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plyth@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

so it’s a lot of religious conservatives. we don’t mesh.

I had the impulse to reply to

meanwhile Im progressive, have a good job, own property,

with a mocking

that’s your problem!

and it turns out that it is your problem. /s

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Ifera@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Because not wanting to be a parent automatically makes one a conservative, got it.

You do know that some people just don’t want kids at all, Right? And then there is the added danger, in case of a separation, even without marrying the woman, that the guy who according to the courts, acted as a father figure, gets hit with child support, and even alimony?

Lots of people act like it is conservative or incel behavior to try to protect oneself from systems designed to exploit and harm us.

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- plyth@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  You have made the decision before you met a child and their mother. If the sunday morning space is essential then the child makes it difficult but maybe the child stays the weekend with their father and for the rest of the week you like their company.
  
  It feels like you look for a woman who fits into your plans instead of trying with an open mind. I am not in the position to tell you that it is wrong, or if it is true at all, but if you want my guess then that’s were I think you can improve your odds.
  
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  - Ifera@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Way to bark at the wrong tree, I’m gay, I don’t look for women but sure, go off and claim I’m a conservative, lol. It is perfectly normal, natural and healthy to have, expect and respect boundaries, and there are also non negotiables.
    
    So, if you feel asking men to disregard their non negotiables is perfectly valid, Would you ask the same from women? And if so, that’s just fucked up and unhealthy, I recommend you read and meditate on that.
    
    If my non negotiables include not dating people with kids, you don’t know my reasons. Blindly asking me to disregard them and get to know them first, it is setting me up for failure. I will not expand on my reasons for children being a non-starter, because it is traumatic and I don’t owe you an explanation.
    
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    plyth@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    Way to bark at the wrong tree
    
    Right, I mistook you for the parent poster.
    
    I will not expand on my reasons
    
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    mojofrododojo@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    you don’t know my reasons.
    
    makes me suspect a bunch of bad ones tho.
    
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