Windex007
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- Comment on If you lose your memories, are "you" dead? If a close relative/friend lose their memories, are they still "your relative/friend"? What the hell even is memory? How sentimental are you about memories? 1 week ago:
Oh wowza, good on you for sharing that! Super interesting and I feel a bunch of what you said right to the bottom of my soul.
I really appreciate the share as well because it’s PRETTY rare to get to talk to someone with an inkling of such a bizarre life event, how it changes you, and how you grapple with (and hopefully conclude in some way on) uncomfortable questions about the nature of life and identity.
I’d always felt comfortable with where I landed on this… but I’m finding myself surprised by the relief that someone else resolved these questions in the same way I have. I didn’t think I needed… I dunno, validation? Validation that my conclusions were reasonable? Maybe I just never thought I’d get the opportunity to exchange with someone who I trusted actually understood. Not sure, either way, I feel validated and I never thought there would be a mechanism for me to feel that about this topic, and it’s a welcome surprise and I appreciate it, so thank you.
- Comment on I Quit 1 week ago:
I’d also like to see the chart if it was actually representative of the rich. Populate the chart with individuals reporting >2.5 million in income per year.
- Comment on If you lose your memories, are "you" dead? If a close relative/friend lose their memories, are they still "your relative/friend"? What the hell even is memory? How sentimental are you about memories? 1 week ago:
I had west Nile virus and it got into my brain and it was a mess.
Anyhow, during that years long Rollercoaster of a recovery, there was a period of apparently a week where I don’t remember at all.
Like, woke up in a hospital I’d never seen before. Wandered out to have strangers greet me as if they knew me… had to literally ask the question “where am I? How long have I been here?”
Anyways, the experience made it difficult to escape considering questions similar to yours. Who was that guy who was apparently walking around doing stuff and talking to people that week in MY body?
Short answer: always me. People have such little understanding of how at the mercy of chemicals and electrical impulses they are. You’re you when it’s all working, you’re still you when it’s not. Trying to tie something as foundational as identity to something as ephemeral as memory isn’t a good idea, unless you want identity to be something that changes second to second.
- Comment on Would it have been possible to play the violin part of this song in the wild west or just back in the day? 2 weeks ago:
The relatively slow tempo and narrow range… I’m not even sure if the tuning would really matter. I imagine a competent player of any era could play this on a single string.
- Comment on minor inconvenience 2 weeks ago:
Not sure if it was Microsoft or my org but I was asked several times to stop using “bummer burt” in all my comms
- Comment on Some crimes are unforgivable 3 weeks ago:
I think you’re going in the right direction, but I think you still ended up overshooting the runway here.
As much as there was demonstrated techniques, and explanation… the PREMISE was that the act of painting was something you could enjoy.
The title of the show wasn’t “learn to paint”.
- Comment on So...how the fuck do I trust *anything*? 3 weeks ago:
Strongly agree.
And honestly… as much as possible build your network IRL. Neighbors, co-workers (yes, don’t let capitalism convince you you must drop your humanity), etc.
Truth is, you probably won’t have perfect alignment with them… but they’re real. They and you are flawed, but real.
Online communities have thier place… but they’re not at all a replacement. It’s so easy to gravitate to people who think exactly like you online, but it dulls your ability to operate IRL.
- Comment on Who the fuck needs an x axis anyway 3 weeks ago:
Statistical distributions suck, especially when we want a clear-cut cause-and-effect silver bullet. My only sister has two autistic sons, and my wife and I were 7 years older than she was when we had our son and he isn’t autistic (as far as we can tell thus far).
As a brother and uncle, I have incredible empathy for the desire and frustration to just get a clear answer on this. It’s not like lead or asbestos or thaledimide or radiation.
Best we’ve got is a confluence of factors, not the least being family history knowing full well how bad diagnosis has been historically.
It’s so incredibly predatory to dump the science in the trash and just say “it was Tylenol all along”.
- Comment on Who the fuck needs an x axis anyway 3 weeks ago:
It’s probably more than just better diagnosis.
