Hun. Not after a relationship. Just a root. Urrrt no. Kick.
Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: đ§ŚđââŹđ§Śđâ⏠Friday, October 4 , 2024
oztrin@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Just back from dinner with the guy who organises the local Meetup dining group.
Iâd dropped into the conversation when he invited me to a cafe that I wasnât looking for a relationship right now, just to lay it on the table, then after some messaging that was pushing the boundaries and some blatantly flirtatious behaviour in front of others I had to have a stern talk of the Youâre Making Me Uncomfortable Back Off variety.
So he walked me home, came in briefly to meet the cats and then I drove him home making it plain that I was just going to drop him home and run.
So what does he do? Ask me to stay the night!
Firstly NO, secondly Iâve never left the cats alone overnight and Iâm not going to start now, thirdly I Told You Iâm Not Interested Several Times Jesus Christ.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
tone212_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
No means yes or possibly yes to some people, no matter how clear you are. Glad you got out of that situation.
StudChud@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
No is yes because some men get off on non-consent as well. Ugh UGH
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
THIS.
be so careful
just_kitten@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
What is up with men who canât take a hint? Unfortunately not uncommon with some meetup groups :(
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
He thought youâd be swayed by his confidence.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Maybe next time donât ask boundary challenged guys in to meet the cats
StudChud@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Ugh I have no idea why you are downvoted - I agree wholeheartedly with this.
Do not allow men into your home who have already ignored your consent. Not victim blaming, but people perceived as women must be careful in todayâs world what with the utter disrespect and violence towards AFABs/women/femmes.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
exactly, donât invite trouble in to your house
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
Exactly why I stopped going to meetup groups. A lot of people go there explicitly to use it as a dating pool and it gets uncomfortable.
Not judging or anything but next time I wouldnât let someone drop you home or come in. Because
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Some people are serious boundary pushers and
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you donât know what theyâre capable of if they manage to find out where you live or enter your home.
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StudChud@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
He understands, he just doesnât want to accept it. Itâs not about swaying you itâs about making you so uncomfortable that youâll say yes just to get it âover withâ.
He doesnât care about your feelings or consent. And do not let him into your house again.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨weeks⊠ago
This.