wjrii
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- Comment on Filter feeder behavior 4 days ago:
In case you wanted to know, he’s a former executive for the NFL’s Tennessee Titans.
- Comment on If you don't own one you will never understand it 5 days ago:
We lost our older guy a couple of weeks ago, and he hated them, as did our three other dogs over the last twenty years. The younger one and the new puppy didn’t seem to care that much, only getting a little jittery when we were outside and a particularly loud one went off.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
3, but the pajamas erasure here is unfortunate.
- Comment on I'm all for ingenuity. 1 week ago:
Sorry, I’ve just seen this one often enough and seen the comments that I may have assumed too much. I’ll take my downvotes.
- Comment on I'm all for ingenuity. 1 week ago:
Yeah, yeah, stupid fat maga, whatever. Looks like they’ve both got a pretty big batch of laundry, and looking at the totality of the picture these are not likely to be wealthy people, and it being rural/suburban America, lord knows how far the laundromat is. This strikes me as unironically clever, and they’re both keeping that mower deck out of the landfill and travelling using electric power.
- Comment on The new new testament 1 week ago:
Looks like Teenjus to me.
- Comment on Feels like something this community would like to know 1 week ago:
Barelypoops Cacalags
- Comment on Be honest whose actually working today and who is goofing off 1 week ago:
Lawyer, engineer, or consultant? LOL, are you McKinsey advising Warner/Discovery?!?!?
- Comment on But I am mighty!! 2 weeks ago:
…and Florida, and Jamaica, and Mexico, and (I presume) Spain. There is no corner of the earth in which the English will not challenge the mighty Helios until they are as red as the cross of St. George.
- Comment on Palpable Nonsense! 2 weeks ago:
What are we going to do tonight, Brain?!
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
If it’s within your means, could y’all take a long trip out that way?
This is a very good idea, again, if you have means, though it’s probably not absurd if he’s looking to buy. AirBnB’s in Wyoming aren’t super common, but there are options, and frankly most of them are probably “easy mode” in the sense that they’re close to SOMETHING. Get a feel for what it would be like to be stuck there doing your shopping, finding something to eat, finding something to do. Drive to the nearest hospital, then imagine doing it frequently or while in a lot of pain.
Maybe it will be fine, even for ten or fifteen years, but you’re absolutely right to take this one slow and be wary. I know Massachusetts is pretty built up, but it’s not fully paved. Have you floated the idea of moving another 20-30 minutes farther out and finding a little patch of ground? Or doing something SUPER crazy like moving to New Hampshire? 🤣
As another alternative, if he’s determined to have mountains, something just outside Denver or even, sigh, Salt Lake City would blunt some of the biggest issues. Wyoming has almost literally nothing. Cheyenne metro has around 100k people, smaller than Lowell, MA.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
As everyone else has said, this is a pretty normal hangup, and if it’s really where you plan to live for the foreseeable future, only time will wear down the edges of that anxiety. It sounds like your parents raised you to be very open and you have an honest relationship with them and open invitation to live with them until you find a path that takes you elsewhere. Frankly, that’s great. My own daughter is a pre-teen but honestly I think we’re on a fairly similar path, but that’s more because it’s what feels like the right thing to do and the right way to treat someone, compared to the arbitrarily rigid households my wife and I grew up in. It doesn’t make make it magically not-alien.
It’s only been a month and he likely grew up in a different style of household. Honestly, in the US at least, the communities that most commonly do multi-generational living are very much not the ones okay with unmarried partners staying over. That’s a pretty significant cultural disconnect, and it’s going to be a while before he gets over it and truly believes that your parents are as okay with it as you claim. It’s probably going to require them to be almost comically over the top about it being okay (which has its own social hazards, LOL), or else it’s going to require baby steps. A trip together could help, as someone else mentioned. Or, a movie night that runs long and he stays in a spare bedroom. Eventually, with exposure and with a relationship between the two of you that proves to be solid over time, he may come to feel that it’s less awkward or disrespectful. He might also be a bit (overly?) self-conscious about the slight age difference in front of people whose primary job over the last 20 years has been keeping you safe.
