when replying that way in any way, on text or actually just saying “cool”. my friends say cool a lot and I really don’t mind it and my partner says it too but some people have thought it was rude and I had a friend say “that’s what I say when I don’t give a damn”.
When “cool” is clearly an understatement about something negative or is in response to being stonewalled it is rude, otherwise it is chill.
TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 1 day ago
It depends both on context and on tone. Tone can make it excited or dismissive.
s0larfl4re@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
what if it’s “Cool.” over text? it seems fine to me but people have gotten similar responses saying it’s passive-aggressive.
DebatableRaccoon@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Then it’s context. If you’re going for the excited delivery, try throwing in a ! other it could be misinterpreted as uncaring or dismissive.
Skezlarr@aussie.zone 1 day ago
To be honest I think it’s the trailing full stop that does that. Over text I find that usually comes across like you’re trying to shut down the conversation (even when you’re not)
olafurp@lemmy.world 1 day ago
If it’s saying “cool” as an end to the conversation then it’s usually pretty rude. You need to show a bit of interest with a quick follow up like “how did you get it?” or “it took you a while?” and then ending the conversation is fine.
FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 1 day ago
I’ve heard from Gen Z that ending a text response with a period is passive aggressive. So “cool” may have seemed glib on its own, but the punctuation might be giving an additional, if unintentional, tone
Monster96@lemmy.world 1 day ago
To make sure I don’t mean it to be sarcastic, I usually say “Cool cool”. That usually goes over nicely
jaiden@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
i agree, may be why op is fine with people saying “cool” like that because they are not dismissive