Comment on Anon misses some signals

festnt@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• nastim@lemmynsfw.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  My girlfriend hinted that she liked me by getting under a blanket with me and taking off all her clothes. To be honest, I still wasn’t certain. We’ve been together 13 years.

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  • uid0gid0@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    She could be Canadian and just being polite

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  • festnt@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    oh god i saw 13 years before reading and it sounded a lot worse until the end

    congratulations though, im happy for you!

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• Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m the same way, I’m autistic and assume everyone else also doesn’t get subtext and social cues so I just say what I mean and honestly, when they say 'tism rizz, it just means not being afraid of embarrassment or rejection.

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  • Hadriscus@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I don’t know if I’m autistic but I’ve always functioned this way too. I can’t understand subtext. Things have to be spelled out for me, I never understood why communication shouldn’t simply be as clear as it can be. Experience gave me some clues, though, so I can do the translation myself in some (most?) cases, but I feel it’s never going to be intuitive at all.

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    • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Yeah the only reason I can catch it is years of studying how other people communicate, but I’ve basically stopped masking in social situations at this point in my life. I think a lot of folks find it refreshing when you communicate directly

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      • Hadriscus@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        This feels good to read. I’m at the point where I reduce the masking gradually, and I find it relaxing. I also came to realize how taxing it was… I think I can handle being different now, with all that entails

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