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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I hate that that happens⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I still feel like the nouns are in the wrong place when I read this.

  I’m reading it as “New York cows new York cows bully bully New York cows”

  When I want it to read “New York cows bully new York cows” which would be “Buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo” which isn’t enough buffalo.

  I have to inset my own “that” to be able to get my head around “Buffalo buffalo (that) Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Clever, clever⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes and no, applying for accommodations is as fun and easy as pulling out your own teeth with a rubber chicken.

  It took months to get the paperwork organised and the conversations started around accommodations I needed for my disability, I realised halfway through I had to simplify what I was asking for and just deal with some less than accessible issues because the process of applying for disability accommodations was not accessible and I was getting rejected for simple requests like “can I reserve a seat in the front row because I can’t get up the stairs, and I can’t get there early because I need to take the service elevator to get to the lecture hall, so I’m always waiting on the security guard”

  My teachers knew I had a physical disability and had mobility accommodations, some of them knew that the condition I had also caused a degree of sensory disability, but I had nothing formal on the paperwork about my hearing and vision loss because I was able to self manage with my existing tools.

  I didn’t need my teachers to do anything differently so I didn’t see the point in delaying my education and putting myself through the bureaucratic stress of applying for visual accommodations when I didn’t need them to be provided to me from the university itself.

  Obviously if I’d gotten a result of “you cheated” I’d immediately get that paperwork in to prove I didn’t cheat, my voice over reader just gave me the ChatGPT instructions and I didn’t realise it wasn’t part of the assignment… But that could take 3-4 months to finalise the accommodation process once I become aware that there is a genuine need to have that paperwork in place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should you trust that doctor?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  He’s also much less racist!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  And if my yeasty poison goes bad, I’ll just pour it over some poisonous leaves, I love salad.

  Don’t forget to season it with minerals you chipped off a rock in a dried out lake bed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'd have to hear her argument, but...⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, worst case scenario stock prices for probiotic yoghurt would increase.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Goodwill is out of control⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is a common misconception with “charity shops” in the UK and “opportunity (op) shops” in Australia.

  The assumption is that the charity/opportunity is for people doing it tough to be able to buy cheap clothes and home goods.

  But the “charity” is because many shops like this are partner retailers of larger charity organisations, eg: the “profit” from Salvos stores helps indirectly fund Salvation Army Housing and food relief programs.

  The opportunity comes from who they hire, if you’re disabled or elderly, these shops are more likely to hire you than other retail providers.

  But of course, a large number of charity and op shops abuse their staff as much as Amazon and Walmart do. Wage theft and unethical labour practices galore

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fead⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Where does this this linguistically phenomenon come from?

  Is it a mistaken use of “an accident” with the preposition to reflect the personal involvement?

  Mistakes like “Could of” make sense to me because in my accent “could of” and “could’ve” are identically voiced.

  I can also completly understand where we get “alot” because alot is just the beginning of an acorn, minus a few hundred years of lazy pronunciation behind it (an oak corn =acorn)

  Google is telling me it’s because younger people will use “on accident” as an antonym for “on purpose”. That sounds feesible as an origin. Now I’m questioning if “by intent” is grammatically correct, I’ve been staring at words too long.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The 1900s⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I managed to go all of 22-28 never once being carded for anything.

  When I hit 30 I started getting carded for things I’d never been carded for before, even the milk bar I’d bought smokes at for 10 years, same guy and his son running it, suddenly started carding me.

  That’s how I learned the ID that I’d been carrying around for 10-11 years since getting my photo ID in highschool was functionally useless, because hardly anywhere would accept it as legal ID despite it being legal ID.

  I had to keep the website for the government list of ID boolmarkef so I could show doubtful cashiers that my ID was indeed federally accepted, legal and valid ID.

  I went to try and get a different type of ID last year which is how it found out that despite being born in my country to a citizen of my country, and having my birth recorded and receiving my birth certificate. Somehow I’m not actually a citizen of my own country and I can’t get a passport…so I’m trying to navigate that system but that’s extra fun and confusing because I have neurodevelopmental issues and no one to help me understand what I need to to do.

