DillyDaily
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- Comment on I put my number in a secure form for a trusted bank and immediately got spammed 3 days ago:
Yes and no, if you scambait hard enough your number can eventually be added to a blacklist for larger scam organisations that bought your data for use in multiple scam attempts.
In my experience that has really cut down on the calls.
In 2020 the department of human services accidentally posted my personal phone number on a list of support services for people experiencing housing or food insecurity. This number was then circulated by every major news source in my state. I couldn’t change my number at the time because I had no legal ID (still don’t… Can’t figure out how to get ID without ID, but I have a new number now at least) at first I didn’t really notice the ratio of spam calls to genuine calls for the wrong number (ie, people calling my number because they needed housing/food) . I just remember getting 40+ calls a day at many stages.
But as the actual number for the food relief service was circulated, I eventually stopped getting genuine calls and I was getting 3-5 scam calls every single day.
After a year of scam baiting, I was getting 2 a week.
Now, I’ll do something online that requires sharing my current number, within a few hours I get a scam call because my data has been sold, but I bait the heck out of that first call and I usually don’t receive any further calls which suggest my number was blacklisted by a larger scam organisation, and I won’t be hassled until my data is sold again as a new item.
It’s hard to avoid getting your number on scam lists when the largest health insurance company, and the second largest telecommunications company in my country both had major data breaches where millions of customers identifying information was accessed and sold to scammers…
- Comment on Can't get that metallic taste out of my mouth 4 days ago:
Nah, I’m just a person with leaky tits.
- Comment on Can't get that metallic taste out of my mouth 5 days ago:
You do anyway without piercings.
The nipple isn’t technically one hole, it’s kind of like a porous sponge. After all, mammary glands are just mutated sweat glands, it’s a series of holes connected to a series of ducts.
So a lot of people find when lactating that it can spurt in crazy directions from unexpected parts of the nipple.
- Comment on Ironing 5 days ago:
The number of times I find myself plugging the iron in behind the TV and then holding an old Amazon box against the wall and juggling my pants while I iron because I’m in a rush and that’s the available outlet plug and space.
- Comment on Underrepresentation 3 weeks ago:
The first pride was pretty wrathful.
- Comment on the GIRTH 3 weeks ago:
The female condom has two rigid rings, one in the sealed end that sits under the cervix, and one at the open end.
The ring at the open end is designed to hold the condom open and give the penetrating partner a nice big safe target to make sure the penis/toy/whatever goes inside the condom and not accidentally between the condom and the vaginal wall. This ring also provides some minor protection to parts of the vulva due to its size.
The internal ring is much smaller by comparison, and is not that much larger than a diva cup. The internal ring of a female condom is a similar size to a “soft cup” menstrual cup, it’s a little bit smaller than a contraceptive diaphragm.
- Comment on Country music 1 month ago:
Yeah, nah, Tamworth. We have our own branches of country music down here mate.
Blak Country is a seriously cool branch to explore if you’re curious about how Australia has interpreted US country music into a localised sub-genre. Swap your mouth organs for a gum leaf and add some yidaki riffs for extra bass.
- Comment on Corvids 2 months ago:
Australian Magpies aren’t corvids, they’re butcherbirds, unrelated to the European magpie.
They are dicks though. Cute, but dicks.
- Comment on Anon has an asexual gf 2 months ago:
You ever feel hungry but you’re not sure what to eat so you stare blankly into the fridge hoping something takes your fancy, but you’re not really craving anything because you never really get cravings. But you are hungry, so you want to eat something, so you have a choice, you can grab a protein shake because it’s quick, easy, and a pragmatic solution, but that gets boring when that’s always your “go to” when you’re hungry. Or you could order a decadent meal to enjoy, since you’re not really craving anything so you might as well set yourself up for a pleasurable experience.
Now replace being hungry with being horny.
You’re horny, but you don’t have any attraction to any options, and you never have. You could go for the pragmatic approach with masturbation. Or you could find someone that you think is a great person in all the important (non sexual) ways, and have sex with them because sex with fun people is fun, even if there’s nothing about that person (or any person) who flicks the sexual attraction switch.
- Comment on Anon has an asexual gf 2 months ago:
Yeah, as a kinky asexual myself, it seems like she hasn’t been very open in communicating her relationship to kink. Especially when your partner is allosexual, it’s so important to explain why you like to participate instead kinky activities as an asexual and where your boundaries begin and end.
For allosexual people, sex and kinks have a venn diagram that’s basically a circle, and failing to communicate the extend of your interest in kinks as an asexual is just setting the entire relationship up to fail because you’re inevitably going to have mismatching expectations from kink play unless you make sure you’re both on the same page before you start.
His confusion is completely understandable, as is her identity as a kinky asexual. They just need to talk to each other.
