Windex007
@Windex007@lemmy.world
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
Thanks to denial, I’m immortal!
- Comment on Not stealing 1 week ago:
I don’t have the current capacity to give this the response it deserves, so I’m going to hit a few key points of where I believe misunderstanding exists and then let you reevaluate what points still need pressing.
I don’t think I’ve ever moved the goalposts. My initial comment is what it always was, that you don’t CURRENTLY have a toddler. I think this is directly relevant to my thesis that parenting evaluations from people who aren’t themselves currently experiencing it need to be weighed as such (certainly not authoritative, and divorced from the reality of the experience)
Nextly, I think it’s worth deconstructing two things:
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did the observer genuinely think it was a kidnapping ?
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why did the father feel the need to justify?
I’m going to say “probably not” to the first, and to the second probably because of the keen awareness that parents have about how much people love the armchair deconstruction of their parenting. Thankfully, I got some great advice very early on from another parent which was, in short, to get comfortable ignoring the musings of others on the subject of parenting.
But I do think, after reading your post, it would probably make me more inclined to feel the need to justify myself if I were I in the same situation. How do I convince this bystander I’m X, Y, or Z? This person is trying to gather the variables to ultimately determine what I’m doing wrong as a parent.
I also don’t think it’s realistic that you can’t move a tantruming toddler through a public space… Especially if the immediate destination is the car. This hits me as very dogmatic.
The car, for example, IS my kids happy place. It IS the best place to calm him down. Get in the car and sing John Denver together. It seems, to me, cruel to deprive him of that even if I know he’s going to be pissed off on the way there.
I can respond more fully when I’m off mobile… And maybe I’ve over-attributed judgement on your part. I think you’ve read much more into the original post than is there, and have mentally constructed a scenario much more disturbing than it was. I think the dad calling the kid an asshole was what made it post-worthy, not some level of violence.
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- Comment on Not stealing 1 week ago:
Yes, there is a point I’m trying to make, which is it’s intrinsic to the human condition to paint a much rosier version of your own childrearing experiences once they’re historical.
The internet is awash with new parents wildly frustrated with how incredibly out-of-touch the platitudes they hear about their experience even coming from other older parents.
Your original comment is just that. Judgemental and out of touch. You can make a kid act like that? A screaming toddler? There will certainly be times when nothing you can do within the laws of physics can PREVENT them from acting like that. My toddler threw a hysterical fit because the garage door can’t be SIMULTANEOUSLY open AND closed. No, son, I know you believe Daddy can do anything but quantum super positions are even out of my hands.
Should the guy have called his kid an asshole? No.
How harshly should you judge them for it? In that moment? Probably not very.
- Comment on Not stealing 1 week ago:
If I was going to take a kid from a stork, you think I’d take THIS one?
- Comment on Not stealing 1 week ago:
had
- Comment on Not stealing 1 week ago:
10:1 odds that neither of you currently have a toddler.
- Comment on Mark Zuckerberg freezes AI hiring amid bubble fears 1 week ago:
Maybe what you’re referring to? Over a billion over several years?
- Comment on What's your thoughts on this? 2 weeks ago:
If my goal was to try and damage the organization of groups looking to drive environmental initiatives, this is what I’d do. One of the things, anyways.
- Comment on If I stood on a precision scale and farted, would I get lighter or heavier? 2 weeks ago:
It would have to expand your abdomen slightly, assuming you don’t have access to a fourth dimension.
- Comment on The guy President Trump nominated to lead the US Bureau of Labor Statistics 2 weeks ago:
“My dad was right” - Richard Cockburn
- Comment on Shit's getting real 3 weeks ago:
Lol, yeah, THAT strategy would keep it at 99 cents.
- Comment on Sounds like a plan 3 weeks ago:
Right now my company calls it “Investing in IST”
- Comment on Need a keyboard with a dedicated "slop" button 4 weeks ago:
… Did they both involve sending weapons to Israel?
- Comment on Need a keyboard with a dedicated "slop" button 4 weeks ago:
If you want to take this one step further, it’s the the inevitable result of identity politics in general.
Once you decide to generalize away per-issue stances just to paint them “left or right”, “red or blue”, “my team your team” then it becomes trivial to make an argument that both sides are the same, or conversely that both sides are polar opposites. Whatever suits you.
Republicans and Democrats both shovelled weapons to Israel. They are thus, as a whole, identical. Indistinguishable. Republicans are erasing reproductive Rights. Democrats are trying to guarantee them. They are thus, as a whole, complete polar opposites.
