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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is my sister likely to be aroace? we think so but we would like a good starting point to help her on her journey.⁩ ⁨⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s not abnormal for teen girls, though. A lot of girls need to meet the right person before they develop sexual libido, even into their 20s. Instead of speculating and looking at people, she should try talking to them, making plans, going out. Does not need to be romantic, just meeting different people and seeing what kind of people you get along well with. Although modern American society really doesn’t allow kids to do that until college now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What happens if someone refuses to work in a socialist economy?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Ask your older family members. They’ve probably seen what happens.

  I saw a public housing block in Romania, where people don’t have to pay, and what is provided is not a huge improvement from being homeless. You have a concrete apartment, but there’s no heat or electricity unless you pay for it. There’s a benefits office that will make sure food is available to you, but you’re definitely not getting name brand or getting to choose what you want to eat. The area around them was blighted and isolated- no community playground, parks, or shopping areas like a typical neighborhood. The community’s medical needs were addressed by pop-up clinics run out of a van. It was definitely not a situation anyone would’ve chosen to be in if they cared about themselves.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do people in real life actually care who dates who and who is in or out of "people's leagues"?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It doesn’t work the other way, because women very rarely have any desire to exploit men for sex. There also isn’t an element of paternalism, where the man can take be a controlling influence over a woman’s life and choices. I would just assume he’s nice to her, so they have fun together.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If someone is involved in illegal stuff... like say you built a drug empire... do they every get like... therapy for all the times they have to murder someone or almost get murdered?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  fun fact, that’s the plot of the sopranos. you can’t disclose anything that’d make the therapist believe you’re a threat to yourself or others in therapy. they probably vent to their co-workers.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it the American way to complain about the US, or is it that other countries aren't worth complaining about?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Spanish people complain about Spain all the time. Very low wages. Japanese people not as much.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can people tell sex of a dog just by looking at the dog?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Usually the males are bigger and heavier, and the females are smaller and more slender. It’s relative to the breed. If you see a husky, but it’s a bit small and thin, you can safely guess it’s a girl. But if the dog is totally average and well behaved, you can’t tell.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨which job should i work? tutor or barista?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  said “you can’t just ASK someone if they hire".

  that person was dumb. asking is the only way to find out if someone is still hiring.

  being a barista could be better for your autism, because it’s scripted interactions. however, in general, you want to apply to lots of jobs. lots of other people are looking, so other people will fill the openings quickly. you just have to keep applying until someone calls you back. it’s very normal to have to submit over 100 applications before you get a job. my dad likes to call it a numbers game.

  but actually, the best way to get a job is not applying online. it’s asking the adults in your life if they know anyone who would be interested in hiring you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Oman neutral from the war?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Oman has publicly criticized the strikes on Iran, but it also has agreements to allow the US military to use its bases and ports. Iran has attacked their ports with drones for that reason, although not much. They don’t want war in their region, which is fair.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  yeah you need a bit of exposure to happy gay couples for your brain to connect the dots and go “aw, that’s sweet, they’re happy.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you feel about a 25 year old dating a 46 year old?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  At 25, you are old enough to take care of yourself and make decisions in your own best interest. Will it be perfect? Not necessarily, but you’re allowed to make mistakes in life.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a word for this sort of behavior?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  my generation’s term was “sex buddies”, personally I would call it “not a relationship”. you’ll feel better if you block him and find someone who will actually give you what you want.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it wrong of me not giving a shit when cops get killed? They signed up for the job know what it entails. Same with Firepeople. I feel bad 4 families but no one gives a shit about Nurses or DRs?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s easier to not feel bad for people when they’re suffering. If we did that, we’d feel sad all of the time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don;t most of us Americans only need like one foreign language to pass high school? Why not make it mandatory for like 3 or 4 languages?Would that not give us the upper hand when traveling?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  People do go to the Caribbean and Mexico, because they are within close travel distance. Most Americans could not afford a transatlantic vacation. You can take your whole family to Florida for a week just on the cost you’d spend on airfare going to Europe. It’s like $1000 per person per flight, 12 hour+ flight, 8+ hour time difference. A $10,000+ vacation is really not in the average American’s budget.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don;t most of us Americans only need like one foreign language to pass high school? Why not make it mandatory for like 3 or 4 languages?Would that not give us the upper hand when traveling?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Consequence of “general education”. School is only 6 hours per day. Reading, math, science, history, and gym are all required. That’s 5. Want to add health, sex ed, art, music, foreign language, programming, speech and debate, driver’s ed? The more you add, the more you have to shorten the classes. My school had a lot of curricular options, so my classes were short. If a school has less to offer, they may have longer classes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don;t most of us Americans only need like one foreign language to pass high school? Why not make it mandatory for like 3 or 4 languages?Would that not give us the upper hand when traveling?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  11 states have foreign language requirements, but really we shouldn’t even count them. A single 20-30 minute class per day is not going to achieve any proficiency in a foreign language. The only way for an American to actually achieve foreign language proficiency is to go to a 1/2 and 1/2 school.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don;t most of us Americans only need like one foreign language to pass high school? Why not make it mandatory for like 3 or 4 languages?Would that not give us the upper hand when traveling?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  most Americans don’t need any foreign language to pass high school.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How would you actually tax the ultra wealthy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  you’re assuming nothing changes. I’m assuming we increase revenues by massive amounts and actually implement social welfare policy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How would you actually tax the ultra wealthy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Flat tax on spending, flat tax on financial assets, flat tax on out of state transfers. Just no matter what anyone does with their money, it’s taxed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do movie theaters work? Which seats in theaters are the best? (never done this before) Also is the IMAX thing actually any different?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I just 3 paragraphs for nothing omg.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do movie theaters work? Which seats in theaters are the best? (never done this before) Also is the IMAX thing actually any different?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Idk… I’ve literally never been to a movie theater…

