Comment on Anon is worried about men

madjo@feddit.nl ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• Steve@startrek.website ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Step 1- be attractive.

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  • SomGye@dormi.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Step 2 - don’t be unattractive.

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    • SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’m at 0/2 are there any more steps?

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      • mitchty@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Get a dog or cat or both.

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      • SomGye@dormi.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Step 3 - Repeat Step 1.

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      • ExtantHuman@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Be rich

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  • surph_ninja@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Just be funny and not a piece of shit. My wife is so gorgeous, people immediately know I have a good sense of humor.

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  • FatTony@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    If there is one thing the internet has overwhelmingly seceded at it’s convincing people that looks are absolutely everything. A lot of people I know tend to take their dating app experience as solid evidence of their romantic inaptitude. Even when it’s all too well known they are scams designed to keep you on their platform for as long as possible.

    I know that preaching about stepping up to women may feel like the same way of saying: “Just be attractive, bro.” And if it does, to that I say: Do it and practise it for the sake of it. “That looks like a nice person, let’s find out what they’re about, for no damn reason at all.”

    Anyway, my two cents.

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  • MisterFrog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Step 1. Be courteous Step 2. Interact with people in general Step 3. Ask our the people you’re genuinely interested in, and feel you have some kind of connection with, respectfully, knowing rejection is okay

    Repeat until you get a date.

    Being attractive helps a lot. Obviously. But you can put effort into your appearance. More than anything your personality is the thing that will get you a date.

    Having tried Tinder 12 years ago, once, around the time I became an adult, why you’d choose it over asking people out in real life is beyond me. Especially if you’re not very attractive.

    The meta is all off haha

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• Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Cry me a river. I’ve never heard a women say “don’t approach me”, but I’ve heard many say “don’t be a douche” and “stop thinking you’re a fucking victim”.

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  • aphonefriend@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    You already forgot the bear in the woods?

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    • trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      The fact that yall are still this mad about this just proves that the entire point behind the thought experiment is right.

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      • newfie@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        The bear metaphor was obviously thinly veiled racism/xenophobia from the start. Lots of conservative/moderate women who are terrified of anyone who isn’t white or who is “illegal”

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    • Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      IDK women are not scared of me. Maybe the problem is you? Maybe you’re not the victim you think you are and you’re just an ass?

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      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        These guys are forgetting that you were the only man that they would prefer over the bear.

        Congratulations

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      • monarch@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        So many men can’t understand that there is a diffrence from asking a woman in a bar on a date and being willing to accept a no and doing the same thing and throwing a hissy fit when they are not given what they feel they “deserve”.

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      • gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        women are not scared of me

        So you’re a pathetically tiny and weak man let, or you’re just unaware of the feelings of women?

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    • ExtantHuman@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Apparently you already forgot their reasoning behind it. A bear is a known quantity. Humans can lie to gain your trust, then turn on you. They weren’t saying all men are bad, they were saying that meeting a stand man alone in the woods - you have no idea how this person will act.

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• mosiacmango@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  At the same time, lots of men are really shitty when they “approach” women.

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  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    So yeah don’t approach women, got it.

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    • mosiacmango@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Very incel-y, but sure.

      Or, you could take it as a statement with the subtext that it clearly has, which is “dont approach us if youre going to be an asshole.”

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      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I think if women meant that they would say it instead of “never approach women”

        Blaming men for listening to women is some new level of crazy

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