Generalizing from the specific is a convenient mechanism, but error prone, and it leads to absolute trash discourse… Which in turn leads to a failure of consensus for specific demands to make during a protest.
“No Kings” isn’t realistically actionable.
- Comment on I 🖤 LaTeX 5 weeks ago:
My PhD supervisor insisted it was “Law-tex”
- Comment on I dont want to enter a contract when consuming your product.. 1 month ago:
I have completely agreed to the terms of 500 INTERNAL SERVER ERROR.
- Comment on Why are there so many german communities on Lemmy? 1 month ago:
Can confirm, I’m instinctively drawn to servers in my geographic proximity despite that being a completely opaque property of the internet like a moth to a flame
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I see it ALL the time, across MANY domains.
Language, music, golf, programming, driving, competitive gaming, etc etc.
It’s not necessarily a bad thing; it’s WAY more effort to push for improvement. Once you’ve gotten to the point where your skills are serving your needs, is that what you want to invest your finite energy into? Maybe not. God knows I’m not actively trying to improve on every skill I have. Very few. Most of my things (music, games, sport) are just to have fun. If you’re having fun you’re probably not really improving, and that’s ok.
But when people lament that they’ve hit a wall on a skill, in my experience it’s this effect, MUCH more than any other.
I think if OP reflected on their already MASSIVE achievement of becoming functional in another language, they’d likely conclude that their skills rapidly increased up until the point that they had a functional level of the skill, and then hit a plateau once they subconsciously began expending less active effort on improvement.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I think when people are learning some new skill, eventually they reach a proficiency where they stop actively working on improving. Instead, they’ll transition from “improving the skill” to “applying the skill”.
Practice does not make “perfect”. Practice makes permanent.
- Comment on The Mayor of Calgary, Canada, just received this letter 1 month ago:
Based on this I can only imagine they must have full throated support of the green line which would reduce intra-city traffic to allow for greater available capacity for provincial traffic.
- Comment on Ahem, well well 1 month ago:
I’m so far beyond the point of caring how people look at me, and so far past the point of wanting to talk to anyone.
What you’ve just described would be considered total victory.
- Comment on Ahem, well well 1 month ago:
My strategy for overcoming this is to congratulate myself out loud so they know not to answer until I’m done.
- Comment on PROGRESS 2 months ago:
Poinignant illustration of a flux capacitor
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Directly from my ass, it’s my assumption that the primary maintainers just don’t have an incentivize the cost of supporting older devices and the disparate hardware configurations.
Like, planned obscellesance or not, smartphone churn is going to happen anyways. People lose them, smash them, fall into a pool with them, decide they NEED the newer camera soldered into them, etc…
It’s not like there are old phones in a closet somewhere propping up business critical infrastructure like with computers.
The cost vs utility of maintaining forward features and security patches for a massive catalog of hardware configurations just isn’t there.
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 2 months ago:
They’re either trying to get your goat, or it’s genuine. Either way, it’s not making the world any better by bestowing upon yourself the title of judge and enforcer. You’re either taking bait or you’re a fucking cop. “Ok” is all you gotta say.
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 2 months ago:
I’m uncomfortable with the idea that the only reason that being trans is valid is because of biological factors.
If we could construct a human that came into existence without being Female at some gestational point, you gonna tell them they can’t be trans? If someone has a thyroid problem such that they their body CAN’T handle a sex hormone, you gonna tell them they can’t be trans?
I feel like we’re looking for a 9-D chess play when a 1-D play is sufficient: you say you’re trans, you’re trans.
- Comment on ‘Fake, baseless’: Israel denies Iran’s claim of downing two F-35 jets, capturing woman pilot 2 months ago:
I wouldn’t have believed it until the “fake media” comment and now I 100% do
- Comment on What in the... 2 months ago:
Glory is eternal
- Comment on "And my dick fucks your wife more than you do. What's your point?" 2 months ago:
This is right, where every other comment in this thread is wrong.
Don’t take the bait.
Even just a flat OK is better than taking the bait. Honestly, silence is better.
Do you care? Then you are poor and mad.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
In this and other similar contexts, when “it” isn’t really referring to anything specific, you can kind of consider it to be “The General State of Existence”.
It’s raining.
It’s cold.
It is what it is.
Make the best of it.
It’s Thursday.
It’s Friday.
Friday.
Gotta get down on Friday.