zephorah
@zephorah@lemm.ee
- Comment on I cheat on as many people as I want to 2 days ago:
I don’t understand open relationships, but in that scenario, there’s trust and agreement.
The men who throw out this biological, primate imperative argument without that relationship contract are just jerks. Breakers of people and trust.
- Comment on I cheat on as many people as I want to 2 days ago:
There are people who agree not to be monogamous, but as it’s within the relationship contract, so to speak, it remains a relationship. I don’t personally understand it, but I don’t have to. We have two couples who are friends, via history, married right out of high school, who’ve lived like this for decades. It works for them because they’re honest and open about it, and it’s mutually agreed upon.
Any deviation from the honest, open, discussed, and mutually agreed upon, and you’re little more than a destructive asshole.
One is cheating and the other is not.
- Comment on The road they drove to dump this trash literally takes to the landfill 1 week ago:
As the squeeze continues, the trash dumps will increase. It costs money to dump trash appropriately. Out of all the utilities, trash pickup will likely be sacrificed first. This isn’t an endorsement.
- Comment on What period was the "golden age" of TV in terms of content? 1 week ago:
As part of the “Star Wars” generation, it feels like now. Star Trek used to be the only scifi on TV. Then Babylon 5 for a bit. XFiles. Sci fi wasn’t common. Now, scifi is everywhere. Something new pops up fairly regularly and I appreciate that quite a lot.
- Comment on There Is No ‘Energy Emergency,’ a New Lawsuit Claims | In suit, 15 Dem states called Trump’s declaration illegal & federal agencies are rushing permits for fossil fuel projects under false pretenses 1 week ago:
There’s probably a data center or three in waiting behind this.
- Comment on Why do we tolerate it that Luigi Mangione is being held in prison. We know its absolutely the least safe place he can be? 2 weeks ago:
True. I think even if he gets off, they’ll kill him. Remember all the whistleblower deaths in 2024? Like that.
- Comment on After Federal Cuts, Food Banks Scrounge and Scrimp 3 weeks ago:
“Protein malnutrition” is becoming far too common a diagnosis already, the last two years or so. I’d love to look up some stats on it but I’m not sure those will even be available going forward, given the state of research right now.
- Comment on woolly mice is bioweapon 5 weeks ago:
That’s what I’m wondering. I’m also wondering why he’s tweeting what he’s tweeting.
- Comment on good morning bitches 5 weeks ago:
The wiki link said he went to prison and is forbidden from practicing. Why is he tweeting this while wearing the proverbial white lab coat?
- Comment on women are the devil 5 weeks ago:
Not if we’re quietly having babies and keeping house.
Only 50 years has passed since a good effort has been made to make us equal under the law and people are still losing their damn minds. This is the minor side of it, the rise of the far right is the worst of it.
I anticipate MAGA going full force on declining birth rates once their done with their sledgehammers and bank account fill ups. Trump probably cleaned out Fort Knox.
- Comment on A terrible guide to the terrible terminology of U.S. Health Insurance 1 month ago:
Coinsurance. You want a plan that includes none of this.
- Comment on Switch 2 preorders delayed over Trump tariff uncertainty 1 month ago:
What’s uncertain? He’s solidifying income for the executive branch sans congress. And thus gutting congressional power over the executive branch before midterms.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I strongly encourage you to at least scratch the surface on human memory data.
- Comment on What phones are the government people using that are supposedly secure enough to discuss war plans? iPhone? Android? Some special custom-made phone specifically for the government? 1 month ago:
They’re using Signal so nothing is recorded.
Basically there’s a government transparency mandate by We The People. It’s why info gets released to the press and eventually things like the JFK assassination are released years later. It’s why everything the president writes or says is recorded. Because, in theory, they work for We The People and have to answer to us. They can’t do that if no one knows what they’re up to.
Trump admin says, fuck that, fuck We The People, we will now use an end to end encrypted service that cannot be effectively subpoenaed. What we do is our secret, so no one knows what we are up to.
As a messaging service Signsl is as secure and private as the people using it. You want privacy you use WIRE or Signal. Your stuff isn’t recorded on a database like Facebook Messenger, for later subpoenas, it’s just poof, gone, as you delete it. You can even time delete it for everyone in chat after a few minutes, an hour, a week, etc.
As for the phones themselves, I don’t know. In general terms, out of the box, Apple is more secure than android but neither is private, unless the feds get a telemetry removal package or some such which would make sense. GrapheneOS on an Android device (strips all telemetry including that map app) is how we laymen do it.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Another basic demonstration on why oversight by a human brain is necessary.
A system rooted in pattern recognition that cannot recognize the basic two column format of published and printed research papers
- Comment on Trump supporter Rick Fuze was arrested in CA for using a stun gun on peaceful protesters outside a Tesla dealership. The woman kicking this guy’s ass is a retired professor with 16,000 citations. 1 month ago:
She’s medically trained, so she knows where to hit him. In addition, there’s a lack of barrier to entering the physical space of strangers and physically touching them just in general. That barrier almost doesn’t exist for medical. The rest of the world, middle of the bell curve, hesitates.
And if she’s done direct patient care at any point in her career, there’s a good chance she has no patience left for shenanigans.
- Comment on What are some slow acting poisons? 1 month ago:
Heavy metals in artists’ oil paints.
You can always dig into true crime, see what methods are used to kill husbands.