  Each one varies, but generally, movies theaters are descending down stairs. Meaning, you go in at the top, and the next row is a step down or two, and the the next row are more steps down. Then, at the bottom, there’s flat ground, and there are more seats on the flat ground closer to the screen. The very front row is ironically the worst seats in the house, because you have to crane your neck up.

  The best row is generally the last row of the steps, closest to the screen. There is typically a bar in front of it (so you don’t fall off the step). The reason it’s the best row is that it’s the closest you can get with nobody in front of you- the most direct view-. Nobody is in front of you because you’re a little higher than the seats at the bottom.

  You kind of infer where the bar is based on the layout of the map. You can see on the map, the center row where it goes from wide to narrow? That’s where I would bet the end of the steps are. You can see that’s where a bunch of people have purchased tickets already, towards the center. That’s because it’s the best place to sit.

  Once you’re in the theater, you’ll have a better idea of the layout of that theater, and you’ll be able to exactly pinpoint where you should sit next time. Just based off the layout, I would feel comfortable with either the 5th or 6th from the back row.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Lets say the Dems found a canindate with a criminal history and backed him or her who would it be or you like to be? Taking a page from Republican playbook.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  civil disobedience would be a good one. So, Pramila Jayapal? I’m not familiar with her. I’m just skimming her wiki and it looks good. Objected to Trump’s 2016 win in her district, supports Palestine+Kashmir+Ukraine, supports universal healthcare. at least politically it looks like she could be a national candidate. ofc only being a house rep is a problem. the big players don’t care about her at all.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don;t more presidents put stuff to a national referendum like Clinton did a couple times? A person would get time off work to vote, show what americans actually want and so on.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You’d need to be a very popular president to do that and not embarrass yourself.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do pot or other drug dealers "lace" their drugs knowing full well it will pretty much kill their customer base and rep? Is this not like a retail store telling customers everyday FUCK YOU and hope⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  it is cheaper. allegedly it also increases the effect time of the drug. fentanyl is very powerful but also very short-lasting by itself. in a hospital setting, it would always be used in a very small dose combined with other sedatives.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I use green and brown pretty much interchangeably. They’re both more chewy and have a more defined taste. I think the green are a little more savory and the brown can be a little more peppery, but that may just depend on the stock you have access to. They’re good in long cooking stews or bolognese. I like the brown in lentil salad. Split lentils have a lighter taste and cook faster. Red split lentils are good for a quick soup, chili, or pancake/lentil omelet. You can always make a dal, dal is always amazing. I never regret dal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Was just watching THE Newsroom Clip. Does JD still hold water? Or have we gone way past that? But in your opinion what if anything makes America great???⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We’re still the most wealthy country per capita in the world. We just distribute that wealth in the most moronic method imaginable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do pot or other drug dealers "lace" their drugs knowing full well it will pretty much kill their customer base and rep? Is this not like a retail store telling customers everyday FUCK YOU and hope⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  fentanyl is now being cut with xylazine/tranq, a horse tranquilizer. it makes people OD like fentanyl but narcan does nothing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My local jail removed the library a decade ago. Regular inmates only have access to tablets for media, that they must pay for. Only people kept in the SHU/on punishment, who are denied their tablets, are given physical books, and the selection is trash. If you have a contact with someone there, I would trust them, but if your area has a non-profit that works with the jail, you could get an unbiased take by talking to that person.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Okay... so how do depressed people even have relationships? Did they get depresion after they already got into the relationship or did they actually went dating while having depression?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m dealing with short term stress (law school work) that is causing some depressive feelings, but seeing new guy is the only thing that makes me relaxed and happy. it’s basically an intentional decision to turn the other parts of my brain off and not worry about what’s stressing me out.

  however, when I was super deeply depressed, no I could not have managed a relationship.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is school cafeteria food in America trash?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  it’s really terrible from an adult’s perspective. like frozen food dinners but worse, because it’s only for kids. but kids don’t actually know any better. they will actually look forward to some of it, even though as an adult you wouldn’t be able to enjoy it.

  it’s not up to the kid though. it’s up to the parent. in the US both parents work, so if mom is too exhausted from work, you’re going to have to buy food.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hypothetically, if a Black Millionaire had their home broken into by a poor White person, how much danger is there of the Black Millionaire getting shot by cops "by mistake"?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Victims getting shot by the police happens regularly to non-rich people in regular homes. I would say the risk is at least less than normal, because rich neighborhoods can afford better police services. However, it’s still definitely not zero and is definitely much higher than for white people.