Madzielle
@Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
- Comment on Anon finds a bot 3 days ago:
People able to pay money, to have their voice louder than the rest, is one of the many current plagues throughout our societies right now. I don’t think gold or awards would be good at all for the fediverse. Please dear satan, no
- Comment on What types of cleaning products do you *really* need to clean the bathroom? 1 week ago:
No, it’s general cleaner/disinfectant. It’s called Pinesol because there is pine oil in it. The name brand stuff no longer has real pine oil, it’s not that sustainable, but the store brand I get does. Here’s the label
- Comment on What types of cleaning products do you *really* need to clean the bathroom? 1 week ago:
When I moved into my husband’s house, I noticed he only used pinesol. I thought it fucking weird. 6 years later, I only use pinesol.
I clean relatively often. I’ll use bleach in the bathroom once a year maybe, the rest of the time it’s Pinesol. We have a litter box in our bathroom, that I clean 3 times a week, and usually just clean the whole bathroom down at the same time. It’s clean in there.
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 2 weeks ago:
My own thoughts and inspirations come to me most often in the quiet times. I like saying hello to the birds. If I feel exhausted, I count my footsteps like you would music. 1234, 2234, 3234, 4234, and so on. I like hearing the winds, the trees crack as they sway, the squirrels hunting their forage. I listen out for other voices, and enjoy feeling connected to the rest of the world, a desire driven by isolation and loneliness, rarely do I find that sense of community in a podcast. The old man who walks my neighborhood every morning, does not have in headphones, he waves and smiles to every passerby, sometimes, his simple gesture, is the only kind/happy moment of my day.
People are different, it may be boring for you, but my ADD keeps my brain busy, and my CPTSD has me want to hear my surroundings vividly. I jump scare very easily, to avoid that, I use the power of, hearing one coming. I know I’m boring, but I don’t think it’s because I don’t listen to stuff while walking. Nothingness carries something within it, the interpretation only being found by the self. And to note, when I was younger I always had music. Things have just changed with age, it’s shocking I know, but as time moves, I want to slow it down, and appreciate everything I can. I crave quiet more than ever.
My husband is completely different, and more like you, where he spends most of his waking hours listening to podcasts and such. People are different, and that doesn’t make one better than the other.
You don’t have to tear others down, to make yourself feel better. I could call you a robot (hypothetically, I’m not, do you) for putting in your headphones like everyone else does. I’m on our states University campus kind of often. The amount of young people with headphones in, eye on screens, even as they get their meals or cross the street, is very odd to see for me. It honestly feels a bit like culture shock everytime I am up there. They walk into staff without looking or apologizing, and if you people watch for an hour or so, you’ll notice the majority plug themselves in. While I don’t think one is better than the other, it’s just different process. I find it amusing you call the ones who unplug robots however. We used to clown of people who had Bluetooth ear pieces in the early 00’s, it was the universal sign someone was a douche. Now everyone has airpods and the like. White socks, white shoes, white earbuds, head down in screen, it’s the standard look at the university by me.
It’s just amusing to see how things have changed in 25 years, from bluetooth sales douches, to today being called a robot for not plugging in, and instead paying attention to one’s environment out and about.
- Comment on Who's your favorite female protagonist in a video game? (Add pic of character in response) 1 month ago:
Kassandra from Assassin’s Creed Odyssey.
Fantastic voice acting, awesome gameplay, beautiful world. 10/10 I love her.
- Comment on Xbox consoles are now getting a fullscreen Xbox Game Pass Ultimate ad at boot, just a day after a 50% price hike was announced 1 month ago:
Yeah, I play all the time and noticed this jist a few weeks back. I fuckin hate it
- Comment on It's official: EA is going private. 1 month ago:
Paralives I expect to gain a decent following for life sim games it should release fully early next year from my understanding. Inzoi, from what I gather, is not it, and I doubt it’s doing well.
I don’t know much about ea’s sports games.
- Comment on It's official: EA is going private. 1 month ago:
Or just find a better game.
- Comment on It's official: EA is going private. 1 month ago:
And It won’t run.
So many of these DLCs are outright broken. For instance, the For Rent pack very well will corrupt your save file. I’ve had a glitch happen that was a for rent glitch, and I don’t even have the pack. Dine out doesnt function, my wedding stories doesn’t function. The game is still bland with $1000 of DLC.
