Comment on What is the equivalent stereotype of 'women should all be homemakers,' for men?
riskable@programming.dev 4 weeks ago
Men shouldn’t be allowed near children that aren’t their own. It’s rarely stated but regularly assumed.
I think you were implying something different, but I feel like I get a ton of odd comments suggesting it’s weird for me to be out with my own kid. Things like “giving mom the day off?” or “what happened to his mom?”.
I had friends complain about this kind of thing before I had kids and I thought that they were exaggerating. Nope, it’s all over the place. It’s certainly not everyone, but it is much more common than I expected.
Things like “giving mom the day off?” or “what happened to his mom?”.
I always hated the “are you babysitting?”
Like NO! These are my fucking kids, I don’t babysit them, I’m parenting
I’m 33 and never seen this IRL. Weird.
Must be that thing that doesn’t actually happen and is only perceived on the web.
By all means, take your own experience into account but don’t fall for this fallacy…
By you own logic, murder must be a myth because it hasn’t happened to you
It’s likely a cultural thing. I’ve noticed it in urban Canada, myself.
A man smiling at a child who looks at him will get glares or weird looks from the parent. A woman smiling at a child who looks at her will be nothing out of the ordinary. The same man is “allowed” to smile at children if he’s with a woman and/or a kid of his own.
Before I had a kid, I heard this was a thing, but didn’t really care as I didn’t really have a desire to be around kids. Once I became a father, I realized a lot of people make strange assumptions about men around small humans. Its certainly not most people, but definitely some, and definitely not just online.
xmunk@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
This one fucking sucks… it’s especially awful for us beard havers.
Death_Equity@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I think it is more of the mustache only crowd that really faces a stigma about being good with kids.
Longpork3@lemmy.nz 4 weeks ago
My daughter is a very different skin colour than me. Somehow the worst I’ve encountered to date is an uppity mother who thought I was telling off a random child.