Maybe they just found a partner who evolved like themself? It doesn’t become a shitty choice for OP, just because you couldn’t imagine it working for you. It would be a shitty choice for OP if it didn’t work for OP
I don’t look at marriage in that way. I don’t see anyone at any age as a permanent person. We are all changing constantly.
I see it more as you make a commitment to eachother to see eachother through life, whatever it brings. We made it through a lot of different things such as a near death experience, job losses, disability and sudden moves.
I don’t feel like I need to be the same person or enjoy the same hobbies. As long as the respect and trust is there I’m good. Everyone is different though and have different needs. For us we value stability since both of us lacked family growing up.
I meant more the other direction. Marrying anyone under 30 is crazy. I’m glad it worked out for you but 22 year olds are children that sometimes get blackout drunk for fun. I remember myself and my dating age cohort at 22, any of us making any permanent decision is kinda crazy.
theonlytruescotsman@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
So much.
wisely@feddit.org 8 hours ago
My family all got married at age 16-18. I waited until age 22 and am still married while they are all divorced. Nothing wrong with waiting.
Alpha71@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Heh. Tell me your from Utah without telling me you’re from Utah.
AbsoluteChicagoDog@lemm.ee 4 hours ago
I’m kind of sad that you haven’t changed enough to be incompatible with that person. The people I was into at 22 are not the people I am into now.
BigDanishGuy@sh.itjust.works 1 hour ago
Maybe they just found a partner who evolved like themself? It doesn’t become a shitty choice for OP, just because you couldn’t imagine it working for you. It would be a shitty choice for OP if it didn’t work for OP
Liz@midwest.social 1 hour ago
Or each person has evolved in concert…
wisely@feddit.org 1 hour ago
I don’t look at marriage in that way. I don’t see anyone at any age as a permanent person. We are all changing constantly.
I see it more as you make a commitment to eachother to see eachother through life, whatever it brings. We made it through a lot of different things such as a near death experience, job losses, disability and sudden moves.
I don’t feel like I need to be the same person or enjoy the same hobbies. As long as the respect and trust is there I’m good. Everyone is different though and have different needs. For us we value stability since both of us lacked family growing up.
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 4 hours ago
way to respect other people’s choices, man.
theonlytruescotsman@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
I meant more the other direction. Marrying anyone under 30 is crazy. I’m glad it worked out for you but 22 year olds are children that sometimes get blackout drunk for fun. I remember myself and my dating age cohort at 22, any of us making any permanent decision is kinda crazy.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 hours ago
Speak for yourself, I was pretty responsible by 22-ish and got married around then. I’m still happily married.