It’s so bad, they added a toggle to turn off “unused packs” that break your game. You can now just uninstall them through the UI. Stuff you paid for, you can turn it off now, so your game runs more smoothly. Except, when It rolled out, it broke people’s games when they tried to use it, said they didn’t own the pack anymore, so you couldn’t turn a pack back on. Absurd.
Fuck The Sims 4, Fuck EA.
Rust, is an old game, they released a new version to upgrade to new systems. Free to people who already owned the first gen game. They did this well imo. EA could never.
- Comment on So...how the fuck do I trust *anything*? 1 month ago:
My suffering is the same as my ancestors.
The suffering is a part of the cycle. It’s just our turn.
It is comforting once you realize. Doesn’t help truly, but it does bring comfort. Being kind to others also brings comfort.
Come on everyone, lets trauma bond
- Comment on Weekly Recommendations Thread: What are you playing this week? 2 months ago:
The Wandering Villiage. I just got it a couple days ago, absolutely loving it.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 months ago:
Lol yeah, she recently got divorced and her husband was accusing her of cheating/sleeping with every man in the group, my husband included. I laughed when she told me, he’s the one who got a girlfriend within two weeks of the separation, she’s still single and focused on her children/work, even a year later.
It is rare, but I could tell she was just a friend. She’s just the only one who survived the friend group 20 years. It did cause a riff once in the beginning, I pretty rudely asked him why he didn’t have male friends in a fight. He was upset, and just shouted how everyone he was friends with back then went down shitty roads: drugs, suicide, prison, or women beaters, the few ladies he still knew from the group were the only ones who didnt fall into chaos. He really painted the picture for me so I could understand his pov. I’ve never worried since, and I’m better friends with them now anyway, he really has reclused himself, but he keeps in touch with his family and has their support.
He is happy as he could be given you know, life’s continued beatings. The only reason he didn’t fall to chaos himself, which he nearly did, he says, is because he’s always had his father’s support. He says I gave him reason to get sober, but his father absolutely saved his life multiple times over the years by being there for him.
I dated someone who was friends with thier now married ex. I tolerated it, and I trusted her, but I didnt trust him. I wanted to leave him, but he wouldn’t let me, and none of my efforts worked. Finally, after some time I managed to find support so I could leave him. He broke down, it was a whole thing, but he said to me one fight, I can’t love you because I’m still in love with her. Then.why.wouldnt.he.let.me.leave. ugh. I used to get lectures from him on love and loyalty, and he dropped that bit, I laughed in his face when he said it.
I will say its much easier to become an introvert when you are living with someone you trust and love. Outside validation becomes moot. Finding someone like that, is a very lucky thing, And often a treacherous road, for everyone, sex/gender non comforming alike, there isn’t discrimination in the pains of finding a person right for oneself.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 months ago:
My husband is similar to this. We only hang out with our family these days.
I was unsure when we first started dating, and he seemed to only have a couple female friends. But he introduced me, and they were lovely. He never sexualized women, never pressured me for sex, and feeling unsure soon wore off realizing he was extremely loyal after not long.
He’s withdrawn quite a bit since getting sober and older. I hung out at a small party one of his friends was having. He didn’t want to/couldn’t go, so I went.
Everyone was kind of dumb, they only talked about other people they knew, and told drunken stories about being drunk before- it was boring. I’m understanding why he withdrew from the crowd.
One guy showed me a tiktok of some Ai looking lady who recovered from drug addiction, praising her, this person he never met, telling me how good she looked now, clearly super excited about it (drunk af), all while his girlfriend sat right there. We’re all mid to lat 30’s. He acted like he was 15. I couldn’t handle it lol. The only friend I liked was his old BF, a girl who is like a sister to him. She doesn’t drink. This girl said she was drinking white wine, before I left the wine I brought for her in the fridge, I saw her bottle not even cracked open and laughed. Anyway.
You only need a few people to feel whole I find. My husband and his parents are great. That party felt like torture to me. But the tiktok guy and his gf were telling me about thier pool club. The play pool in the community a lot, and its definitely their third space. I may have found him dumb, but they had a whole crew of folks in their built community. I did compliment that. You gotta build the life you want.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 months ago:
Human nature is evolutionary.
