Women might care?
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drascus@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Every time I see an article like this I think who fucking cares? Like what’s going on with men? Its a generational and cultural thing its not men’s fault. Dating sucks, people get rejected in ultra harsh ways, sometimes being filmed and then posted on social media for trying to ask someone out. If I was in the age range to be dating I wouldn’t bother.
x00z@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 1 month ago
Then perhaps we should expect changes/shifts in women’s behavior to bridge the gap?
I don’t think that cultural evolution is happening - look at Bumble, which had its premise/differentiation with women making the “first move.” They eventually had to nix the feature, because…women didn’t want to make the first move; they wanted to be pursued. Meanwhile, apps in general are just a minefield of emotional rejection, while Corporate ownership drags men through the muck as long as possible to get those $$$. So most men simply stop using apps and simply wait for some kind of IRL meet-cute. And that sparingly happens in a society that has very, very few places for non-commercial social overlap.
fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 1 month ago
Commercial dating apps are a failed idea. We need something better
FatTony@lemmy.world 1 month ago
~Like~ ~approaching~ ~women?~
yeather@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
4chan funded their own dating app. It was alright.
drascus@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
well then they should step up and start asking people out instead of waiting for guys to do it.
madjo@feddit.nl 1 month ago
Then they get to step up and approach men for a change.
FatTony@lemmy.world 1 month ago
people get rejected in ultra harsh ways, sometimes being filmed and then posted on social media for trying to ask someone out.
Are you sure this isn’t exaggerating it a little? This may be anecdotal but I have never dealt with any such harsh rejection within my social circles (neither have my associates). What I’m trying to get at is that there may be a vocal minority that gets a lot of online attention.
Then again if thousands upon thousands of people see it and take it as a common phenomenon it still has the same result.
drascus@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Really the fear of it happening is enough. All you have to do is have it happen once, or know someone that it happened to, or see a video of it for that to scare you off of even trying.
FatTony@lemmy.world 1 month ago
That sounds like an irrational fear if you ask me. Like with fear of flying.
shortrounddev@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s a problem to have so many single, disaffected men out there
taladar@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Might be a good time to downplay the importance of a relationship for a happy life then instead of trying to push the message that your life sucks if you don’t have one.
shortrounddev@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Maybe being alone works for some people, but the desire for intimate relationships is a biological drive in human beings
taladar@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
My point was that making people feel worse about their situation likely won’t improve the outcome. People either would be happy without a partner or they won’t and those who won’t don’t need an external push to try to find a partner and both groups might feel worse if they are publicly branded a failure for not having a partner.
tane@lemm.ee 1 month ago
Yup and it’s a problem that only becomes worse over time
drascus@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
how do you know they are disaffected. Maybe they are single and just fine with it.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 1 month ago
We all know that isn’t true
Master167@lemmy.world 1 month ago
“Influence” numbers of Andrew Tate & Musk says otherwise. I’m also assuming a large following of those two are unhappy single men.
AtariDump@lemmy.world 1 month ago
The first rule of…:
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
Dude, you’re not supposed to talk about Fight Club.
AtariDump@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Talk about what now?