“no, there really isn’t a celebrity I’d go gay for.”
Not even for the story?
Comment on is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
So interesting thing here: both groups were aroused at heterosexual and lesbian stimuli.
The homophobic ones responded to the homosexual stimuli.
The guys were bi. Sort of explains why they argue “everyone chooses to be gay or straight.” Because they have decided they have to.
This also explains the more-frequent-than-i-enjoy conversation about how “no, there really isn’t a celebrity I’d go gay for.”
moakley@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
The story of being hit on by a celebrity would be plenty enough for me.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’ve long suspected that most people are at a 1 on the Kinsey scale. Plenty of yall are 0s, but I’d guess you’re probably the second or third most common group
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
TIL about the Kinsey scale. It would appear that yeah, I’m definitely a 0 by the description.
But thinking about it, it makes sense. I’ve heard people say they “always knew they were gay” and “they were born in the wrong body.” And it was things that were just natural.
That’s the only way I can describe it. I’m attracted to women. I’ve always known that, and no matter how hard I try, it’s impossible to imagine non-women to be sexually (and romantically) attractive.
Like there’s just something there that stops it going any further. Like, hell, a woman that visually has a body that can indisputably only be a woman but then talks with a baritone voice it’s instant off (there’s several comedies where this sort of character is used).
What’s cool though is that if I’m that sure about myself, there is no doubt in my mind that other people know what their attractions are, and there is no reason for anyone to doubt a person’s attractions.
TommySoda@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I feel like bisexuality is way more common than what we see. And if anything, I feel like the reason why so many women are more likely bi or willing to experiment vs men is literally just the bullshit stigma against being seen as gay.
And this may just be my experience, but being bisexual isn’t as easy as just choosing one or the other. The problem is that if you repress that much of your sexuality it only grows more… Intense. And sometimes more depraved, which is never a good thing. And I feel like that’s why a lot of those men end up getting caught doing “gay” things but it’s never just normal stuff. It’s always super crazy shit they get caught doing because it’s been repressed for so long that they make awful impulse decisions on feelings they’ve been ignoring for years. Like holding in your anger for 30 years and then going absolutely fucking mental when your coworker takes your parking spot.
arrow74@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I think a lot of these men are bisexual but heteroromantic, thus why suppressing their sexual desires are easier.
PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Just go on Grindr and you’ll be proven right. I’m in a tiny blue collar town. One that does burnouts on the rainbow crosswalk. 3/4 of everyone on Grindr are “DL bicurious guy” or “straight but like dicks”.
TommySoda@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The amount of “straight but curious” guys I’ve found out in the world is a little too high for that to be the case.
arrow74@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
It’s just them not accepting their sexuality fully. Like you can be bi and married to the opposite gender and be just fine.
I think it’s the denial that causes the issues
Nefara@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I know in my case I was open to relationships with women but dating men was so much easier it just never happened. On the outside it seems I’m hetero because that’s all anyone would see.
TommySoda@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That’s kinda the situation I’m in too. Dating women has always been easier for me so according to everyone that knows me I’m hetero even though I’ve told them that I’m bi. They just can’t see it.