Comment on Be better

TrackenDaKracken@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  is there any excuse to be a shitty person

  By definition, no. Because if there’s a good justification for it, it’s not that shitty.

  E.g. It’s okay to be shitty to Nazis.

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  • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The problem is also “shitty person” is kind of subjective. Some people would consider perfectly harmless things to make you a shitty person.

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• pidgey@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Everyone makes mistakes.

  If you had a reasonable childhood count yourself lucky - your mistakes will probably be reasonable. If you suffered from severe trauma/abuse or you have mental health challenges then you are likely to make different kinds of mistakes.

  It is everyone’s job to work towards being better. You do something shitty then YOU did it - your childhood didn’t do that, you did. It also might be true that you don’t even recognize how shitty it is because you were taught it was “normal”.

  We all are responsible for our actions, but some folks have been surrounded by kindness from birth so kindness is natural and easy. Other folks have to work really hard and make a lot of mistakes to learn that their behavior isn’t ok.

  Yes, we are all responsible for our actions.

  Equally true = some folks face enormous challenges because of background or brain chemistry, while others have it so easy they don’t get why anyone would struggle.

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  • Jarix@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Fyi you don’t have to have had trauma or abuse to have behavioral issues that are untreated or undiagnosed.

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    • pidgey@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      This is me! 🙂 I could make you a long list of things wrong with my parents / things they did wrong, but last I checked humans are going to be human (not perfect). My parents love me and they did the best they could. I had a WAY better childhood than most.

      However 40 years of undiagnosed female ADHD didn’t go well. I didn’t feel like I deserved to be struggling so I pretended that I wasn’t. THAT didn’t work.

      Eventually got knowledge and support - things are looking up for sure. Just - boy oh boy a lot of energy wasted and failures that could have been avoided if I knew then what I know now.

      Grateful I know now, but folks who are struggling and don’t know why have my heart for sure.

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