  I just want to be able to buy alcohol as a person in their 30s, without having to jump through impossible hoops to prove that I’m not not 17.

  I’ve got smile lines and the beginnings of crows feet, I am weathered! Why am it getting carded now

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨50% survival rate⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It helps that I’d had several previous surgeries, so I’d had practice at keeping my cool. Plus my surgeon was in discussion with me for months with multiple consultations to really understand the issue, I don’t think I could have possibly been in safer hands.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨50% survival rate⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well either it’s 1 in 10,0000 in my country, or the department of health, my surgeon and GP are all missing a zero… which isn’t more likely because there’s no way our risk would be that much higher than the UK, and the NHS public health resources is 100,000.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ok boomer⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I genuinely can’t tell if you’re being facetious.

  I thought you were fully serious, but then I hit the line

  Even if prices in reality do not need to compensate, because margin is already big enough, it gives retail a free card to jack prices,

  And assumed you were just poking fun and the poor widdle corporations and their giant profit margins, but then you continued with your paragrap, and now I’m not sure again…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ok boomer⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Why bother going through the checkout at all, the fastest way out is straight through the door. Unrelated, the weather is changing so I’m thinking of buying a really big coat, and I’ll want pockets for my keys and other essentials.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loses weight⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Learning that the intensity of your hunger sensation is not related to how much you need to eat to satisfy the hunger, but rather, how soon you need to address the hunger, is what changed the game for me.

  Instead of responding to feeling ravenous by getting in the kitchen cooking a big meal and sitting down to eat, 40 minutes after I felt hungry, eating easily 2-3 portions, and justifying it with “well I haven’t eaten all day”.

  Now I have an orange or something the second I start to feel that intense hunger, go distract myself, and then 20 minutes later I can think clearly, without food noise and intense hunger to cause me to pile crap onto my plate. So now I can plan a well portioned meal that fits within my goals.

  But I think part of that is that I have poor interoception, I never felt hungry unless I was already ravenous. Learning to identify hunger before it turns into “eat everything in sight” is something I need to do. I’m still not very good at it, but I’m better. (for context with my interoception, I also can’t tell when I need to pee, or when I’m tired, or when I’m too hot or cold. I’ll just randomly feel shooting pain in my hand, look down and notice my fingers are turning blue, then remember to put a jacket on)

  I don’t like feeling over-hungry because it gives me migraines and I get really nauseous and end up dry wretching when I know what I need is calories. Hence why in the past if I started to feel hungry I’d overeat to really try and nip that sensation in the bud. I failed at diets in the past because I assumed that you were supposed to be constantly hungry, and for me hungry is painful, so I’d give up on diets pretty quickly.

  So I personally need to stay on top of my hunger to stay on track with my calorie intake.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loses weight⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I always think about it this way; I was a fat baby, fat toddler, fat kid, fat teen, and fat young adult, I spent 25 years learning how to be an obese fuck. I was a master at it.

  Why should I expect myself to be even halfway competent at being a healthy person after just 1-2 years of practicing those skills.

  The goal isn’t to be healthy tomorrow, it’s to take steps every day to learn to be a person who has naturally healthy habits, and grow into being that person for the rest of my life. If that takes 10 years to be able to say “this issue who I am now, not a fat fuck” then it takes 10 years, and that’s still a faster learning curve than the 25 years I spent obese.

  Though I will shout out “the paper towel effect”, the first 25-30kg I didn’t really see a difference, nor did anyone around me, but every other kilo since then has been a visible change to my appearance and that’s very motivating, especially as it gets harder to induce a calorie deficit because I’m getting closer to my goal and maintenance weight range, plateaus are more common. But at the same time it’s exciting to be slowly shifting gears into maintenance.

