Comment on I cheat on as many people as I want to
zephorah@lemm.ee 2 days agoThere are people who agree not to be monogamous, but as it’s within the relationship contract, so to speak, it remains a relationship. I don’t personally understand it, but I don’t have to. We have two couples who are friends, via history, married right out of high school, who’ve lived like this for decades. It works for them because they’re honest and open about it, and it’s mutually agreed upon.
Any deviation from the honest, open, discussed, and mutually agreed upon, and you’re little more than a destructive asshole.
One is cheating and the other is not.
vrek@programming.dev 2 days ago
I always viewed relationships as a matter of trust. The difficult part of being cheated on isn’t knowing another dick has been in that pussy or another pussy has been around that dick. In most cases that has happened before you ever got together. The difficult part is the doubts. “is she really staying late for work?” “is he helping a friend move or moving her organs around?” “is she not responding because she’s busy or because she is fucking” those questions are what’s hard. Then “well if they lied about that what else are they lying about?”
It’s all about trust. Once you cheat you break that trust. I even told my partner if she was honest about it, it wouldn’t be a big deal. If she lied then she is dead to me forever.
Pringles@lemm.ee 2 days ago
I agree. By cheating you break the contract of blindly trusting each other and you can never trust a partner who cheated again. That’s why I don’t understand people who start a serious relationship with someone who is still in another relationship. You have a known cheater right from the start. Why would you do that to yourself?
I actually only know one relationship personally that started like that where they are still together (almost 12 years now). But in that case the girl had already made up her mind but hadn’t gotten around breaking up with her high school sweetheart yet.