You know we can test for those things now, right? As long as everyone remains faithful to their partners its not an issue.
If 300 people all get tested and are clean, they can all get together every night for a massive orgy and there is zero STI risk. As long as none of them sleep with anyone outside of the group that hasn’t been tested.
Gurei@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Yeah, anyone practicing safely can avoid that issue.
WhiteRabbit_33@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yep, this is exactly it. Practice safe sex, get on PrEP for HIV prevention, talk about testing and status with any potential sexual partners in or out of the polycule, and get tested every 3-6 months.
Hugin@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah. My polycule is small but my friend is in a big multinational one. They have a google doc spreadsheet with STD results and sexual relationship tracking (fluid bonded, barriers, etc).
BartyDeCanter@lemmy.sdf.org 2 weeks ago
Poly culture is a shared google doc and calendar for planning time with partners.
Gurei@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Yup! And if that’s too much of an ask, interrelationship dynamics are probably too much of a ask as well!
xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
yes because you can absolutely trust and guarantee safety amongst everyone in your polycule, and because you can totally be safe from STI’s that are transmitted by skin contact….
you can be safer, but not safe
YarHarSuperstar@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah it’s better to just be alone forever. Isolation smisolation
xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
nothing is completely safe… walking down the street isn’t completely safe….
acknowledging risks isn’t the same as saying don’t take any risks….
chump.
Hupf@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Trust isn’t a numbers thing.
WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Trust isn’t the issue. Probability is. Even without deception, there’s a chance someone can have an STD without knowing it. And there’s a chance that std won’t show up on testing due to incubation times, dormancy phases, and false negatives.
Imagine there is a 1% chance of your partner having an STD without knowing it. 1% doesn’t sound too bad an odds. But if you have 50 partners in an extended polycule, then the chance that at least one of them unknowingly has one is 1-(.99)^50, or 39%. Probabilities compound.
xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
i’ve been lied to by people i trusted many times… but i hope your ability to determine trustworthiness is perfect. mine is not.