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Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: 🧦🐈‍⬛🧦🐈‍⬛ Friday, October 4 , 2024

Just back from dinner with the guy who organises the local Meetup dining group.
I’d dropped into the conversation when he invited me to a cafe that I wasn’t looking for a relationship right now, just to lay it on the table, then after some messaging that was pushing the boundaries and some blatantly flirtatious behaviour in front of others I had to have a stern talk of the You’re Making Me Uncomfortable Back Off variety.
So he walked me home, came in briefly to meet the cats and then I drove him home making it plain that I was just going to drop him home and run.
So what does he do? Ask me to stay the night!
Firstly NO, secondly I’ve never left the cats alone overnight and I’m not going to start now, thirdly I Told You I’m Not Interested Several Times Jesus Christ.

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StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
He understands, he just doesn’t want to accept it. It’s not about swaying you it’s about making you so uncomfortable that you’ll say yes just to get it “over with”.

He doesn’t care about your feelings or consent. And do not let him into your house again.

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- melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  This.
  
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CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Hun. Not after a relationship. Just a root. Urrrt no. Kick.

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tone212_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
No means yes or possibly yes to some people, no matter how clear you are. Glad you got out of that situation.

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- StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  No is yes because some men get off on non-consent as well. Ugh UGH
  
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  - Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    THIS.
    
    be so careful
    
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just_kitten@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
What is up with men who can’t take a hint? Unfortunately not uncommon with some meetup groups :(

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Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
He thought you’d be swayed by his confidence.

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Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Maybe next time don’t ask boundary challenged guys in to meet the cats

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- StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  Ugh I have no idea why you are downvoted - I agree wholeheartedly with this.
  
  Do not allow men into your home who have already ignored your consent. Not victim blaming, but people perceived as women must be careful in today’s world what with the utter disrespect and violence towards AFABs/women/femmes.
  
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  - Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    exactly, don’t invite trouble in to your house
    
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melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Exactly why I stopped going to meetup groups. A lot of people go there explicitly to use it as a dating pool and it gets uncomfortable.

Not judging or anything but next time I wouldn’t let someone drop you home or come in. Because

Some people are serious boundary pushers and

you don’t know what they’re capable of if they manage to find out where you live or enter your home.
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