- Comment on Why the slow decay of children’s handwriting skills spells trouble 2 months ago:
Ah, thank you! I’ve been thinking about moving over to Aussie zone - I had very little understanding of federation when I first signed up so just went with whatever instance seemed the most general, but I think this confirms it, time to get a new account.
- Comment on Anon finds a rock 2 months ago:
The benefit of living on an island. I’m very privileged to have this opportunity. Sadly access to nature is not guaranteed, especially in developed nations. Hopefully there’s a small park or green space near you that you can enjoy when you need to relax and feel the earth beneath your feet. If not, maybe time for some guerilla gardening?
- Comment on Anon finds a rock 2 months ago:
Last winter I had two weeks off from work and I spent every day riding my bike down to the beach, I’d take my phone for safety but I’d turn it off and pretend I didn’t have it. I’d pack a mandarin, a thermos with some tea, an empty grocery bag, and my one-hitter.
As a kid, I used to walk to the beach with my grandmother during the winter school holidays when we’d travel to her town for a vacation. We’d collect laver and kelp for dinner, and grandma would tell us we could bring home 1 shell, so as kids we’d hunt for the best shell. In addition to collecting firewood with grandpa, beach days with nan are some of my fondest family memories.
So last year, in my thirties, I’d ride my bike down, I’d put on my wellies and grab the bag from my pack, and I’d start combing the beach for plastic, rubbish and things that aren’t supposed to be there. Along the way I’d stop to admire the nice shells, or spy a sea star or little crab in a rock pool. All while pleasantly stoned.
Nothing will ever recreate the innocence and mindfulness of those childhood memories, but damn if my memories of last winter don’t come close.
I’d take my full bag of rubbish and walk my bike to the train station near the beach, about 800 metres away, munching on my fruit as I walked. I’d throw the rubbish in their bins, and because I was doing this at like 10am on a weekday I’d be able to jump on a near empty train with my bike, and I’d only have to wait maybe 5 minutes for the next train.
I’d walk my bike home and then go about the rest of my day in the absolute best mood!
I highly recommend doing wholesome activities in nature under the influence of drugs (if you are someone who already uses drugs that is - don’t start doing drugs just to make nature more fun… Unless you want to, I’m not your mother)
- Comment on Digital licenses will finally be available for everyone soon! 2 months ago:
I hope they roll this out to the proof of age cards too! I’m happy to carry my physical card when I know I’ll need it, but sometimes I’m not expecting to need it and I just need to check the expiry or permit number for some quick process and it’s a PITA.
- Comment on Why the slow decay of children’s handwriting skills spells trouble 2 months ago:
I never got my pen license.
I remember starting highschool and my teacher questioning me for using greylead on all my assignments, I told them I never got my pen license and they laughed and told me to use pen.
They didn’t explain that a pen license wasn’t a real thing, it wasn’t like you legally required a permit to use a pen.
But all through primary school “getting your pen licence” was such a big deal I genuinely thought it was some big formal process.
I had so much anxiety that first year of highschool thinking I was breaking the rules using pens without a licence until my mum explained that it’s just a fun motivational tool for young kids learning to write and I’m an idiot.
- Comment on Why the slow decay of children’s handwriting skills spells trouble 2 months ago:
I’m a two finger typer, I did have formal typing lessons in school but I never learned to touch type, my teachers used wpm and accuracy to determine if we were on track and passing, and my two finger method was working for me in those metrics.
I’m missing a knuckle and have bradydactyly, so my teachers sort of gave up when I asked for extra advice in learning to touch type, and I had no motivation to learn because everyone just had this attitude of “oh they’re disabled so they have to type weird, don’t bother teaching them the right way”. But I probably am fully capable of learning to touch type if I tried.
I’m not sure what my method would officially be called. It’s similar to hunt and peck because I’m only using my index fingers, but I’m not looking at the keyboard when I type, so there’s no real hunting.
Though if I have to borrow someone else’s computer I do need to hunt and peck for a few hundred words until I get a feel for that specific keyboard.
My handwriting is also shocking, and that I do blame on my hand deformities and disabilities. I’m dyslexic and dyspraxic and was diagnosed late in life so never had any support with handwriting growing up. My journals look like a serial killer because each entry starts of nice and tidy, with even spacing and kerning and text in line, then as it goes on the spacing gets uneven, lines get slanted, I’ll use 3 totally different fonts in the same word, like writing “anɴɑ” instead of “anna”, oh and naturally I write the “n” first then have to go backwards and fit that first “a” in. It happens because my cognitive ability to write fatigues so fast but my motivation to keep writing and writing fast never wanes so I just power through it and my handwriting suffers, and then my hand spasms because even with an adaptive pen grip, I still have functional issues in my hand.