“Advanced Parental Age” has a significant body of work behind it, and people are having kids quite a bit older than they used to, because… you know… gestures broadly at how fucked up the world is
- Comment on Zoom’s CEO agrees with Bill Gates, Jensen Huang, and Jamie Dimon: A 3-day workweek is coming soon thanks to AI 4 weeks ago:
Maybe that’s why. I don’t dispute the outcome, just I wonder about the underlying motivation.
Headcount, regardless of utilization, carries a cost. Payroll HR benefit administration badges laptops uniforms etc etc.
As well simply “cutting hours” causes people to quit to find more stable full time employment. If you actually want to keep an employee, it’s a massive risk to do that.
Both cases, those are working against the employer even before you try and justify it as part of some grander scheme.
I’m completely open to the idea, but it strikes me as an Occam’s Razor moment. Why introduce the concept of secret colluding between competing businesses when it can be sufficiently be explained by individual greed?
- Comment on Zoom’s CEO agrees with Bill Gates, Jensen Huang, and Jamie Dimon: A 3-day workweek is coming soon thanks to AI 4 weeks ago:
I don’t think you or I or Marx need to over engineer the explanation in terms of “wanting unemployment lines to keep ‘workers in line’”
It’s sufficient to say there is an immediate profit motive to just fire the workers and pocket the surplus, I think.
Not well versed enough in social theory or empirical outcomes to really know… But it seems enough to me
- Comment on Zoom’s CEO agrees with Bill Gates, Jensen Huang, and Jamie Dimon: A 3-day workweek is coming soon thanks to AI 4 weeks ago:
Fucking lol.
IF they get an 80% productivity boost and can choose to either:
A) Maintain staffing, maintain pay, only make workers work 3 days a week.
B) Fire 60% of staff, maintain 5 days a week, and freeze raises because the market is now awash with newly laid off people
What do YOU think they’re gonna do?
- Comment on His message touched me. I feel no empathy 5 weeks ago:
Empathy doesn’t mean you’ll adjust your position. It just means you can RP as someone well enough to come away with an understanding from that person’s perspective.
You can be empathetic and once the exercise is over, still not budge in terms of your original assessment.
Empathy is dangerous to fascists. Everything they’re doing unravels if a population is good at it. It’s why they hate it so much. Don’t toss them a free W.
- Comment on slam dunkle 5 weeks ago:
Why’s James cryin’?
- Comment on thick skinned employees, how can you be so thick skinned? 5 weeks ago:
I think your notion of charitable apathy probably only comes across as condescending if in your explanation you make it sound like you’ve never been (or would never be) in a position to receive that treatment from others.
I feel like a few words tossed in to clarify that would probably help people avoid a gut reaction about your ideas.
People might also be getting hung up on the idea of treating someone like a child. I had my kids a little later in life, and I treat my toddlers like adults. What do I do when an adult is crying? I sit with them and comfort them. What do I do if I see an adult about to step in dog shit? Yell to them to tell them a warning to watch their feet. What do I do if an adult tells me they’re hungry? I help them get food. What do I do if adult tells me they want to play with hot wheels with me? I say yes.
Maybe I fundamentally don’t understand how others conceptualize treating a child. I think that term is super loaded. Like the word “savory”. You can ask 10 people what the phrase/word means and you’ll get 10 confident and incompatible answers.
- Comment on McDonald’s CEO is grappling with a ‘two-tier economy’ as he slashes prices on value meals—and signals backing for a minimum wage increase 1 month ago:
I’m going to go out on a limb here, and say that the CEO of McDonald’s is aware of that.
The rationale here is that if they get minimum wage increasesed, they can raise their workers wages without the reality or perception that they’re ceding a fiduciary advantage to their competitors.
It’s a reality that needs to be addressed. Some major corp had to eventually acknowledge it. Everyone knew it, nobody wanted to be the first to say it.
The first step is admitting there is a problem. The gravity of even this first step, and the fact that it’s from Trump’s fucking gold standard for food and American business, is massive.