  One of the most motivating things for me is going to the gym and grabbing weights equal to the weight I’ve lost, picking it up and just thinking “fuck, I used to carry this weight around with me 24/7”

  My strength training is falling behind my weight loss, I can’t even bench the amount of weight I’ve lost, I can RDL it but that’s because I’ve still got the glutes of a fatty.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨50% survival rate⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Depending on what you’re treating, 50% sounds pretty good.

  I remember when I went for my last surgery and I was signing all the consent forms, my doctor was emphasising the 17% chance of this known lifelong complication, and the increased 4% chance of general anaesthesia fatality (compared to 1 in 10,000 for general public).

  My mum was freaking out because when she had the same surgery she’d been seen much earlier in the disease process, she wasn’t expecting such a “high” risk of complications in my care.

  But all I was hearing is that there’s an over 80% chance it will be a success. Considering how limited and painful my life was by the thing we were treating, it was all no brainier, I liked those odds. Plus my condition is diagnosed 1 in 100,000 people, so how much data could my surgeon really have on the rate of risk, the sample size would be laughable.

  Still the best decision of my life, my surgeon rolled his skilled dice, I had zero complications (other than slow wound healing but we expected and prepared for that). I threw my crutches in the trash 2 years later, and ran for the first time in my life at 27 years old after being told at 6 years old that I’d be a full time wheelchair user by 30.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Artifical Intelligence⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Unfortunately the models are have trained on biased data.

  I’ve run some of my own photos through various “lens” style description generators as an experiment and knowing the full context of the image makes the generated description more hilarious.

  Sometimes the model tries to extrapolate context, for example it will randomly decide to describe an older woman as a “mother” if there is also a child in the photo. Even if a human eye could tell you from context it’s more likely a teacher and a student, but there’s a lot a human can do that a bot can’t, including having common sense to use appropriate language when describing people.

  Image descriptions will always be flawed because the focus of the image is always filtered through the description writer. It’s impossible to remove all bias. For example, because of who I am as a person, it would never occur to me to even look at someone’s eyes in a portrait, let alone write what colour they are in the image description. But for someone else, eyes may be super important to them, they always notice eyes, even subconsciously, so they make sure to note the eyes in their description.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Artifical Intelligence⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I guess my question would be, why do you need the picture as a visual aid, is the accompanying body text confusing without that visual aid? and if so, by having no alt text, you accept that you will leave VI people confused and only sighted people will have the clarification needed.

  If your including a picture of a table with nothing on it, there’s a reason, so yes, that alt text is perfectly reasonable.

  Personally I wish there was a way to enable two types of alt text on images, for long and quick context.

  Because I understand your concern about unnecessary detail, if I’m in a rush “a table with nothing on it” will do for quicker context, but there are times when it’s appropriate to go much deeper, “a picture of a hard wood rustic coffee table, taken from a high angle, natural sunlight, there are no objects on the table.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Artifical Intelligence⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I think so, but I don’t have the mental energy at the moment to sit down and figure out if the AI detection software is accessible either. I know some of my colleagues use programs to check student work for LLM plagerism, but I don’t assign work that can be done via an LLM so I haven’t looked into that, and that’s different from the AI images.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives in the midwest⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s actually a diverse opinion even within the indigenous community, Indian can be a uniting identifier, but it can also be representative of everything wrong with colonism.

  While I’m not American, my understanding from my grandfather who was warded to a government school in Canada (though it’s never been clear if he is first nations, he was documented as such but his cultural experience once he joined the army and moved countries to has been white, and I am white, so I can not truly speak to any of this), whether an individual or a tribal group are more comfortable with the label Indian or Native American, or indigenous, or first nations, tends to depend on the relationship between the person/group and reservations and government programs that historically used the terminology of Indian.

  My grandfather for example would use First Nation’s/Indigenous (though he used to say that he was “treated like first nations” rather than he “is” first nations, because even he had no idea if he actually was or not), he couldn’t bring himself to say “Indian” because that’s what he was labelled as while subjected to the abuse of the educational system at the time, it’s a traumatic term for him. Meanwhile some of the men he knew from that time united under the label “Indian” to claim it back from those that used it to oppress them, it’s a point of pride for them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Artifical Intelligence⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  As a visually impaired person on the internet. YES! welcome to our world!