But I love typing and I love writing by hand even if I’m not good at either, and I think that’s the important thing - not giving up on one method entirely.
- Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: 🙉 Fri 12 Apr 2024 2 months ago:
He was a good boy. He still is, but he was one, too.
- Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: 🙉 Fri 12 Apr 2024 2 months ago:
There’s something in the air today, my brain is rotting from boredom but I can’t tear myself off the couch to do any one of the 200 things I should be doing, including some reports for work.
I also can’t seem to find the motivation or even focus to play a video game, or get out the sewing machine (my favourite hobby).
I’ve been doom scrolling for 3 hours. Even though I know it’s making me feel worse, and it would take me 2 minutes to put a yoga video on and grab my mat, and I would feel better…
But apparently my brain just wants to sit here feeling guilty over all the things I should be doing but aren’t.
Its my day off so I’ve half convinced myself it’s okay to still be in my pyjamas at almost 4pm, and do nothing today, not even cook…but I’m not enjoying it, it’s not relaxing. I’m paralysed by the complete lack of motivation, and self imposed shame over doing nothing.
Im going to blame my ovaries for this unfocused, unmotivated mood.
- Comment on I miss vegetables 2 months ago:
The sauce packet is usually kecap manis, it’s an Indonesian sweet soy, so your guess was pretty accurate.
- Comment on I miss vegetables 2 months ago:
I also hate cooking, but I’m broke and vegetarian.
1lbs of dried chick peas goes in my housemates pressure cooker on Sunday, and 12 servings of chickpeas gets scooped into ziplock bags and thrown in the fridge and freezer for the rest of the week.
On top of rice with a bag of microwave steam veg, stirred into a premade curry, blended and served on top of pasta like a weird hummus alfredo, thrown into a Quesadilla (side note, what’s a Quesadilla without cheese called?), smashed on top of toast and covered in whatever condiment I have. Or more realistically, I toss some salt in the zip lock bag and just eat out of the bag with a spoon while staring into the fridge wondering what I’m going to make for dinner, before grabbing a slightly limp carrot and an almost empty jar of peanut butter I left out instead of throwing away and telling myself “this is a balanced choice, protein, carbs, fats, a vegetable…”
- Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: Daily Discussion Thread: 🐏 Sat 6 April 2024 2 months ago:
A beautiful day launching the new kids club at our neighbourhood house. We had almost 40 families join us and all the snags got eaten.
This was the first event I took a back seat on and I initially felt really guilty “leaving everyone else to do all the work” (even though my stepping back was planned and carefully negotiated, as I’m still dealing with mystery health issues) but the entire team remarked that it all came together easily as “many hands make light work” and for once we had enough funding to bring on the appropriate number of staff for the project!
The weather held out and I met so many amazing locals, I couldn’t have asked for a better day.
And the timing worked out perfectly with the MRI I’d been scheduled for. Packed up after the event jumped on the bus, and got there at the exact right time.
Am I the only one who finds getting an MRI relaxing? It’s an excuse to lie down and be still while zoning out and pretending I’m being faxed somewhere. The technician tried playing me some Muzak over the headphones and laughed when I asked her to stop because it was messing with my ability to enjoy the magnetic dubstep.
- Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: Daily Discussion Thread: 🐏 Sat 6 April 2024 2 months ago:
Tonight is the night I asked my partner “wait, when did the clock stop working?” and he responded “huh? We have a clock?”
Who knows when it stopped working, neither of us have looked at it for 2 years 😂
And knowing us, neither of us will bother taking it down to fix or chuck for another 2 years. It’s just wall decor now.
- Comment on Facebook now wants to write your posts for you with AI. 2 months ago:
Oh definitely, he knows, but I also know and understand his perspective. For him, masking and unmasking when texting his boss then texting his family is exhausting and incredibly emotionally taxing. While I don’t meet the clinical criteria for an autism diagnosis, I do struggle with a few of the same things my brother and dad struggle with, particularly around processing, emotional regulation, and burn out, so I’ve been in his shoes where I know I’m doing something the hard way, or I know we’d all be happier with another method, but changing the task or changing the routine or process is even harder, even though the process I’d be changing to would be easier and better, initiating that change feels like an insurmountable climb.
Besides, my dad had to try and put up with my hyperlexia when I was growing up - before I had the emotional maturity to understand my dad’s needs, I can’t even imagine how much he suffered from my frustrating communication style being imposed on him. Now he’s older, it’s my turn to suffer 😂 (that is, it’s my turn to let him explore the ways he wants to communicate, even if it’s not what I want.)
- Comment on Push to lower Australia's compulsory voting age to 16 as advocate says youngsters feeling 'disenfranchised' 2 months ago:
We do trust 16 year olds to begin learning to drive though.
I would be completely open to the idea that at 16 you have the right and option to vote, but voting is not compulsory until you turn 18.
