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- Comment on My mom tells me I should cut dad off for cheating on her, am I a bad person for not wanting to do so? 5 weeks ago:
You can turn this around as well. Their mom asking them to stop having contact with their father is her choosing to take away their father from them. If that’s what she wants to do…
Children should not be pulled into the relationship problems of their parents. The parents are the ones who chose to have a child together, they are the ones who have to deal with the consequences of that.
- Comment on how do I stop being a sucker for alcoholic stuff on sale? 5 weeks ago:
I’m in no way qualified to judge whether this classifies as being an alcoholic. But I think you certainly have an unhealthy relationship to alcohol or at least beer. It’s not really “normal” (sorry, I don’t know how to phrase it better) to think so much about a beverage.
The same goes for food, actually. And at least there it doesn’t automatically equal excessive consumption, sometimes it’s the opposite, either anorexia or even focusing on a healthy diet. The point is that the healthy default state is to not obsess about it too much.
Out of curiosity, have you tried alcohol-free beer? There are really good ones out there and maybe trying some could help you determine whether it’s actually the alcohol or more the “beer equals good time” aspect that drives you.
- Comment on What is the definition of concurrent vs cumulative? 1 month ago:
If you want to start a new line, you can either type the spaces at the end of the line or a backslash. I think it should work on all clients, but I’m not sure.
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2 - Comment on Do you wish a Happy Mother's Day to your friends who are mothers or just to those in your own family? 1 month ago:
I don’t even wish my mother a happy mother’s day, because whenever mother’s day is brought up she rants about how it was made big by florists and the Nazis (this is actually true for Germany). She is a great mother though and she knows I think so.
- Comment on The inconsistent naming for insert row/columns in the German MS Office 2 months ago:
In German, Teams used to show people as “kostenlos” which does mean “free” but in the sense of “free of charge”, not “available”. They fixed it eventually but it caused much confusion with people asking if there are times when the calls are not free of charge.
My personal Teams translation highlight was a hint explaining to me how I could reorder a list. It said “Nachbestellung hier”. Which again does mean “reorder here” but reorder as in the thing you do when you buy the same thing again, a repeat order.
- Comment on The inconsistent naming for insert row/columns in the German MS Office 2 months ago:
And apparently the shortcut key r doesn’t stand for rechts (right) but for insert. Which is not only English but also the one thing all of those for options have in common.
- Comment on Songs about Git 2 months ago:
Fetch it, pull it, stash it, pop it, add it, branch it, merge-commit it
Technolo-git
- Comment on What’s your favourite international, non-Anglo/English series? 2 months ago:
I quite enjoyed the first two seasons of La Casa de Papel (Money Heist). I don’t know, if I would go so far as to call it my favourite though, because I also quickly lost interest afterwards. It’s just the first that came into my head when I read the question.
- Comment on Why is a two-party system considered democratic? 3 months ago:
I think it does make a difference. When the parties are voted for before forming the coalition, you know exactly how many people supported them and their policies. Then the coalition is negotiated based on that. If you form the coalition first, then only the majorities inside the coalition matter for who has the most say, you have no way of knowing what’s important to the voters.
- Comment on I have an entire cabinet currently storing empty jars... 4 months ago:
No, I need more empty jars! What else should I put in all those neat empty boxes I collected?
- Comment on how do I show a coworker that I care about her after her mother died? 5 months ago:
If it was one of my coworkers I would offer them to come to me if they either need someone to talk to or need a distraction. For example going on a walk during our break or go get some food together, though these may not be applicable to your workplace.
- Comment on Does an international porn site like Pornhub take accents into account with their algorithm? Does an Australian watching Pornhub porn tend to get more porn with Australian accents than an American? 7 months ago:
Wdym? IDNWFP is a commonly used. I personality use it almost every day.
- Comment on Does an international porn site like Pornhub take accents into account with their algorithm? Does an Australian watching Pornhub porn tend to get more porn with Australian accents than an American? 7 months ago:
Probably, because it would put you in a group with other Australians and I’m sure they take any data they can get that can be used for localisation into account since preferences are influenced by location. But being in that group would only give you more Australian accents if that is something the data shows the group is into.
Or maybe they also take the upload location of the video into account.
- Comment on Does an international porn site like Pornhub take accents into account with their algorithm? Does an Australian watching Pornhub porn tend to get more porn with Australian accents than an American? 7 months ago:
IDNWFP (I do not work for Pornhub) but usually such algorithms are not that explicit. They don’t create rules and then come up with an algorithm to match these rules. They throw in a lot of data, do some statistics and then end up with a black box that makes the numbers go brrrrrr. So the answer is likely that Australians will get more porn with Australian accents if that is something a group the algorithm put them into likes.
