Comment on Daily Discussion Thread: đđđ Tuesday, September 3, 2024
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨months⊠agoI am not wise but Iâll give this a crack.
The Martyr - someone who tries to get sympathy from others when he or she has a problem or too much work, usually when that person caused the problem or chose to do the work himself or herself:
I would bet my arse she has told EVERYONE how she must visit her son because nobody else has. Poor me.
Secondly. She doesnât want to miss out on anything that is said by doctors or staff.
I would bet my arse she has told EVERYONE how she must visit her son because nobody else has. Poor me.
No one else could go because he was only allowed one short visit a day đĄ
she never brought him anything he needed, that was still left up to other people
Secondly. She doesnât want to miss out on anything that is said by doctors or staff
Agreed.
And yet she ignored the doctors advice on what would be good for son.
I copy and pasted the description of what a Martyr is btw but everything else was mine. Iâve met a few martyrs in my time. They stand out like dogâs balls.
How to deal with a martyr? You canât because they wonât listen. They are more wiser than you.
agree
thing is she denies it was her choice
Of course. Thatâs what a Martyr does. I have to. Poor me.
This reminds me so much of a selfish, childish uncle I haveâŚ
He gets very possessive of certain people in his life, and if they need care, it doesnât matter that heâs not helping, or even actively making things worse⌠only HE gets to be there. HE must supervise and monitor interactions. If you are on the phone too long with one of his people you would hear him starting to demand their attention in the background, increasingly louder, cutting midway into sentences. Of course in the first instance when something bad happens to one of those certain people he makes it all about HIMSELF. Full dramatic breakdown and whimpering and redirecting attention to himself. Heâs like 79 Shockingly in the last 2-3 years has he improved to the point that I can visit my aunt and stay out late without him calling in increasingly short intervals after 6pm. And he is more restrained. It took a severe family tragedy, though. Plus realising how many people who formerly tolerated him were actively avoiding him. Some people are beyond any meaningful change though IMO.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone â¨3⊠â¨months⊠ago
Yeah this is my vibe too. Sorry. Thatâs super shitty behaviour