So yeah, he’s sort of bringing his hangups into the relationship in a way you likely find frustrating, but I wouldn’t worry about it, certainly not until it’s been a good bit longer. It’s a common thing, coming from an honest place (and as mentioned, anxiety+expectations could create a lot of issues around the very intimacy you want to promote). In the meantime, it’s fairly easy to work around, especially since you do have the kind of relationship with your parents that makes staying at his place unremarkable. Eventually, yes, he should grow to trust you and your parents enough to believe you all when you say it’s fine, and if that’s still not enough then to have the kind of open conversation with you as his partner to understand why it’s not going to happen. For now, just keep doing things to make him comfortable at your place, but for the most part I’d let this one go.
- Comment on Lamp. 2 weeks ago:
As someone who grew up in the exact window of dysfunction that makes the movie relatable but not triggering, I agree.
- Comment on More orders of magnitude, please. 2 weeks ago:
Reception is a little fuzzy.
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- Comment on Why is U2 considered "grunge?" 3 weeks ago:
If I bowed out early, would that make me a Dik?
- Comment on Drake Hogestyn's 'Days of Our Lives' Character Dies 8 Months After Actor's Death: 'Hardest Day Ever,' Says Deidre Hall 4 weeks ago:
It got demoted from OTA television to Peacock a few years ago so grannies would make their families sign up, but it’s “one of the longest-running scripted television programs in the world, airing nearly every weekday since November 8, 1965.”
American daytime soaps are a trip, like a fever dream of live-ish theater and clickbait before there was clicking. They even have/had “understudies” who would play a part for a few days if the real actor was sick or between contracts. One summer as a kid in the 80s, I watched The Young and the Restless with my mom, but by the end of it I could sort of tell that there was no end, just churn, and since the flimsy accouterments of rich grown-up drama didn’t inherently appeal to me, I moved on. Now I pretend that Star Wars and team sports aren’t basically the same thing, LOL. The soaps are absolutely impressive in their way, though.
- Comment on Winging it 4 weeks ago:
The part where the baby shoves their hand in your face when you can’t do anything about it is actually pretty accurate. The face you then make as the grown-up is also spot on.
- Comment on Shamelessly stolen and posted here for y'all 5 weeks ago:
Don Perlin on pencils. I originally thought John Romita Sr, but yeah, that jawline is a bit too dashing.
- Comment on Why is lemmy so political?! 5 weeks ago:
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- Comment on You know a guy that works there purposely positioned that price sticker so the letters "f" turned into "T" 5 weeks ago:
Also, ngl, that’s pretty solid freehand sign routing.
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- Comment on Please do not the horse 5 weeks ago:
It’s implied in the music.
- Comment on Shookith 5 weeks ago:
My kiddo had a brief phase of watching these. They’re quite bad, but when cheap CGI cartoons result in plasticky textures and unnatural movement, I have to admit that using it on Barbie of all things is low-key clever.
- Comment on Delicious 5 weeks ago:
The old ZAZ movies were great because they knew to hang the constant gags on a plot that, threadbare as it was, made it a silly movie and not a tedious collection of parody sketches where the actors just don’t bother changing costumes.
- Comment on what’s the difference between “he died” and “he’s dead”? 5 weeks ago:
The easy example is to think in terms of chatting with a Christian: Jesus died, but Jesus is not dead.
- Comment on Thoughts? 1 month ago:
- Comment on No looky for you! 1 month ago:
Jack Donaghy approves.
- Comment on Forbidden Tech 1 month ago:
Yup. American Christmas lights basically ARE very thin extension cords with the bulbs (hopefully) wired in parallel. Back in the day they were pretty much all incandescent and in series, and a single burned out bulb meant everything went out and Junior got a joyous new holiday chore!