Check out ChubbyEmu on YouTube. He’s a pharmacist who presents strange and interesting medical stories (with dramatic re-enactments) involving unusual chemical exposures that damage and sometimes kill people. Examples: soda, coconut water from a bad coconut, a fermented soup, ivermectin ordered online, lab chemicals stolen by a student and given to a disliked roommate, and so on. Maybe something there will inspire you. ChubbyEmu does a good job of breaking down complex medical into an easily digestible format.
- Comment on Assassin's Creed Shadows | Review Thread 2 months ago:
The challenge side quests. I could not pursue them in full. Not that the speed runs didn’t have enjoyment, it was just too much. And the brother was both irrational and grating to deal with for that long.
The Mirage info is simultaneously reassuring and infuriating. The latter for money reasons given probable content expectations after Odyssey and Valhalla.
- Comment on Assassin's Creed Shadows | Review Thread 2 months ago:
Loved Odyssey and Origins was quite good. Valhalla was too long, too much. Granted I’ve never been into the Thor/Odin pantheon like some people, Tom Middleton’s Loki being the exception. The sheer amount of game (completionist) made me not want to engage Mirage or Shadows.
Aside from that general opinion, AC games are usually spot on for people who can only ingest 2hrs at a time, like it’s their daily or bi-daily TV binge allotment.
- Comment on "You should probably just throw it away" 2 months ago:
Infuriating for sure. People can’t afford groceries or rent and Microsoft chooses to ride in with a, by the way, your computer needs to go, just buy a new one, k?
- Comment on Dunning-Kruger 2 months ago:
Art has weight that influences the human psyche. Let the man work.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
‘Eau’ and ‘oi’ are the best I can do with that mess. Or a whole tray dump.
- Comment on The billionaires and politicians did it 2 months ago:
There’s no mystery. If the workers don’t punch up in unison corporate will maintain the same wages they ever have. Up until COVID happened, there were nurses working on the same wage scales as 2003. Techs and aides fared no better. Outlandish and difficult to believe that is the only type of hourly wage worker who has experienced this gross level of stagnation in wages.
- Comment on That's why it's called science fiction duh 2 months ago:
COVID was somehow the visceral turning point. Variations on visitor restrictions in hospitals still exist since then due to the extraordinary and amazing displays of bad behavior from that time.
People could always behave badly. Direct care staff, as one example, have been wearing panic buttons linked directly to security and calling a violence code over the announcement system, since around 2015 on the medical side of things.
But COVID was a severe escalation point. Families screaming in hallways that the diagnoses was “fake news” or part of the hospitals “corporate conspiracy” escalating to the point of pulling medical equipment off their loved ones, who could not breathe without that medical equipment.
Behaviors that could potentially kill people wrapped up in an inexorable belief that science was lying. No trust of medical personnel who are there to help whatever the system around them contrives to do with care.
While the behaviors are not like COVID times any more, there’s a residual skepticism of, well, everything since that time. Sadly, one that is preyed upon by politics to keep us fighting one another instead of punching up.
Forgive me, maybe “punching up” is now a ban-worthy turn of phrase.
- Comment on The landlord special 2 months ago:
LLCs are licensed. As such, the owner(s) is on public record which means you track this on a .gov site. Some of these guys, as in a single real estate guy, will have a page or two of the LLC flips including land purchases fof $10 between their own LLCs.
- Comment on The landlord special 2 months ago:
Oh how I wish that were a given.
- Comment on The landlord special 2 months ago:
And that’s the primary problem with the new triple contractor rates, House quality is going to severely decline in the next 10yrs as people try to do everything themselves because professional home repair has become grossly unaffordable.
I’ve been repairing and home owning for over 25 yrs. I make more money and can no longer easily afford home repair the last 3 yrs. As such, I shudder the think of what garbage is being done in homes with no capacity to afford the new higher rates right now. Even a box of construction screws and a can of paint is crazy expensive now.
- Comment on The landlord special 2 months ago:
As a homeowner I’m more convinced this is the quality of contractors these days. For triple pre-2020 prices.
- Comment on uhh… my ex girlfriend and long-time friend is now cishet, very christian, and makes those “i identify as” jokes regarding trans people. would it end up bad for me if i continued to be her friend? 2 months ago:
This is always a personal choice.
Bear in mind you do yourself a disservice by believing rag headlines (common dreams, daily beast, new republic, etc) in an echo chamber. Talking to people who don’t agree with you will tell you more about present politics, in terms of what the “other guy” is thinking. It’s also an opportunity to pick things apart in chill discussions and find the point where you digress instead of assuming.
Flippant remarks are typically engaged in areas people haven’t spent time or mental resources on. They’re more likely to be verbal passcodes for a social group. You could find out. Where the jokes stop is usually the more viscerally believed area.
Or maybe that’s just me who has an interest in that sort of thing. That said, you can encounter people you start to sway with reasonable discussion based in listening to everything they want to say who then get angry, yell that they can’t talk to you any more, who then simply go away.
To be fair I have all the energy in the world for strangers because they’re often 1-4 encounters and done. In my personal life, I have the energy and wherewithal to maintain 1, and that is probably only because they’re my closest genetic link.
- Comment on Tried to watch The French Connection... 😠 2 months ago:
I believe The French Connection is the movie that started the current script for car chases.
Another Hackman movie worth your time is The Royal Tennenbaums.
All of that said, someone around here can probably dm a way to watch for free.