My boi here knows how to hold a conversation.
A skill OOP seems to be severely lacking in
Comment on Anon shares his dating preferences
gcheliotis@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Well first these are the frequent talking points of incels when they harp on what they consider “low value females”. If you find yourself constantly repeating such devaluing talking points, maybe a break from the internet would do you good. Secondly, and more generally, it is usually more attractive to talk about the things you love than the things you hate. Unless you have already established that you and the other person hate the same things, then you can bond over that too.
Shard@lemmy.world 2 months ago
shasta@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Don’t bring object oriented programming into this.
blackn1ght@feddit.uk 2 months ago
Anons member will forever remain private.
Ashelyn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
I believe a lot of the problem with 4chan is that they publicly declare everything, when a lot of it should really be contained to a private scope
NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 months ago
Incels? there are plenty of family men that think this way. They stuck to their preferences and have a much better life for it. We shouldn’t marginalize them for it and give them names that don’t make any sense also being afraid to speak about preferences is not good.
gcheliotis@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Preferences are fine. It still matters how you express them. In the current zeitgeist, with inceldom being a thing, the way these preferences were expressed smacked of that. The fact that you want to defend this specific trifecta of otherwise completely unrelated preferences, claiming they lead to a better life, makes me think you might be an incel yourself, or maybe just a conservative who’s consumed a few too many such videos promoting “family values” and purporting that these are threatened by a woman’s weight, or her having to raise a child on her own, or her seeking love and attention on dating apps. I do not think we should marginalize conservatives. But I do think we should marginalize misogyny.
NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 months ago
How you express them is crazy lol… express them by not being afraid. Never be afraid to say them so it can be heard and respected. You talk all this inclusivity and shit on incels.
gcheliotis@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Hmm I am not sure I understand what you’re saying or that you understood anything I said. Maybe we are talking past each other. Nevermind, let’s forget about incels. Main point is whatever your preferences, framing them positively helps.
abbadon420@lemm.ee 2 months ago
If an incel becomes a family man, he isn’t an incel anymore. It’s part of the definition of incel. Also, they don’t have a better life for it, but a better life despite it (if they even have a better life, incels tend to sabotage their own happines). And you say we shouldn’t marginalise men,but it’s okay to marginalise women?
NastyNative@mander.xyz 2 months ago
All this inclusivity talk but keep shitting on incels?? How does that work?
abbadon420@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Basic human society. Hunters and gatherers did it too.
People formed tribes to build a circle of trusted people, those outside the tribe were not trusted by default. It was a basic survivval technique. Tribesmen who broke the trust were kicked out. People who wanted to join the tribe had to prove their trustworthiness.
Inclusively people are a global tribe. You are not in the tribe because you have proven yourself not trustworthy. You cannot be trusted to treat all tribe members with respect. If you want to be back in the tribe, you will have to prove yourself.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
This. She probably wasn’t disgusted by the content, but by the form of what he said.
Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
I can almmost guarantee this is what it is. One of those isn’t even a big deal. If I was single I wouldn’t date a single mom, not because there’s anything wrong with them but because I’m looking for a serious relationship, and I know I’m not emotionally ready to be a father and I know I never will be.
I don’t want kids for that reason. I was raised by a single mom and have seen how difficult it is. Nothing but respect for all of them out there.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 months ago
Yeah, I don’t know why no dating apps. What’s that about?
Naboo_calls_for_aid@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
Probably something about the hookup culture? Strangest of the 3 imo