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• PonyOfWar@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I’d say it’s less the surgery being addictive and more that the type of person going for plastic surgery in the first place may often have body dysmorphic disorder, so they’ll keep finding flaws in their appearance.

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• Diddlydee@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  21 and five surgeries? You’re one of the go overboard people.

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• zaphodb2002@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Because alignment of your physical and mental self is very gratifying. Ask trans folks. The problem, I think, is chasing an unattainable self image and trying to fix what’s inside by changing what’s outside.

  Personally, I find the idea of changing my appearance surgically for beauty standards rather distasteful, but I am a person who has always been pretty confident and comfortable with who I am. Cosmetic surgery as you describe it in general strikes me as vain and bougie, and ultimately just makes everyone look the same, which I feel strongly about. Don’t get me started on these face filters.

  All that said, I have tattoos and whatnot that others might find distasteful but they make me feel more like who I really am and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I support (and engage in) all sorts of gender-affirming behaviors meant to change my appearance though, so maybe I’m a hypocrite?

  I once met a man who had functionally turned himself into a cat, via surgery. Screw in whiskers, lip bifurcation and cheek implants, everything. He was a nice guy, very kind and surprisingly shy given how much he worked to stand out. That’s how he was most comfortable and I respect that. I liked him a lot better than the gaggle of rich blonde moms who all had the exact same faces that I see at the mall or whatever.

  Everybody should look the way they want to look. I guess maybe make sure you keep up the insides too, lest you mistake a lake of spirit for a lack of beauty.

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• pmk@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  For some people, maybe behind the reason they seek these procedures is a wish that isn’t actually fulfilled by the procedures. I’ve never heard of someone getting addicted to transplanting kidneys or fixing cataracts.

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  • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    To be fair, I’d be addicted to fixing cataracts, but only twice. 😆

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• Crispycrebs@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Because your mind is broken into thinking your body needs fixing or putting right. You are beautiful, you were beautiful before and you are beautiful now. You need to talk with someone about this openly and without judgement. You are perfect, just like everyone else.

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  • datavoid@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Unfortunately 20 year olds don’t tend to think like this. In my personal experience, if you aren’t conventionally attractive a lot of young people tend to be rude and/or cruel to you.

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• Meltdown@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  There’s nothing about surgery that’s addictive. You’re addicted to the validation you feel, which is a sign of deeper unresolved issues relating to self-worth. Surgery can never resolve those underlying issues, but surgeons will keep taking money to tweak just a little more. You’re never going to solve a psychological problem with surgery alone; you need to explore the roots of your feelings of inadequacy, identify why you crave this kind of validation, and develop strategies to manage those feelings in less extreme ways.

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• pleasestopasking@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I wonder if part of it is that you get a procedure done and you love the results, and it wasn’t actually as scary as you thought it was. So then you do another, and another, and another. And then when someone goes wrong, you get caught in a trap of trying to “fix it” and it goes downhill from there.

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  • datavoid@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

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• razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Either people who see positive results equate “more” with “better”, or plastic surgery doesn’t fix the underlying insecurities and self-scrutiny that caused them to get it in the first place.

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• uranibaba@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You see the same with people who use fillers or get tattoos. They start small, only one tattoo or a minor increase in lip size. Then they get another and another tattoo, or get bigger and bigger lips. My hypothesis is that they get used to the new appearance or becomes desensitized to it.

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• some_designer_dude@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Imagine you’re in Photoshop “retouching” your own portrait. First, you remove the little bit of makeup that smudged near your eye. Fair enough. It was distracting. But now that it’s gone, your eye sees a wrinkle and decides that’s probably distracting too.

  Now the wrinkle’s gone and you’re studying the image again. Aha! A mole near your temple! That can go, too.

  So now the makeup smudge, the wrinkle, and the mole are gone. You study the image again for flaws…

  And that’s how it happens. Every time you “fix” something you re-evaluate and will always find something to change because your goal has slowly shifted from making you beautiful by reducing “distractions”, it’s to find and fix “flaws” which, turns out, are infinite when you take this approach.

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• LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Honestly - you do you and have fun! Don’t listen to those who moralize/pathologize this, it’s pure slave morality shit, especially amongst Christians. Just make sure you’re doing it for you and not for society.

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  • 2xsaiko@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Yeah! To add to this:

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• mrmule@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Where did you get the eyelid surgery done. I’ve heard Korea is one of the best places for this kind of surgery. Thank you.

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