The difference is that pubs and nightclubs are not exclusively for people who are looking to meet other people. People go there with friends, to have a good time. Not so much with online dating sites.
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hanke@feddit.nu 1 day agoIn stark contrast to pubs and nightclubs
red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
shortrounddev@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I’ve never understood the appeal of meeting people at bars. If you want to build a relationship with someone, why not do it with someone you already know? Ask out a coworker or classmate or something. Why approach random people in bars purely based on their appearance?
GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.today 1 day ago
Because there is a very real sentiment called “Don’t shit where you eat.”
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Because it’s a social environment. You don’t go purely on appearance usually, you see someone interesting, start chatting, maybe you flirt a bit and if the vibes are right you move forward. If anything it’s far less appearance focused than the apps where it’s a picture and a bio and not interaction.
As for why not coworkers and classmates and such, it’s fine if flirtation is happening. But to a certain degree it’s shitting where you eat. People have professional and to a lesser degree academic personas that are less who they really are than their social personas.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Expanding your pool of potential mates increases the chance of finding a mate.
taladar@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
That only works if you would consider the kind of person who likes to spend time at bars as a potential mate though.
Noobnarski@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
And then there are people like me, who don’t have the biggest friend group and it’s predominantly male. And my workplace is also highly male dominated. So I don’t have any women that I know that I could ask out.
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
pubs and nightclubs have limited tools for deciding who can interact with who, in comparison. No idea if that makes them work any better for matchmaking though.
echodot@feddit.uk 1 day ago
Pubs make just as much money if you’re in a relationship or not. The motivation is to sell you alcohol they don’t care about your relationship status.
hanke@feddit.nu 1 day ago
Fair point.
Also, I agree the profit incentive is a huge problem.