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My partner is the worst for this. She’s out there killing it and everyone says she’s doing great, and then she’s like “Oh, I’m just learning still, I don’t think I want the promotion they’re pushing on me yet”. Come on, just acknowledge that you know a lot more than you give yourself credit for and other people see it.

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RickyRigatoni@piefed.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Honestly I think the main problem is that when something comes easy to you it’s easy to assume it came easy to everyone else and you’re not special. Happened to me on a few subjects and I got knocked out of that thought process when I acted like a dick about others not getting it and had it spelled out for me.

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- raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Things come easy to me, but I don’t derive an entitlement to a higher salary from that vs. my colleagues who have to work harder to accomplish less. I do derive an entitlement to negotiate harder vs. my employer though, and sometimes leverage my usefulness to speak up about issues that other colleaguea are afraid to complain about.
  
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- panda_abyss@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Yeah, it took me a long long time of working, promotions, a lot of interviewing job candidates from big schools and big companies, and working different jobs to really get where I fit in the skill hierarchy and feel confident.
  
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tacosanonymous@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Remind her that experts are more aware of what they don’t know. So, she has already subconsciously labeled herself an expert.

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- panda_abyss@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Yeah, I remind her of this, and that she’s just not confident at selling herself, and that’s okay.
  
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  - tacosanonymous@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    And everyone does it.
    
    I have a master’s and years of experience. Every day I say something like, “one of these days, I’ll learn how to do my job.”
    
    Life-long learning is a goal with no end destination.
    
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prettybunnys@piefed.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Ask her if she is even good enough to have imposter syndrome?

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lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I eventually got over that. I feel incompetent pretty often but I doubled my salary in 4 years.

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