Clearly you just need to be a man and work harder and more hours, at the expense of your mental health, to be a better provider because that is your only value to your family. The more emotionally shut-off and weekday war-torn you are, the better the space in which you can escape work and home stress by self-isolating and self-medicating with alcohol. Your chosen man-cave is totally not a place to hide your emotional breakdowns where you silently sob as you suffer the masculine burdens of building stress and feelings of inadequacy alone. Just remember, communicating your feelings is what women do; men dig their grave faster and deeper because that takes manly strength.
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Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 weeks agoAs a millennial, if I could afford a house, I PROMISE you I wouldn’t also be able to afford mental health treatments, or a shirt.
So this tracks…if I could get a house.
Death_Equity@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
…with the exception of having a family vs living alone, you just described what my life would be life without medical issues. I mean,it’s still mostly what you said. You just left out the part about not affording to be able to pay medical bills too.
Death_Equity@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
You made the classic weak feminine male mistake of going to the doctor. A real man never goes to the doctor because you are fine and you just need to be strong and it will go away because it is just a benign affliction. You can’t burden your family with worry or medical debt if you don’t go to the doctor, that’s just science. Weak men are worried about their health before it is too late, strong men fight treatable or curable undiagnosed illnesses until it kills them like a man. Just remember, a real man gets diagnosed before retirement by a coroner.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Retirement??? No. My generation doesn’t get that.
xmunk@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Honestly, us millenials not having houses is probably a huge win for climate change… if I had the space to setup up a forge and learn metalworking I don’t think I’d be able to resist. “But I can do it in minecraft…”
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Oh my god. We’re going to have a story soon where a bunch of 35 year olds buy a vacant plot of land, and then dig downwards. Then they’ll disrupt some plumbing, or cables run underground, or gas pipes. SOMETHING bad will be cut, and when they get questioned, they’ll say they were strip mining for diamonds.
xmunk@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
So… wanna go in on a vacant plot of land?
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Obviously!
NoIWontPickAName@kbin.earth 4 weeks ago
You might just have to move out of the city, things get way cheaper when you go rural, plus it opens you up for usda loans.
They’re for rural areas and they will put down 100% of your down payment, but your credit score has to be right and you have to find a nice house, like really nice.
The one I am about to buy was approved for a usda loan, until they found out that 1 corner of the crawlspace was technically in a 1 in a 100 year flood zone.
If that doesn’t work you can try fha, their guidelines are a little more lax, but you have to put 3.5% down.
That’s what I am using and I know that my rent for the next 30 years is fixed until my mortgage insurance falls off.
That is with no adjustment for inflation either.
So if shit spikes again, at least my rent effectively got cheaper.🤣😂😞😢
boeman@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Realistically, you only need a garage
bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
Who said it needs to be your garage?
Death_Equity@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
A “garage” means any space a man can claim as his own to self-isolate and cry quietly in. Be it a garage, basement, shed, or man-cave. As long as he can suffer silently and nobody knows, he is a strong man and every strong man needs his “garage”.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
@Death_Equity did.
card797@champserver.net 4 weeks ago
I’m a Millenial with a house, but no garage. So, I’m shirtless and mentally ill under the carport.
Death_Equity@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
You are going to be the best uncle that nobody trusts their kid with after what happened last time they had you watch their house. You have an important role in the community, selling illegal fireworks to bored teens.
xmunk@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Honestly, if you’re a millenial in this economy something is wrong with you if you aren’t at least a little crazy.
The stress is fucking unreal.