While OP is obviously made up, and definitively loves others of the same gender, that is not a bad metric for compatibility.
If it’s your favorite song, ever. Something that just brings you great joy, and the prospective partner isn’t at least able to jam with it, the chances of being on the same wavelength about other things get smaller.
I don’t really have a favorite song because how the fuck am I going to pick just one. But let’s pretend that I managed to and it was Master of Puppets (which would be on the final list no matter how that list got decided). If my lady can’t at least smile and throw the horns in solidarity, how the fuck we gonna handle that big a gap in tastes? Not saying it has to be her favorite too, but there’s gotta be at least a friendly neutrality or it means our tastes in music are radically different.
If tastes in music are far apart, chances are that other things like movies, tv, books, are almost guaranteed to be similarly apart. That wipes out big chunks of conversation and leisure time. And, how the fuck you gonna handle road trips? Stuck in a car with music you can’t at least tap a foot along with isn’t gonna be fun. It’s going to be stressful as fuck after an hour or so. Trust me on that one, I’ve been stuck in a vehicle for work purposes for long trips without realizing exactly how horrible the people I was with were. And I’m one of those people that doesn’t entirely reject any actual genre. Even the stuff I avoid, it isn’t because of the genre, it’s tangential stuff.
But after two hours of shitty contemporary christian bullshit I was ready to strangle someone.
Imagine that, but you hate Taylor Swift, and the date you’re with is a swifty. Or, imagine your poor date just can’t tolerate death metal, and you’re blasting some Behemoth. The fuck? You’re doomed. And that’s what long term relationships bring: hours in the same place frequently. You gotta be able to find common ground.
So, anon up there making the right choice for the wrong reasons, what with the fictional nature of their same sex lifestyle
fibojoly@sh.itjust.works 20 hours ago
I’ve lived with my wife for twelve years and we have two kids and I don’t think she’s ever managed to listen to any of the stuff I really love, because it’s just too heavy for her. And I’m not talking Lorna Shore here, I’m saying she gets all stressed out when she hears any short of bass drop.
I don’t think her brain was ever ready for metal, I’m pretty sure they don’t have anything like it in China.
Anyway, my point is, it still works because she doesn’t see music as a defining thing for herself, nor do I think of myself exclusively as a metalhead. She doesn’t hate me listening to metal, nor do I hate her listening to cheesy Taiwanese crooners from the eighties. She doesn’t try to change my tastes, nor impose hers.
I think that’s more important, actually. Not hating what the other person brings to the table. Sure it’s sad not to share a passion with the person you love, but it’s better than them trying to change you, or dismissing or denigrating what you love! Now that would be a deal breaker.