aeki
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- Comment on I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do? 3 months ago:
A quick test for this is, are you good at making a good first impression or short time of friendship and then it kinda falls off with time? If yes, masking is likely in play.
Can confirm. This is my entire life.
- Comment on Osmoses 4 months ago:
I’m groaning so hard while feeling really happy at the same time, it hurts. Thanks.
- Comment on Normal 4 months ago:
Where I live the dog shampoo costs more than the human shampoo.
Or you mean the conditioner?
- Comment on Anon goes to a donut shop 4 months ago:
This is my problem, I am impulsive and silly enough to still say things, but the way they come out sometimes makes me want to die a little inside and stop being perceived forever.
Sometimes if I am not doing too badly I still can turn it around, where the very failure of delivery can on its own get the laughs (or groans). If I sort of stay with it long enough to express something like “yeah, that was bad wasn’t it? want more?”. But it does require a minimum of social aptitude like you said, which for me varies a lot.
- Comment on Growing Old 5 months ago:
Wait, I’m not “young people”? (37)
- Comment on Happy Father's Day. 6 months ago:
Yes, the mitochondria and all the other organelles. We’re mostly egg.
- Comment on Happy Father's Day. 6 months ago:
And people forget that we’re also the egg.
- Comment on Edison 6 months ago:
Vad har det med Sverige att göra? As a Spanish speaker, that’s just one its meanings in Spanish.
- Comment on Ant smell 6 months ago:
I’ve never smelled ants, but like maybe ants in Sweden don’t smell? It’s why I wanted to know which kinds.
- Comment on Ant smell 6 months ago:
Which ants? All ants?
- Comment on Fear 7 months ago:
I’m 37 and I can never get a parrot. :(
But a parrot could get me for a little while.
- Comment on #justgradschoolthings 7 months ago:
My boss told me himself that I probably have impostor syndrome. Ever since then, I lose sleep wondering how much he regrets saying that. By now, he surely realises that I actually am an impostor, but our labour laws are too good and he can’t fire me.
- Comment on To play Elden Ring: Shadow Of The Erdtree, you must defeat some of Elden Ring’s toughest bosses 8 months ago:
So, Radahn and Mohg.
- Comment on Whoops 8 months ago:
I was very confused until I realized you mean flat elastic bands which I’m not so familiar with (the ones I’m used to, have square cross sections).
- Comment on How I cannot be worry?? 11 months ago:
My problem is that the "Can you do something about it?" is always unclear, I go back and forth until it consumes my thoughts.
- Comment on Why do we have an internal monologue? 11 months ago:
I do read extremely fast in my native language (Spanish). Feels like entire sentences go straight into concepts and my brain builds a whole world based on what I’m reading.
However I started reading in a verbalized way with my second and third languages (English and Swedish) because I was completely useless at pronunciation, while reading at a high level. So I had to learn the sounds and they started invading my reading, which I sort of resent.
But the verbalization is still very mild; faint, monotone, non-enunciated.
Some people talked about poetry and I hadn’t considered that my absolute lack of poetry-sense could be related. People have told me about the metrics and whatnot and it really doesn’t click. I have to sort of analyze a poem and explain it to myself in prose, and I imagine that defeats the purpose of poetry?
- Comment on The most relaxing part of driving in a city. 11 months ago:
Whenever we drive through one of these we’re stressed about finding the right exit and the GPS stops working inside the tunnels so we end up coming out where we didn’t mean to.
We don’t own a car or anything anymore, but I really don’t miss these.
- Comment on Headlines be like 11 months ago:
Same. My partner and I are engaged but there’s never going to be a diamond in the picture. If they had found the diamond ritual important, we wouldn’t be too compatible.
I also cannot deal with rings in general due to sensory issues.
We do want to find some kind of wearable, interesting symbol though.
- Comment on Gilbert's gripe 11 months ago:
This is such a beautiful comment.
- Comment on Tradition 1 year ago:
This sounds like a boast but it’s actually sad? Like I live in Europe and a lot of people I know seriously have functional alcoholism, but it’s normal enough that nobody thinks it a problem until it is. Alcohol is a pretty strong drug. It doesn’t matter if you can “take it”, it’s still doing things in your body.
- Comment on What the hell is this shit? Instead of pushing for the return to traditional pensions, capitalism is celebrating the idea that Millennials & Gen Z may simply never be able to stop working. 1 year ago:
In a way i can see why you think you’re lucky as you will suffer less in these terrible times, but damn, there are so many things I want to do in life that I’ll run out of time before I run out of things.
I have a decent non-shitty job, but I’d drop that in a second if I didn’t need it. It takes such a chunk of my life.
- Comment on Sacrifices are required for high grades 1 year ago:
I was like that but weirdly I was ‘adopted’ into a group where everyone was a good student and it was uncool not to be. It was even the popular people in the class, full of very well-rounded people (they were social, also into sports or music, friends outside of school, etc).
I still stood up as a “nerd” for reasons that felt inexplicable at the time but later made sense as it turned out I’m autistic. I wasn’t as well-rounded as them. I’d hang out with them but I couldn’t wait to do things by myself like being at the library, learning languages and computer stuff and playing games.
I don’t think any of these people talk to each other anymore because all of us grew in separate directions. I have made good friends since. I like the hobbies I got by allowing myself to do what I wanted. I like the opportunities I got from my grades.
I don’t think high school is where you consolidate your friends for the rest of your life. Some people do it, but it’s not a requirement.
- Comment on Pick your Lemmy instance wisely... 1 year ago:
I’m on both of those and never got an email, I just tried logging in after a while and it worked.