  You’re lucky enough to get an image description that helpfully describes the image.

  That description rarely tells you if it’s AI generated, that’s if the description writer even knows themselves.

  Everyone in the comments saying “look at the hands, that’s AI generated”, and I’m sitting here thinking, I just have to trust the discussion, because that image, just like every other image I’ve ever seen, is hard to fully decipher visually, let alone look for evidence of AI.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon browses ancient memes⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Somehow the bigotry of the old not-for-profit internet felt less harmful than the current model where corporatations fund bots to fuck everyone in the mental health for a grab at our empty wallets.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can relate.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  They so often did though, how many massive fires broke out in London before the great fire finally convinced them to stop building overlapping thatched rooves.

  Even during The Plague of Justinian scholars wrote about what was essentially ancient social distancing practices, 2000 years ago later we still can’t do it properly.

  How many times did they have to put up with rat plagues and stinking open cess pits, followed by a big town clean up, and then nothing change in infrastructure or waste management practices, only to do the whole clean up again …until the Great Stink got to close enough to the windows of parliament that those in power decided maybe they should address the root problem instead of applying bandaids every few years.

  (I don’t have a history degree so I’m pulling these details out of the memory depths of my dusty documentary viewings, and I’m probably wrong.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Damn right I'm a silly goose⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Goose is the female and sex neutral term for members of those bird species.

  Just like “cow” is both the female (parous) and sex neutral term for domesticated bovine. (nuliparous/non breeding female cows are heifers, but they are also still cows in the sex neutral usage)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I hate how anything without "world" in its name is just about the US⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  This is a good point about cultural export, majority of modern content use American, and the majority of childhood content at least for me was Canadian.

  I’m often surprised how little I know of the UK compared to the USA when I think of how much is imported to Australia from the UK …including my family.

  Thank you so much for giving me your guesses at state names, we did make it easy for you with just a bunch of cardinal directions.

  You are bang on with 6 states, and almost bang on with their names.

  The place you’ve dubbed “Northern Australia” is the “Northern Territory” and is not a state, the state you are missing is South Australia.

  We have two major territories, Northern Territory as mentioned, but then similar to the USA, our national capital is not located within a state.

  Our capital city is in “The Australian Capital Territory”, or just “the ACT”

  We are super creative with the names. Hence why we named 2 after the Queen (then stupidly named the capital city of Victoria “Melbourne” instead of “Batmania”, which was totally an option on the table!) but also America can’t talk, how many important places have you named after Washington and Columbus?

  Tasmania is indeed ours, ours lonely Island state. Not so fun fact, Tasmanian Devils are endangered because they keeps biting each other’s faces off and giving each other contagious facial cancer.

  There’s another internal territory no one really talks about, Jarvis Bay, it was formed mostly so the ACT could have access to a port without needing to use a state’s port.

  We have 7 external territories, the main ones being the island territories of Norfolk, Cocos, and Christmas Islands.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I hate how anything without "world" in its name is just about the US⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t read words in any voice other than the naturally subvocalisation that occurs when I’m reading, which is always in my voice.

  Even when I read a quote myself Morgan Freeman, I’m hearing my voice, doing a Morgan freeman impression.

  But in terms of who I picture? Nothing, people online are not even corporal beings to me until details are revealed. They are still human and have whole lives offline so that’s not an excuse to be needlessly rude, but I know nothing of them so why would I randomly invent details unless I’m doing so as a “put myself in their shoes” thought experiment.

  But then I have a degree of aphantasia so I’m not “picturing” anything, all I have is words anyway, so it’s easy not to add in extra words that change my assumptions about a person.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I hate how anything without "world" in its name is just about the US⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I just wish Americans would have a little self awareness when engaging in foreign content.

