Comment on Anon follows the rules
Pacattack57@lemmy.world 6 days ago
It took me a while but eventually you will break free from the shackles that are your parents. You are your own person and you don’t have base your reality on what your parents told you as a kid.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 days ago
are you sure about that?
People these days seem to loathe being independent adults. The amount of co-dependency on parents I see in 30 something adults is fucking mind-blowing.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 6 days ago
It’s because they can’t afford to get out from under them, or at least can’t do that AND have a decent quality of life. I know a number of people in their 30s who are still living with their parents or are only free of them because they inherited enough to set themselves up in a house. It’s rough out there. Otherwise they are fully functional adults.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 6 days ago
That’s typically an economic issue, not a personhood issue. Not that it’s a bad thing to share housing between generations, it should be normalized as it was not long ago.
For us we have three generations under one roof because it works. Everyone pitches in, and having a grandparent around for occasional childcare is a godsend. Eventually we will be the care as they get into advanced age. There was a period of learning to let go of individual cultural hangups, but we all got over it in our own time.
The idea of every couple having their own individual single-family home and kicking kids out the moment they turn 18 is not just cruel, it’s completely unsustainable.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 days ago
I’m talking about emotional and financial co-dependency, like people who can afford to live on their own, who don’t choose to do so because they are unable to leave the nest.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 5 days ago
I suppose I’d have to disagree with that last statement, as someone who lives in a functioning multi-generational household lol. It’s not going to work for everyone every time, depending on circumstances, but having 3 generations in the house pooling resources is how most of the world does it.
It certainly helps to have a separate space/entrance for privacy and such, but now that we’re settled in, it’s far better than it was when we were going it alone. We have everything covered between the 4 adults, and then some.
deft@lemmy.wtf 4 days ago
I actually think this whole concept of independence is pretty bad for society. Americans are so isolated. I get people have shit families but we often have shit families because of this concept of independence being so important.
We have 0 sense of community in America and it stems from the me, me, me, my independence stuff.