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JackFrostNCola@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

I didnt think this needed to be said but making a joke at a bystanders expense, particularly a hurtful personal attack, is not ok.
Sure jokes are give and take with some good natured ribbing but this strays more into carless, or potentially malicious territory.

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Maalus@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Nah, it is good natured ribbing 100%. People who are alone for 28 years in a row either are completely inept at human interaction or don’t want a partner / aren’t ready for one. The first case is incredibly rare, in the second case you probably are secure enough in it to laugh with them. And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.

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- archonet@lemy.lol ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Wow, you’re a twat.
  
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- idiomaddict@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  I don’t know how many 28+ year old virgins you’ve met, but I know like 5-6, none of whom are completely socially inept(I have really nerdy hobbies? I don’t know why I know so many), and only one would be at all cool with another person making a joke about it, but still probably not a random aunt.
  
  The one other exception I can think of is the religiously celibate, who might be a-okay with it from their aunt to cheer up a cousin, but I’m sure not doing it.
  
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- LwL@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Lmao what
  
  If you don’t want one and people make fun of you for that that is still shitty. Also it’s entirely possible to want one but just not enough to go actively looking. The only person that would be allowed to make that joke without being very certain he doesn’t mind would be anon himself. Society’s ultra focus on relationships and sex can feel bad enough without your fucking family making fun of you.
  
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- cheddar@programming.dev ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  
  And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.
  
  For half a second? Because surely that joke didn’t cure her sadness.
  
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  - Maalus@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Yeah no shit. Still helped.
    
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- WraithGear@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Um don’t feel like the first is particularly rare…
  
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- dubious@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  watch out. we’re in an incel feeding area.
  
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