That way 16 year olds who aren’t interested or ready or comfortable placing a vote don’t have to, but those that are already politically active, interested and informed about voting can do so.
Across the whole there really isn’t that much developmental difference between 16 and 18, there’s a pretty big cross over between the more “responsible” 16 year olds and the “irresponsible” 18 year olds. I know that’s not really an argument, but the fact is that many 16 year olds are just as informed, and just as responsible as the rest of the voting public.
- Comment on Facebook now wants to write your posts for you with AI. 2 months ago:
My dad now uses AI to write all his texts to me.
He’s autistic and dyslexic and texting was always a massive struggle for him, so he’d leave voice messages, or just call me, and they’d be rambling and non linear, but it was my dad and his voice, his personality.
A few years ago he’d use dictation to send texts, and it was pretty funny because he hadn’t no way of proof reading them and dictation is never great for people with accents or speech problems… but now he will just use the microphone to ask whatever AI assistant is built into his phone the same rambling question he would have previously just voice messaged me.
And Copilot re-writes his rambling question and spits out a message that sounds like some formal business email. So now there’s an extra level of misinterpretation, an extra level of being removed from communicating with the human being.
I’ve asked my dad if he finds AI easier than just leaving a voice message (because I personally think sending a voice memo is easier) and he says he likes it because it makes him feel like he’s “normal” and can do the things everyone else has always been able to do with ease, even though he knows its not perfect.
I can definitely see the value in AI as an accommodation tool, and it has helped my dad a lot in his professional life where previous accommodation tools haven’t been adequate to “keep up”.
But I do miss hearing my dad, or reading his personality come through in the poorly dictated texts. My brother has gotten really annoyed at dad for this because my brother it’s also autistic and it’s actually harder for him to communicate with dad with an AI middle man, they’ve lived together for almost 30 years and they basically have their own language, so the AI texts my brother gets from my dad drive him nuts, when he and my dad have never had issues communicating.
I’m also worried that it’s effecting the limited literacy skills he does have, he’s getting rusty because he no longer has to try at all most days.
- Comment on Waiting in a queue to see a Web site 2 months ago:
Better than the system being used by the department of human services in Australia. If the servers and service centres are overloaded, you basically just get told “tough shit, try again later, hope you’re not desperately trying to get out of a DV situation or protect an elder from abuse, cause we’re not paying for more servers”
- Comment on Daily Discussion Thread:🥝 Mon 25 Mar 2024 3 months ago:
It’s been my music streaming service of choice for several years after moving over from Spotify.
But I’m starting to move back to physical/owned media because of the way YouTube interprets COPA.
You can’t save music to a custom playlist if it’s “for children”, you can’t play it in the mini player.
I’m a teacher, making curated playlists with children’s music is important for me, as I imagine it’s equally important for parents who want to put all their skills kids favourite songs in a private family playlist to keep car rides sane. It’s baffling that YouTube won’t let me do this.
And because my algorithm is so fucked up if I start a “radio” from something like Aladdin or the Lion King (you know, show tunes that are appropriate for kids) it will start playing Beetlejuice right afterwards, because I listen to that album in my own free time, and the algorithm recognises them both as soundtracks, and doesn’t understand how that might not be appropriate for me to have as background music in my classroom.
I’ve set up a children’s profile to avoid this radio issue, but then it limits music that is children appropriate but not marketed as such, songs like the Carpenters “Sing” or even Beetles here comes the sun, are “not for kids” so I can’t play them on a kids profile.
- Comment on Daily Discussion Thread:🥝 Mon 25 Mar 2024 3 months ago:
also, huge calorie load compared to my normal meals.
You mean you don’t usually cook all your meals with 8 Tablespoons of olive oil?
(seriously, why do all the meal kits insist on cooking with soooo much olive oil!)
- Comment on Anon gets robbed 3 months ago:
I wonder how many potentially dangerous situations I’ve obliviously avoided thanks to being hard of hearing.
If it’s a random stranger trying to talk to me on the bus, After I say “pardon?” thrice, I usually give up and default to random response noises like “uh huh”, “hmm interesting”, “that’s a lot to think about”, polite giggling, enthusiastic nodding, or “oh that’s neat, good luck!” based on what I think they might be talking about.
I’d have no idea if I avoided anything nefarious because I have no idea what any of the conversation was about.
Though one time an uber driver asked me to marry him. I thought his English was just bad combined with my poor hearing, and he was telling me he was getting married soon, so I was saying “oh that sounds lovely”. Fortunately he also found it funny when I realised what I’d accidentally agreed to.
- Comment on Round 2 🚢 3 months ago:
The title of this article really confused me because I’ve never hard of this company before.
I thought ol’ mate migaloo (the albino Humpback whale) was swimming around fucking up super superyachts.