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• Holzkohlen@feddit.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  In the US? The same country that just overturned Roe v Wade? Yeah, somehow I have my doubts they will rid themselves of the archaic genital mutilation. I would like to believe people in 2024 are also smart enough not to crop a dog’a ears or dock its tail or hell, breed the abominations like pugs and french bulldogs. But that is not the world we live in. The world we do live in is filled to the brim with idiots.

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• peteypete420@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I realize that having it done as a newborn I’ll never really know, but mutilated? As an adult iv seen and played with those flesh danglers. Listen we are all humans and beautiful, but fucking hell I’m happy with mine. They are like one of those weird deep sea critters you see on nat geo or sciencememes.

  True, if I ever have a baby I’ll make the argument to the mom we SHOULD give the kid the choice… but I know that as a poor adult I would never do it now. But am happy it’s been done.

  I hate to sound like a “Liberal” talking about Palestine, but this may be a somewhat nuanced situation.

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  • Zetta@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    The definition of mutilate is “inflict a violent and disfiguring injury on.”

    Circumcision being the forced removal of the most sensitive part of the males genitals, that literally disfigures it, I feel like saying it’s mutilation is just the correct use of the word.

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    • moon@lemmy.cafe ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Disfigure means it’s left worse off. It’s literally more healthy and generally seen as more aesthetically pleasing. So no, that’s not the correct use of the word. That’s like saying cutting an umbilical cord is disfiguring lol.

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      • Zetta@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        No it is not considered more healthy, and that may be the general consensus among religious nuts and other men who were multilated and have trouble dealing with that reality, but it is not based in fact when assessing the topic on a global scale.

        If you want to talk about healthy I hear that if you remove the penis entirely you can no longer get an STD. Maybe we should start doing that, since obviously it’s more healthy.

        An umbilical cord falls off naturally, it is not meant to stay with your body forever. Your foreskin however is the most sensitive part of your penis and is a permanent part of your body, so your comparison against an umbilical cord is unintelligent.

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  • Senshi@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I’m curious, why are you “happy it’s been done”?

    I live in a country where we don’t perform this procedure out of tradition/religion, or at least not in the majority. I’m only aware of it being done for specific medical pathologies such as phimosis.

    Because I kind of agree with the sentiment that performing unwarranted surgeries on someone that is unable to voice his (non-)consent is an ethical problem. Even more so with excisions, which always are drastically and usually irrevocably diminishing the body.

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    • peteypete420@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I’m glad because I like how it looks and feels. Also, while I understand they are the exception not the rule, I have read about some men’s experience with them (the father of the 7 yr old in this comment thread for example) that make them sound either unconvienent or sometimes unpleasant. Never read anything similar from someone who’s been cut.

      And this question isn’t poised at you, but do the people who rail against it think Jewish people should stop the practice as well?

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      • Senshi@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        I’ll still use the opportunity to voice my opinion clearly on this: Yes, forced circumcision on infants is only a very small step above the also still common practice of female genetic mutilations at birth/infancy. It does not matter what reasons you claim, only medical necessity should matter. Society should protect its infants from any religion or tradition demanding body modifications of infants.

        Leave people’s bodies alone until they can decide on their own what to do when there is zero proven medical benefit to doing it before without their informed consent.

        The common “improved hygiene” argument is nonsensical. You know what improves hygiene? Washing, and teaching kids how to wash themselves.

        Otherwise you could cut off ears using the same logic. No ears, no need to wash behind the ears.

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  • realitista@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    As someone who is circumcised and chose not to circumcise their son, I’m seeing that circumcision has a lot of benefits. My son’s foreskin has always been too tight and won’t still fully retract at 7 years old. We have to put cream on it every night. It needs a lot more thorough washing every day or else it gets discharge all over it. The care and maintenance on an uncircumcised penis is like 1000x that of a circumcised one. I never knew any difference, so I’m not sure what the downsides of having a circumcised one is.

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    • ziggy@feddit.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      That’s not normal. I have never had such problems. No special cleaning and cream needed. No smegma. Just pull it back and wash it like everything else. You should seek a doctor. It sounds like a medically induced circumcision would be a good idea.

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      • realitista@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        We see doctors regularly and are trying to manage the problem without circumcision. You may have had problems when you were a kid too and just don’t remember it, it’s fairly common.

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    • morhp@lemmynsfw.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Why would it need to retract at 7 years old? It really only needs to retract once you start to have sex.

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      • realitista@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Pediatricians have timelines for these sort of things. And it can get infected under there.

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      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        cleanliness?

        You ever eat the gunk under your fingernails? I’m guessing not.

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  • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    i mean listen if it counts as female genital mutilation for females, it counts as genital mutilation for males. I see no reason it shouldn’t.

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• itsnotits@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  an infant’s* sex organs

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• wheeldawg@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  You literally can’t, because you’ll be dead by then.

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