donât type âsomethingâ into search bars
also, if you loved him be happy he is happy
now itâs your turn to be happy đ hugs
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LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
Well. I typed something into my search bar and an instagram link of this girl who my ex is friends with popped up, didnât do a good job at deleting it, and before I know it, I see that my ex has launched a music duo with the girl he told me not to worry about. Are they dating? Probably. The way he looks at her. The way they look at each other.
I feel exactly how I did right after we broke up, and I thought Iâd come far. I feel so fucking stupid.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
Yep I wonât be doing that again.
I am happy that heâs happy, even though he hurt me. But itâs just the whole why couldnât he be happy with me thing.
I want to be happy too.
dumblederp@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
Iâve dated plenty of lovely women where we werenât right for each other and it was better that we split up. Nothing necessarily wrong, just not compatible.
oztrin@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
If he didnât want you, itâs his loss. And if he was lying to you, heâs not worth pining over. (Yeah, I know, easier said than done).
Letting go of him will at least leave a space in your life to be happy in and of yourself, and hopefully allow someone in whoâll bring you joy.
Now, do you have any physical mementos of the relationship? If so, is there anywhere you can burn them? Speaking from experience, that does help.
stepchook@mastodon.au â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
@LowExperience2368 @Seagoon_
One day, he may type something in the search bar and miss you. No guarantees, though. Solo time gives space to work out what makes you happy. đ¤ new hobby. New friends. New interest. Self care. Counselling. Metamorphosis. New butterfly đŚ â¨ď¸melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
Block both of them, this will just lead you back into the mental quagmire.
Donât worry about it. From the sounds of things she might just be the latest girl and end up in your situation too. Even if they stay together there are no guarantees things are happy behind closed doors.
Duenan@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨months⊠ago
Diving down into the rabbit hole wonât do you any favours.
I donât know how you can move on from this but just that you felt a lot more strongly about him than how he felt about you.
I know you wanted to be happy but it doesnât have to be with someone who wasnât into you, it wouldnât be worth it.
A photo/movie is one instant snapshot of a moment. Thatâs all it is and you donât need to add more into the narrative of it to make yourself feel bad about it.
You do have to accept that he wasnât the one but thereâs plenty of others out there who would be a better match for you. Itâll take time so go slowly.