Comment on Anon is worried about men

drascus@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• shortrounddev@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It’s a problem to have so many single, disaffected men out there

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  • taladar@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Might be a good time to downplay the importance of a relationship for a happy life then instead of trying to push the message that your life sucks if you don’t have one.

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    • shortrounddev@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Maybe being alone works for some people, but the desire for intimate relationships is a biological drive in human beings

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      • taladar@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        My point was that making people feel worse about their situation likely won’t improve the outcome. People either would be happy without a partner or they won’t and those who won’t don’t need an external push to try to find a partner and both groups might feel worse if they are publicly branded a failure for not having a partner.

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  • tane@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yup and it’s a problem that only becomes worse over time

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  • drascus@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    how do you know they are disaffected. Maybe they are single and just fine with it.

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    • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      We all know that isn’t true

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    • Master167@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      “Influence” numbers of Andrew Tate & Musk says otherwise. I’m also assuming a large following of those two are unhappy single men.

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  • AtariDump@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    The first rule of…:

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    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Dude, you’re not supposed to talk about Fight Club.

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      • AtariDump@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Talk about what now?

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• x00z@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Women might care?

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  • Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Then perhaps we should expect changes/shifts in women’s behavior to bridge the gap?

    I don’t think that cultural evolution is happening - look at Bumble, which had its premise/differentiation with women making the “first move.” They eventually had to nix the feature, because…women didn’t want to make the first move; they wanted to be pursued. Meanwhile, apps in general are just a minefield of emotional rejection, while Corporate ownership drags men through the muck as long as possible to get those $$$. So most men simply stop using apps and simply wait for some kind of IRL meet-cute. And that sparingly happens in a society that has very, very few places for non-commercial social overlap.

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    • fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Commercial dating apps are a failed idea. We need something better

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      • FatTony@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        ~Like~ ~approaching~ ~women?~

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      • yeather@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        4chan funded their own dating app. It was alright.

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  • drascus@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    well then they should step up and start asking people out instead of waiting for guys to do it.

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  • madjo@feddit.nl ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Then they get to step up and approach men for a change.

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• FatTony@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  people get rejected in ultra harsh ways, sometimes being filmed and then posted on social media for trying to ask someone out.

  Are you sure this isn’t exaggerating it a little? This may be anecdotal but I have never dealt with any such harsh rejection within my social circles (neither have my associates). What I’m trying to get at is that there may be a vocal minority that gets a lot of online attention.

  Then again if thousands upon thousands of people see it and take it as a common phenomenon it still has the same result.

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  • drascus@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Really the fear of it happening is enough. All you have to do is have it happen once, or know someone that it happened to, or see a video of it for that to scare you off of even trying.

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    • FatTony@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      That sounds like an irrational fear if you ask me. Like with fear of flying.

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