The difference is that pubs and nightclubs are not exclusively for people who are looking to meet other people. People go there with friends, to have a good time. Not so much with online dating sites.
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hanke@feddit.nu 3 weeks agoIn stark contrast to pubs and nightclubs
red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
shortrounddev@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’ve never understood the appeal of meeting people at bars. If you want to build a relationship with someone, why not do it with someone you already know? Ask out a coworker or classmate or something. Why approach random people in bars purely based on their appearance?
GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Because there is a very real sentiment called “Don’t shit where you eat.”
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Because it’s a social environment. You don’t go purely on appearance usually, you see someone interesting, start chatting, maybe you flirt a bit and if the vibes are right you move forward. If anything it’s far less appearance focused than the apps where it’s a picture and a bio and not interaction.
As for why not coworkers and classmates and such, it’s fine if flirtation is happening. But to a certain degree it’s shitting where you eat. People have professional and to a lesser degree academic personas that are less who they really are than their social personas.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Expanding your pool of potential mates increases the chance of finding a mate.
taladar@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
That only works if you would consider the kind of person who likes to spend time at bars as a potential mate though.
Noobnarski@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
And then there are people like me, who don’t have the biggest friend group and it’s predominantly male. And my workplace is also highly male dominated. So I don’t have any women that I know that I could ask out.
chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
pubs and nightclubs have limited tools for deciding who can interact with who, in comparison. No idea if that makes them work any better for matchmaking though.
echodot@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
Pubs make just as much money if you’re in a relationship or not. The motivation is to sell you alcohol they don’t care about your relationship status.
hanke@feddit.nu 3 weeks ago
Fair point.
Also, I agree the profit incentive is a huge problem.