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• Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s so normal, that’s how cults recruit people.

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• cecilkorik@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Provided they’re not nazis or fascists or sex traffickers or anything like that. There are bad people out there who prey on vulnerable depressed people and they can be really really nice (at first), and they can wear any costume they want, to fit into any subculture. But some subcultures are more hospitable for them than others. Most subcultures are pretty okay, there’s a few where I would potentially be very careful. Just be smart about it, and be vigilant for abusive behaviors, grooming, and other red flags.

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• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  That sounds perfectly normal.

  I have to admit I’ve been feeling rather down myself lately and reading about your community made me wish I had something like that. It sounds really nice and I’m glad that you appreciate those memories!

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• Broadfern@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Sounds like punk, goth, metal, or furries. /pos

  It’s completely normal to have sentimental attachments to positive influences in your life! Those people were/are your friends, however long they lasted.

  I’m sure that scene would also welcome you again, should you decide to revisit it more directly.

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  • shrimpgirl@lemmy.cafe ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

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    • Broadfern@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      If it’s an alt-ish music scene, there might be some small shows you can attend locally. Even if it’s only for a bit, you’d get to share a space with other community members in the area.

      If it’s an art-based scene (like furries, anime fans, etc) there might be a smaller convention or a game shop that hosts tabletop events since there can be overlap.

      There may also be online communities, as a physically easier entry point.

      Hope you’re able to find some small reprieve/joy in the meantime. /gen

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• rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  People get emotionally attached to subcultures for much less (though that usually means that they’ll join that subculture, if that’s possible). Sounds to me like it would only really be an issue if the subculture in question was something like criminal biker gangs or neo-nazis.

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• southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Well, yeah, it’s normal.

  When you find goodness in the world, and it shares a common denominator, it is perfectly normal to develop some degree or another of affection/attachment for that common denominator. You don’t have to be depressed for that, it just makes it easier.

  It can turn into an unhealthy obsession, and it’s possible that the motivations may not be without strings (cults and such), but those aren’t going to be the case every time.

  Like, for me, I have a deep and abiding love for gay culture, specifically gay male culture, because of how much love I have received from that subculture. That has expanded over the years to embrace the entire rainbow of the LGBTQ+ community (with some extra affection for my trans folks). You go for a while needing acceptance and open appreciation, you’re going to end up returning it when a specific group is where you find it.

  Truth is that the more sub a subculture is, the more likely the people in it are to be outsiders in some way. Maybe marginalized, maybe just atypical; but whether they were individually outsiders that found solidarity, or they became such by joining the subculture, outsiders have a tendency to be at least a little more accepting of other outsiders (though you run into some weird shit where you get schisms sometimes).

  And it can be local. As an example, I’ve had universally great interactions with juggalos in my area, but they can be major dicks in other places. As another, furries tend to be really chill with non furries that accept them but can have bitter faction wars with each other.

  Don’t let yourself get sucked into any cult shit, but otherwise find the goodness of humanity wherever you can, and enjoy it. Nothing wrong with that

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