That is camouflage. I use it to avoid being prey for people who hunt for the flashy and extroverted types.
Comment on Memes from my biology class #5
termaxima@programming.dev 1 day ago
If human males did this more often, maybe I would have dated a few more by now !
Hello, man with short hair, black/white t-shirt and jeans #4096. Please, do tell me about how you like food, sports and music. Blend into the background as much as possible, that’s a great dating strategy !
ByteJunk@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
termaxima@programming.dev 9 hours ago
Fair enough ! If you have an interesting personality that works, but it’s always easier to also show it instead of just telling.
grue@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Damage@feddit.it 1 day ago
People are interesting, “average” is a misleading concept, you can find quirks and intriguing oddities in pretty much anyone. Perhaps you’re frequenting the wrong circles in regards to what interests you.
termaxima@programming.dev 9 hours ago
I know that. The problem is that so many men have a “protective layer” you have to pry open to get to know who they really are underneath, and that’s exhausting.
bampop@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Extroverted showy types are also not showing you who they are underneath.
lime@feddit.nu 1 day ago
i just do not wish to be perceived
hazeydreams@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Well you need to be precieved to meet people.
angrystego@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Who says they want to meet people. Also, not everyone wants to attract attention every day all day long. It’s a good strategy for many people to be anonymous most of the time. And those who are into extroverted effect can shine.
hazeydreams@lemmy.ca 4 hours ago
Uh they did
the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
I don’t exist to impress you
termaxima@programming.dev 1 day ago
And that’s perfectly fine, but it doesn’t work as a seduction strategy.
angrystego@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
The fact it doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t work in general.
the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Meh. I’ll just fall back in my personality. I’m not really into women who care about aesthetics much anyway.
termaxima@programming.dev 9 hours ago
Everyone cares about aesthetics. “I don’t care about aesthetics” is itself an aesthetic.
Your looks are part of your personality, we’re not talking about how pretty you are here ; we’re talking about what you express with you looks.
And what a white t-shirt and jeans expresses is “I’m boring”, or more charitably “I’m normal”. People looking to date look for someone who stands out to them, without being too weird either.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Decent folks usually back seat aesthetics to personality anyway.
The meme is still funny. I hobby bird watch, and it’s very true in the bird world. The male birds are colored brightly if they have good nutrition, they are healthy, so the females mate with them. The female birds are boring so they blend into the environment, so they hide better from prey as they do the egg hatching thing.
I went on a first bar date with a fella once, and I couldn’t get it out of my mind he reminded me of a cocky rooster, so boisterous. Too much personality for me, I chose not to go out with him again. A lid for every pot.
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 hours ago
Aesthetically speaking, not standing out is totally fine. Personality speaking though, you have to be standing out.
What makes you unique? What hobbies do you have? What things are you passionate about?
People who are passionate about things are way more attractive than people who are not.
Give me a date with the person who will talk my ear off about trains, rocks, dinosaurs, etc anyday over the person who has no passions and no hobbies.