- Comment on Percentages 7 months ago:
Having two possible outcomes does not mean it’s a 50:50 chance.
“So if I aim the arrow at the 1cm square from 100m away and shoot, I either hit it or I don’t. So basically I have a 50% chance of hitting it.”
- Comment on Should Germany aquire nuclear weapons? 7 months ago:
There are far right extremists on the rise in Germany as well. The question you should ask yourself is: Do you want to risk an AfD-lead, Putin-loving, Euro- and NATO-critic government being in control of those nuclear weapons?
- Comment on Intruder 7 months ago:
There’s a huge difference between defending yourself and mocking a person you just hurt.
- Comment on Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name? 7 months ago:
To all the people here arguing that it’s easier to have a family name, especially with children: It’s also possible that the husband takes the wife’s name. But from anecdotal evidence in my acquaintance, most men are very opposed to this idea. So if the woman wants a family name she has to change her name or have endless fights about it. That’s why most women I know did it.
- Comment on What do zoos do with dead animals? 7 months ago:
I think I remember some years ago a zoo fed a dead giraffe to the lions and people went absolutely insane about it. I’m not sure about the details anymore, they might have killed it because there wasn’t enough room in the zoo for it? Either way I didn’t get it, what do they think the lions are fed any other day? Animals that weren’t killed explicitly to become food? Some cows that couldn’t bear existence on this world anymore and offered themselves as lion food? Where is the difference?
- Comment on An absolute bargain! 7 months ago:
I recently learned about bourdaloues. I wonder how many of them had a second life as a gravy boat.
- Comment on Question me not 8 months ago:
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P ^I - Comment on Does drinking coffee reduce the amount of nutrients absorbed from prior meals? 8 months ago:
Coffee can reduce how much iron get’s absorbed. This doesn’t have anything to do with the caffeine and the resulting stimulation though, but with something in the coffee binding the receptors or something like that. Don’t know if this happens with other nutrients as well.
- Comment on Do birds get fat in fall? 8 months ago:
Mostly puffing up their feathers. On warm days they are suddenly smaller again.
- Comment on If Donald Trump was black, would he have made it this far in politics? 9 months ago:
I’m not from the US and while, thanks to the internet, I probably know more about Trump’s scandals and crimes than is necessary or reasonable for anyone only indirectly affected by his actions, I’m sure I’ve only scratched the surface. Especially since, as you said, you really have to put in an effort to keep track of all of them.
So I’m just observing from afar and constantly amazed by every new detail I stumble upon.
- Comment on If Donald Trump was black, would he have made it this far in politics? 9 months ago:
Trump initially avoided any comment about the Bonwit Teller artwork. But John Baron, a spokesperson with the Trump Organization, contacted the New York Daily News to discuss the situation. Baron informed the Daily News that “the merit of the stones was not great enough to justify the effort to save them.” Baron stated that the removal process could have set back Trump Tower’s construction timeline by two weeks. Baron also told the New York Times that he had no idea what happened to the ornate grillwork.
Long after Baron’s initial contact, the New York Daily News learned that John Baron was actually Donald Trump, in disguise.WTF?
- Comment on Does a list of lemmy instance and main language exist? 10 months ago:
Many instances are mixed language. Feddit.org for example is mainly German communities for now but is officially a German/English instance and one of the largest communities is c/Europe, which is in English. Blocking whole instances will block many English communities as well. Though I get that that might be an acceptable trade-off to get rid of a flood of posts you don’t understand.
It’s a shame the language selection doesn’t work on many apps.
- Comment on Where can I find rings with extremely rounded edges and half cylinders stacked above a flat band? 11 months ago:
I don’t really understand your description and I’m guessing that’s the reason for the downvotes. What do you mean by (half) cylinder? Maybe you could try adding a sketch of what you mean?
- Comment on Stop making short men feel miserable at clubs! 11 months ago:
You don’t get it, they are only sluts when they are giving other men attention. When they are giving OP attention, they are graceful, heavenly creatures (who should also give him some sex).
- Comment on Why is it a common insult for someone to say they slept with your mom? 11 months ago:
In my opinion the reason it’s supposedly insulting is rooted in misogyny. A woman is the property of her male relatives. When someone sleeps with her without the permission of these relatives, he uses their property without permission, demonstrating his power over them.
I do realise that many people use this insult because it’s just something you say. But I think it’s worth reflecting about what it actually is you are saying.