yeah, flirting for fun can be … fun, but obviously OOP wasn’t te only one to read more into that. There’s a line between “platonic” flirting and getting someone’s hopes up.
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JackbyDev@programming.dev 1 day agoI wonder if you have a different definition of flirting, because the end goal of flirting is not necessarily to gain a relationship.
DrFuggles@feddit.org 23 hours ago
angrystego@lemmy.world 23 hours ago
Miscomunications can happen. She probably wasn’t aware that what she meant as friendly behviour was comming across as serious flirting to other people. No need to instantly suspect malice, she was obviously shocked and shamed by the result, so much so that she quit her job, which seems rather extreme to me.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 22 hours ago
I just find it hard to agree with because at no point did anon ask if she was single. He assumed it because he thought she was flirting. He even went so far to ask her on a date.
bastion@feddit.nl 21 hours ago
Ah, sorry, I thought you were single and that this would be a fun first date. My mistake, and enjoy the home w/your boyfriend.
Nothing wrong with that. Mistakes happen, and the ability to clarify them and work well together afterwards is more important than not making mistakes.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 20 hours ago
Apparently anon is incapable of this though lol.
Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 17 hours ago
Not necessarily but very commonly it is. Especially if you keep at it. It’s just something to keep in mind if you do it knowingly. She might’ve not realized.
Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 23 hours ago
Unless you make it extremely clear from the get go that it’s just for fun then flirting with someone you’re not interested in is risky and even if it was made clear, there’s always a risk something will develop.
protist@mander.xyz 21 hours ago
It’s never this cut and dry in real life though. People often misinterpret others’ actions as flirting when they’re just being friendly. For some people, a woman smiling and making eye contact is flirting. It’s not on the person who’s being friendly “to make it extremely clear from the get go” that they aren’t interested in going out with you.
JackbyDev@programming.dev 22 hours ago
Idk, unless you make it extremely clear from the get go that you’re treating an event as a date you shouldn’t be mad if the other person has a partner especially if you never asked if they were single.
angrystego@lemmy.world 23 hours ago
Life is risky.