Hello it’s me a trans woman. I knew before transition about some of it but never really understood. When I was masc I didn’t realize how much of it was basically hidden in plain sight because of how I learned to socialize. After transitioning though omg it’s everywhere. I’m in Seattle right now where I don’t have to try too hard to pass and still get treated at least base line okay. Even then I still use my masc voice more than my femme voice because people take me more seriously when I do. Like there’s a cultural acceptance of trans people here but if I behave more masc I get the privilege of being “one of the boys” even if I’m visually in full femme mode. It’s all so weird
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undeadotter@sopuli.xyz 11 hours ago
The experiences trans men and women have with misogyny will never not be fascinating to me. Like, for the first time ever we have this huge sample size of people who have experienced how their gender presentation affects how people interact with them, giving tangible proof of misogyny in action. And it can’t just be swept aside with ‘MaYbE tHe wOmEn JuSt miSuNDerStOoD’ or ‘mAYbe tHe mAN diDN’t MeAn iT LiKE tHaT’. I mean idiots will still make idiot arguments but at least it chips away at them a little bit.
ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.zip 11 hours ago
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
I told one of my friends that I’m being looked at differently in crowds now, and he just said “no you’re imagining it”.
Many people just do not believe what trans people tell them. At all.
insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Women aren’t believed, are you a trans woman? If so it could be either that you’re a woman or that you’re trans.
anzo@programming.dev 1 hour ago
(I hope not to misgender either but) bro, she knows. No need to mansplain it, read it again:
Many people just do not believe what trans people tell them. At all.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Religon is probably what initially does this to people’s brains
Indoctrinating children into systems of arbitrary hierarchy gives little boys god complexes and makes little girls into property.
ReputedlyDeplorable@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Oh my goodness yes! Not to mention the whole if you don’t dress “modestly” it’s your fault if you get unwanted attention thing. It’s a grooming ground.
HK65@sopuli.xyz 9 hours ago
Depends on where you are from, but the sort of thinking that gets people into religion gets people into misogyny even without religion in my experience.
OccultIconoclast@reddthat.com 3 hours ago
Misogyny is a religion. Religion isn’t just myths and worship, it’s also social orders and value systems.
OccultIconoclast@reddthat.com 3 hours ago
I’m female presenting. I’ve known people who thought I was a cis woman for months, and I don’t keep being nonbinary or trans a secret.
When I read actual cis women’s accounts of misogyny, and also trans women’s accounts, I can’t relate. I don’t get shut down the same way. Somehow, despite others perceiving me as female, I kept the tiny part of gender presentation that tells people to sit down and shut up when I’m talking as if I were a man. I don’t understand what it is, but I still have it the same as before I transitioned.
I would love to know what it is so I can share it, but I can’t tell why people respect me as much as they would respect a man. It’s bewildering.
insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
You could be lucky too or maybe you don’t notice the microaggressions.
ddash@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 hour ago
Confidence goes a long way, but maybe that is simplifying the experience too much.