Never say never.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Reading a story that brings happiness is real happiness.
Most often, when I finish a good book, usually one that has altered my world view, or changed some aspect of thinking, is profound, absolutely can even bring joy. The sustained feelings from the thoughts that came from the media are real. If they are happy and joyful thoughts they are real, if they are negative, the emotion is real.
To be delusional in this aspect, you’d have to see the peice of fiction as real life, as in, you may meet the fictional character one day so you are happy at that chance to meet them.
- Comment on GrapheneOS Under Threat: EU Age Verification And Google Changes Endanger Privacy-Focused Android 3 months ago:
It will be inconvenient, but I’m right there with you.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
I’ve gone paper towel free in my house. Every need for a paper towel has been replaced in my home care, except for this one purpose.
I use a coffee filter.
- Comment on How do you all keep the area around the toilet paper dust-free? 4 months ago:
Couldn’t you just buy other toilet paper and leave his dusty roll for his use only?
- Comment on How do you all keep the area around the toilet paper dust-free? 4 months ago:
Yeah, that dust is getting on your vulva, I have a bidet too. I prefer papers that are similar to scotts, where there is no dust. That extra soft stuff is aweful.
I’d buy what I wanted and just use it myself if my husband cared.
- Comment on Young men are 'playing videogames all day' instead of getting jobs because they can mooch off of free healthcare, claims congressman 4 months ago:
What free healthcare?
Young men have to jump through the most hoops to get state level health insurance.
- Comment on Sweatshop 4 months ago:
I worked in plastic extrusion for nearly a decade.
The front of the line would be about 85, but the back of the kine, where the work was, hit 110°F to 120F° in the summers.
Absolute hell
- Comment on huge tracts of land 5 months ago:
And burning their trash
- Comment on Republican Senator callously says 'biblically, we are supposed to work' to millions set to lose health care 5 months ago:
I’ve worked hard labor, while either:
not being provided healcare (many chain stores keep you at 34-36 (I forgot the exact amount) hours a week so you are as close to full time as possible while still being technically part time, or they give you 10 hours a week, no bennies offered either way.)
being offered cheap healthcare that covers nothing with $9000 deductible,
and decent healthcare I couldn’t afford, $80 a week, I was that broke (childcare+rent is like paying 2 rents), but still had the $5000 deductible and copays.
We work, and we still don’t get healthcare.
Well, not federal anyway. My state does okay, but it is easy to be in the gap of not qualifying for state medical, yet still unable to afford employer insurance that may or may not cover necessary care.
- Comment on Republican Senator callously says 'biblically, we are supposed to work' to millions set to lose health care 5 months ago:
Amen
- Comment on I'm not okay. 5 months ago:
I have participated in No Mow May for three years now. I also have a spot in the yard I let be free (weeded it for invasives) for the same amount of time.
This summer, for the first time since I have lived here, exsists an abundance of fireflys in my yard. They are everywhere, in a way I’ve never seen since I was a child.
No Mow May, (even if just a part of your yard) gives insects a place. Bugs live in the leaves and natural debris, by keeping it undisturbed, from fall to winter is important for many bugs’ survival.
If you like bugs, consider dedicating space in your yard for them to live. Don’t keep grass in the typical american perfect lawn way. I suggest not to spray, and look at native grasses and plants first when seeking your landscaping needs.
I’ve noticed a real difference this year in my yard. Maybe its some coincidence, I don’t know. Either way I’m happy to see lightning bugs again
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 5 months ago:
I’m so sorry, genuinely, what? Could you further explain what you mean?
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 5 months ago:
Where did it call them “the enemy”?
It didn’t, it’s asking how we can reach them and help support them, no?
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 5 months ago:
This is a better expression of what has happened/is happening than “they have no role models”.
The world has been changing faster and faster since the industrial revolution. Our culture seems to be experiencing growing pains from such rapid growth. There is less hope than ever,
“The comforting lie that gets you through to tomorrow” Absolutely, the propaganda has been layed on these men thick.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 5 months ago:
I cant see why you called yourself lazy
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 5 months ago:
As a white lady I don’t know who the fuck my role model is either
Role models are absolutely important, but it’s more than what the op comment is saying.
