Comment on Anon gets handed a note

j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

• kambusha@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  How’s dating life going?

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  • j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    No one has ever turned me down for a date. You?

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    • kambusha@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Good for you. Definitely had rejections. Sometimes we didn’t match, sometimes I was the asshole (realised after), sometimes they were.

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      • j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

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• ebolapie@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Bait for what? Perhaps I am simply old, but why is it so unthinkable that a girl would think you are cute?

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  • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    In high school I would have people ask me out. If you say yes, what a fucking loser you thought I was serious? If you say no, then you’re gay and you should kill yourself. It’s funny because you can see the divide in this thread between people fucked up by high school and people who find getting fucked up by high school unthinkable

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  • EddoWagt@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    I would also assume it was bait, some people are assholes and I’d be insecure in a moment like that

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    • ebolapie@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      There have been times in my life when I would be insecure as well, but with some hindsight I realize that if someone really was going to be an asshole to me in a moment like that, it says a lot more about them than it does me. I lose more by being guarded than by being open. I do remember those times, and my heart hurts for anyone who’s going through the same thing.

      The question was rhetorical. You’re a catch. It’s okay to be shy but allowing yourself to be vulnerable is how you find the people who are worth your time.

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  • j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Bait for embarrassing the person. It depends on the person and context. I was often teased like this by people in school because I was quite susceptible to emotional manipulation. The note is not asking the person out. The note is asking for a reaction to a hypothetical situation without any commitment to actually asking. The intelligent reply is an equally indecisive hypothetical response saying “if you’re uncommitted, so am I, try again” while also protecting from the potential for a trap. Plus if the person does not have the depth to understand the volley, the answer is a solid no.

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