Comment on Anon is worried about men

• echodot@feddit.uk ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Pubs make just as much money if you’re in a relationship or not. The motivation is to sell you alcohol they don’t care about your relationship status.

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  • hanke@feddit.nu ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Fair point.

    Also, I agree the profit incentive is a huge problem.

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• red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  The difference is that pubs and nightclubs are not exclusively for people who are looking to meet other people. People go there with friends, to have a good time. Not so much with online dating sites.

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  • shortrounddev@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I’ve never understood the appeal of meeting people at bars. If you want to build a relationship with someone, why not do it with someone you already know? Ask out a coworker or classmate or something. Why approach random people in bars purely based on their appearance?

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    • GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.today ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Because there is a very real sentiment called “Don’t shit where you eat.”

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Because it’s a social environment. You don’t go purely on appearance usually, you see someone interesting, start chatting, maybe you flirt a bit and if the vibes are right you move forward. If anything it’s far less appearance focused than the apps where it’s a picture and a bio and not interaction.

      As for why not coworkers and classmates and such, it’s fine if flirtation is happening. But to a certain degree it’s shitting where you eat. People have professional and to a lesser degree academic personas that are less who they really are than their social personas.

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    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Expanding your pool of potential mates increases the chance of finding a mate.

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      • taladar@sh.itjust.works ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        That only works if you would consider the kind of person who likes to spend time at bars as a potential mate though.

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    • Noobnarski@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      And then there are people like me, who don’t have the biggest friend group and it’s predominantly male. And my workplace is also highly male dominated. So I don’t have any women that I know that I could ask out.

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• chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  pubs and nightclubs have limited tools for deciding who can interact with who, in comparison. No idea if that makes them work any better for matchmaking though.

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