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Daefsdeda@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks agoOh no my current partner has had sex before with someone and they are grown up enough to still be able to talk with them. /s
But for real though, it is more a green flag for me than a red flag.
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
The above is oversimplified and written to elicite a chuckle but most people aren’t that comfortable with having another human being (I don’t discriminate; just aiming for the most probable scenario) their significant other used to pork on a more or less distant past staying around. Most will have doubts about their relationship and its heading. Or even worst.
Monkey brain and pride computes around “If they porked in the past, did they stop completely or is it a come and go situation?” Humans are strange creatures.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 5 weeks ago
So you don’t trust your partner then? I’ve had ex’s that I remained friends with and they had ex’s that they remained friends with. As long as no one’s an asshole about it it’s fine. The fact that you used to sleep with someone doesn’t always mean you’re just waiting for an opportunity to jump on them again.
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
I trust the person I’m with and I’ve met the person dating them before me. I didn’t felt threatened or insecure; I see myself as a passing shadow through other peoples lives, which is quite liberating. If I manage to gain a prolongued stay, as I have, good, if not, good as well.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 5 weeks ago
So then what’s there to be uncomfortable about with them remaining friends with an ex?
Aksamit@slrpnk.net 5 weeks ago
🤢🤮
Why do some men think that is an acceptable term for sex? It’s so degrading. Or is that the point, to compare sex to fucking a piece of meat?
echodot@feddit.uk 5 weeks ago
That was you’ll take away from that comment?
They make a fairly good point that you seem to be ignoring
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
Pick whatever synonym you prefer and read it in place of.
I personally dislike “fuck”; sounds purely physical and unemotional, aggressive, quasi mechanical, like scratching an itch.
While “porking” sounds silly, goofy, almost nonsensical. Something two people attracted and trusting of each other would blurt out as teasing.
The first carries the same weight you vocalized on your reply for me, only that I don’t apply that disgust solely towards men. I can tolerate a “fuck” as an expletive towards anything in a figurative way (fuck the traffic, the car, the coffee being too hot, the iced tea too sweet, the dog peeing on the sofa, the cat throwing up on a shoe) but I sincerely dislike saying or hearing said “fuck” in the literal sense. It’s crude, rude, disrespectful towards the other.
Aksamit@slrpnk.net 5 weeks ago
Do women who you ‘pork’ like you refering to fucking thrm with that term?
Daefsdeda@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Definitely agree with the humans are strange creatures.
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
I just understood there was room and need for me to clarify my position and view, so I took the chance.
But we are, indeed, a strange bunch.