- Comment on Choose wisely lemmings 1 month ago:
I did that once, and it was really jarring for people to see.
People have gotten completely desensitized to names like “ForceU2swllow” or “xXx_daRk_pRo_MLG_xXx”. A regular name, your actual name IS the most unhinged shit.
- Comment on Choose wisely lemmings 1 month ago:
James
- Comment on Metal 1 month ago:
Metal
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Thanks to denial, I’m immortal!
- Comment on Not stealing 1 month ago:
I don’t have the current capacity to give this the response it deserves, so I’m going to hit a few key points of where I believe misunderstanding exists and then let you reevaluate what points still need pressing.
I don’t think I’ve ever moved the goalposts. My initial comment is what it always was, that you don’t CURRENTLY have a toddler. I think this is directly relevant to my thesis that parenting evaluations from people who aren’t themselves currently experiencing it need to be weighed as such (certainly not authoritative, and divorced from the reality of the experience)
Nextly, I think it’s worth deconstructing two things:
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did the observer genuinely think it was a kidnapping ?
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why did the father feel the need to justify?
I’m going to say “probably not” to the first, and to the second probably because of the keen awareness that parents have about how much people love the armchair deconstruction of their parenting. Thankfully, I got some great advice very early on from another parent which was, in short, to get comfortable ignoring the musings of others on the subject of parenting.
But I do think, after reading your post, it would probably make me more inclined to feel the need to justify myself if I were I in the same situation. How do I convince this bystander I’m X, Y, or Z? This person is trying to gather the variables to ultimately determine what I’m doing wrong as a parent.
I also don’t think it’s realistic that you can’t move a tantruming toddler through a public space… Especially if the immediate destination is the car. This hits me as very dogmatic.
The car, for example, IS my kids happy place. It IS the best place to calm him down. Get in the car and sing John Denver together. It seems, to me, cruel to deprive him of that even if I know he’s going to be pissed off on the way there.
I can respond more fully when I’m off mobile… And maybe I’ve over-attributed judgement on your part. I think you’ve read much more into the original post than is there, and have mentally constructed a scenario much more disturbing than it was. I think the dad calling the kid an asshole was what made it post-worthy, not some level of violence.
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- Comment on Not stealing 1 month ago:
Yes, there is a point I’m trying to make, which is it’s intrinsic to the human condition to paint a much rosier version of your own childrearing experiences once they’re historical.
The internet is awash with new parents wildly frustrated with how incredibly out-of-touch the platitudes they hear about their experience even coming from other older parents.
Your original comment is just that. Judgemental and out of touch. You can make a kid act like that? A screaming toddler? There will certainly be times when nothing you can do within the laws of physics can PREVENT them from acting like that. My toddler threw a hysterical fit because the garage door can’t be SIMULTANEOUSLY open AND closed. No, son, I know you believe Daddy can do anything but quantum super positions are even out of my hands.
Should the guy have called his kid an asshole? No.
How harshly should you judge them for it? In that moment? Probably not very.
- Comment on Not stealing 1 month ago:
If I was going to take a kid from a stork, you think I’d take THIS one?
- Comment on Not stealing 1 month ago:
had
- Comment on Not stealing 1 month ago:
10:1 odds that neither of you currently have a toddler.
- Comment on Mark Zuckerberg freezes AI hiring amid bubble fears 1 month ago:
Maybe what you’re referring to? Over a billion over several years?
- Comment on What's your thoughts on this? 2 months ago:
If my goal was to try and damage the organization of groups looking to drive environmental initiatives, this is what I’d do. One of the things, anyways.
- Comment on If I stood on a precision scale and farted, would I get lighter or heavier? 2 months ago:
It would have to expand your abdomen slightly, assuming you don’t have access to a fourth dimension.
- Comment on The guy President Trump nominated to lead the US Bureau of Labor Statistics 2 months ago:
“My dad was right” - Richard Cockburn
- Comment on Shit's getting real 2 months ago:
Lol, yeah, THAT strategy would keep it at 99 cents.