic abuse victims have good relations with their abusive parents?

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  • Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    blahaj.zone

    what did you expect?

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    • ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think they were saying that “good relationship with dad” isn’t a prerequisite for “marrying a dad-alike,” that sometimes “bad relationship with dad” also gets “married to dad-alike,” they’re just both bad guys in the latter case.

      Like, a woman who’s dad beat her/mom as a child can grow up to marry a husband who also beats her/their child too, and in that way she has married someone like her dad.

      I don’t think they were claiming that being abusive is good, nor do I think that’s the general consensus on blahaj.

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      • Samsy@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Agreed. Maybe I didn’t think about all possible variants of my introductory statement.

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• RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  (But only if they are in a good relationship to their fathers).

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  • latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yes, that’s what I was referring to, it’s not exclusively women who’ve had good relationships with their fathers, some go for their aggressive and violent father’s look-alike.

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