  I was in a comment thread for a video on a report by the ABC about ADEs. Now I will give Americans the benefit of the doubt, we both have ABC networks, but ours clearly says “Australia”, the news presenter has a Australian accent, and was talking about the Australian minimum wage, there were references to Centrelink and the Australian government repeatedly. If you watched the video and couldn’t tell me what country the video was about, you need to go back to primary school, your media comprehension level is dysfunctional .

  I mentioned a clarifying point in the the comments about ADE being different from DES and giving numbers for each (you don’t need to know anything about these acronyms), and someone starts arguing with me that when they were in the disability program they got xyz and they didn’t have to do any of this. I replied saying that these processes have been unchanged for 20 years, I don’t know how they’re getting what they’re getting, they have a unique case. They come back telling me everyone gets that, that’s how it is, I need to do my research before I make stuff up. I explain that I work in the sector, I’m looking at the cases software, if they are indeed getting those services through that program, they are the only one of 40,000 people in the program getting that, because that’s not how the service works. They tell me 15 million people people use the program. I finally realise what’s happening. “there are only 25 million people people in Australia…you’re a lost American aren’t you?” and sure enough ,they politely reply with “oh yeah, I’m not Australian so I don’t know, maybe it’s different over there”.

  And I just can’t with that level of American stupidity.

  You can came into an Australian forum and assumed I wasn’t Australian, assumed I wasn’t talking about Australia, then came to the conclusion that “maybe it’s different over there” when I had explicitly just informed you that ,yes, the law is different here.

  Now many times could I have used the acronym DES before the American thought to themselves “maybe this person isn’t talking about SSDI”.

  And this is just the example from the last hour. I end up in a lot of international PD sessions for my work, and something like this is a daily occurrence, only with the Americans.

  Canada, you are sadly not excused from this, nor sure why but it’s always "okay, where are we all from? “Australia” “Belgium” “Brazil” “Indonesia” “Fort Freedom” “Edmonton”

  Those are cities and provinces, clearly the rest of us are doing countries, some of us are big enough that we could name states if we wanted to, but we’re being polite, you’ve got 50 (10+3 🇨🇦 ) of them and we didn’t memorise a silly song in school to learn your states.

  The fact that I know how many states the US has and how many provinces and tertories Canada has, but an American would be stabbing in the dark to guess how many states and territories Australia has, even though our biggest state is 3x bigger than Texas and Australia as a whole is a comparable landmass to the contiguous 48.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The two types of jobs⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I felt the same thing watching my partner working this morning. I’ve been with him 10 years and I still can’t explain his job beyond its title because as far as I understand he oversees people as well as works on software that’s developed, deployed and managed by another company, but they don’t manage software or services or develop anything but they deploy it, but that’s not not his team, and it’s this one specific program, but it’s actually 12 integrated programs, and he’s working on one that’s in development but he’s not a developer, but is not part of anything they’re actually doing yet, and that’s not his main role.

  Everytime he explains it, I get more lost…

  What is this job? It’s obviously stressful, a lot of other companies rely on on whatever this service is, and my partner, as of this year, makes 8x my income, so it must be important… Right!?

  Right!? He’s not making 8x my income pushing pencils…right!?

  I teach General Education at a community centre for people who missed out on formal schooling.

  My job is 3 words “I teach SOSE”, and you know almost exactly what I do you can picture the main tasks and also picture my output (educated graduates)

  His job did not exist 15 years ago, the concept of a job like his in software for the masses did not exist 50 years ago, a desk job to this degree of pencil pushing did not exist 100 years ago.

  Sometimes I think about how my job is technically one of the oldest in the world, but never a well paid one.

  Sometimes I consider a pencil pushing job for a few years, to just get my retirement fund sorted, but if I don’t even understand what the job is how can I expect myself to do it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do remote workers actually work? Yes, but they also shop and shower⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  My partners boss took a lot of issues with multitasking and I can’t understand his logic.

  I was getting fed up of my partners breakfast and lunch dishes piling up in the kitchen.

