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• themeatbridge@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Because sometimes people would rather lie and sneak around than have an adult conversation about relationship expectations.

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  • Emerald@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    people would rather lie and sneak around

    Well yeah. That’s a lot more fun then a conversation. And if you don’t care about your relationship anyways, why does it matter how you end it really? Might as well cheat

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    • Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      If you don’t care about a relationship, the other person still might, and them being hurt should matter to you.

      End the relationship since you don’t care about it anyways, to let the other person move on with the least lies and sense of betrayal, and then fuck everyone you wish.

      Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.

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      • Emerald@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Cheating isn’t a way to end a relationship, cheating is lying in order to keep it longer.

        Maybe that’s what it is for you

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    • erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      That’s rather selfish. There is harm, but not to you. You’re okay with hurting other people for your own gain to avoid having one difficult conversation. I can only assume that you wouldn’t feel good if a partner treated you like that, so why do so to them? Either you have a general lack of empathy, lack introspective ability, or are just perfectly okay with the idea of being cheated on, and also the idea of someone else hurting because of your own actions. I’m fascinated, and also recommend you try consensual polyamory next time instead.

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    • themeatbridge@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      to me there is no harm in it.

      Well yeah, but you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car. To you, there’s no harm. But the person you’re cheating on, the person who’s trust you’ve violated, who’s time you’ve wasted, who feels stupid and used and humiliated after the relationship is over, there’s a lot of harm for them.

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      • Emerald@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        you could say the same about hitting a pedestrian with your car

        Yeah, and I hit pedestrians with my car all the time!

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• eatthecake@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Because they’re too selfish and gutless to end the relationship. Slme people need monogamy and some need multiple partners, they should be honest aboit that and avoid having relationships with those who aren’t compatible.

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