You need your partner to do more foreplay.
First a lot of cunnilingus until you’re dripping wet. Then one finger until you beg for a second. Then as many fingers until the thickness of the penis. Finally, even if it takes am hour, the penis.
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disregardable@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
For me, it hurts at first, but my body builds up lubrication after insertion. He goes gentle and slow for a bit until it feels good for me. For me, I would characterize my pleasure from as kind of comparable to my pleasure from eating. In general I love sex. Not every meal is a Michelin star. Sometimes it is, just absolutely amazing and fulfills my every need. Sometimes it’s just reliable and hits the spot real quick, like a peanut butter sandwich. Rarely, something is a bit off, and it’s not that great.
But it’s not normal for me to suffer. I stops hurting, it feels good, and I want it.
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IEatCeleryAt7Degrees@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Thanks. How do you push yourself past the phase where the pain makes your eyes blur and water? I get to about just over an inch up and that’s when I’ll be screaming to stop because it hurts too much. And that was with loads of lubrication. Is there anything I can do to increase my pain tolerance down there? I want to make sure he’s happy.
disregardable@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
That doesn’t happen. Like, it has never hurt that much. You’re going to need to seek treatment for vaginismus.
Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 3 days ago
That’s not normal, go see a gynecologist.
breezeblock@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
You’re not “making a big deal” — what’s happening to you is real — is also real that this doesn’t happen to everyone. What you’re feeling is not universal.
Carl@anarchist.nexus 3 days ago
You may be dealing with vaginismus, which is a condition where the vaginal muscles involuntarily tense up in anticipation of insertion. It can make sex (or any other kinds of insertion, like tampons or pelvic exams) extremely painful, because you’re stretching the tensed muscles the same way a muscle cramp would.
It’s largely considered a psychological condition, because it is typically based on anxiety surrounding the insertion. And that anxiety can quickly become self-perpetuating, as pain from insertion will likely cause future anxiety. Therapy (and practice) can help alleviate that anxiety, which can alleviate the tensed muscles, which alleviates the pain.
isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
Have you tried using a set of medical dilators?