  I’d come home from work to find the kitchen a disaster zone. I wouldn’t even have a clean spot of bench space to put my water bottle down.

  My partner would explain he didn’t have long enough on his lunch break to wash the dishes, and his boss was cracking down on people doing personal chores during the work day.

  I suggested if he can’t clean up like he’s at home, he needs to prepare food like he’s in the office. Ie, make a lunch box the night before so there aren’t 40 dishes on the day.

  He explained that this is how he used to eat in the office, because they had a cleaner who worked while everyone was in, tidying up after them, they’d cook meals for each other and eat family style, and his boss still encourages family lunches via teams/zoom.

  So his boss used to hire someone to clean while the pencil pushers were pushing pencils. Now there is no one who’s job is to clean, but his boss won’t let anyone clean up after themselves, but still expects them to generate mess for team building.

  I told my partner he can either get a lunch box, or he can tell his boss “I’m doing the dishes during the work day, if you’d prefer I don’t, I won’t, but I’ll need a raise because divorce is expensive”

  If it was any other boss, I’d tell my partner to suck it up and eat faster so he can wash up on his break, but it’s the fact the boss is still working in the office with the cleaner, so he’s got someone cleaning up as he works, but he won’t allow his staff to also work in a safe and clean environment.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Every show with a suicide now has a disclaimer with a suicide hotline at the beginning. Is there any evidence that these warnings make a positive difference?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  My mum and I had a shared period calendar when I was a young teen and still getting used to tracking my cycle, she hung the calendar and pen in the bathroom to model how I could track my cycle in a diary as I got older.

  We invented a key/symbol system so the calendar wasn’t intrusive for my brother and father to see, and one of the symbols we used for the luteal phase was a sort of hourglass ⏳, it was originally my mums poor doodle/sketch of a panty liner to indicate “you might spot a bit this week” but it looked like an hourglass so I joked that symbol meant I’m “just waiting for the storm to arrive”.

  It was the perfect symbol for me, because when people ask about the tattoo, and I don’t want to go into the real reason I say “it’s a visual reminder” and if they ask more I can say “it’s an hourglass, because there’s only a little time LEFT, it’s on my left hand - I get my lefts and rights mixed up. Plus it reminds me to put my watch back on after I get dressed, so it helps remind me of a lot of different things”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Every show with a suicide now has a disclaimer with a suicide hotline at the beginning. Is there any evidence that these warnings make a positive difference?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yuuuup, I ended up getting a tattoo on my wrist that is essentially a personal period joke.

  At one stage it was crucial for my survival, it was a kind of grounding token to snap me out of hormonal suicidal insanity when my PMS was at its worst. Something I’d see that would bluntly remind me “it’s not you, it’s your hormones, you don’t actually want this”

  When I say the urge came and went zero to sixty back to zero in 30 seconds flat, sometimes that was an understatement. I really struggled because in addition to suicidal ideation during PMS, I had undiagnosed and untreated ADHD, which often gets worse with PMS thanks to the way oestrogen and progesterone play off each other.

  Guess who’s got major impulsively issues. Guess what two symptoms really shouldn’t be combined.

  I have zero desire to kill myself.

  But my hormones seemed desperate to try and make me do it every month, especially as a teen.

  It didn’t help that I had endometriosis and at 17 developed a uterine prolapse, on top of a rectal prolapse I’d had since I was 12. I was in agony when I was on my period, so sometimes the desire to make the pain stop overlapped with the suicidal ideation. That sucked. Hard to reason your way out of physical pain.

  I’ve had a hysterectomy (from 17-24 my uterus just kept trying to make its own escape anyway despite attempts to sew it in place) and no longer suffer menstrual dysphoria because it turns out that was gender dysphoria not true PMDD. But I still get suicidal ideation as part of PMS, fortunately my ADHD is much better managed so now my tattoo is less a suicide detterant and just a reminder that I still have ovaries (sometimes I genuinely forget, and it takes me a few days to work out why I’m bloated and irritable and why I’m anxious about my sore boobs)