Comment on Thirsty much?
TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 hours agoHey if you dress like that, don’t mind me looking. You clearly like to show off and it works, it attracted my eyes. But I won’t stare or bother you.
It’s partly because I want to respect you and your boundaries, and how you look is not an invitation to bother you, but also because I’m looking for women (I actually am not, I have found someone already) who has more to offer than just good looks and doesn’t need to compensate shortcomings by showing off like that.
But don’t mind me looking at beautiful women showing off their body. Just not in a creepy or bothering way. But if you drive a sports car, especially when you chose the bright yellow option, it’s for a reason: Attentions and compensation and I’m not interested. There are also very comfortable (if not more comfortable) sports clothes that do not show off everything.
krashmo@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
It’s not only beautiful people that dress this way and that’s part of the problem with voicing an opinion on this topic. When you say “people don’t need to be mostly naked in the gym” everyone pictures an attractive young woman wearing an outfit they don’t personally mind. What I’m saying applies to fat old men, young girls, middle aged housewives, basement dwelling dweebs, and all the other groups of people you may encounter at the gym. If an outfit isn’t cool for everyone to wear then it shouldn’t be cool for the attractive exhibitionist to wear either.
liuther9@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Why you insult only males? Fat old man vs middle aged/young vs dwelling dweebs
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
It’s cool for everyone to wear. Happy now?
krashmo@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
No
TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
If we are measuring by that standard, we should all wear the same uniforms. Because if poor people can’t afford expensive clothes, it also shouldn’t be allowed for rich people to wear them, right? Maybe stairs should be forbidden, because if people in wheelchairs can’t use stairs, no one should.
There are things I prefer not to see. Just as everyone has. But who am I to push my preferences onto others, and who are others to push their preferences onto me. People have their right to be who they are. If you don’t like it, you can go somewhere else. But this means you also have the right to be who you are.
If we start with restricting these things, then where does it stop? If people aren’t allowed to wear tights because some people don’t like to look at it, then what about two men kissing in public? Some don’t like it, so maybe we should ban that too, or maybe ban kissing in public all for everyone?
Maybe turn it around. If it’s cool for some, maybe it should be cool for everyone. If you have a problem with how someone looks (or acts, believes, etc), you are in your right to look and go somewhere else. If someone has a problem with how you look, you still have your right to be who you are.
Restricting people to wear “appropriate” clothing according to certain standards happens in several places on this world. Like many Islamic countries where women need to be partially or completely covered. Or North Korea where people have to wear certain clothes and have certain haircuts.
krashmo@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Nothing I’ve said could be interpreted as me advocating for a rule or enforcement standard of any kind. I’m talking about the way individuals think about this topic. You’re just as free to put your sweaty bare ass cheeks on the chair I’m about to sit on at the gym as I am to call you a disgusting asshole for doing so. I don’t get why you would want to though.
There’s a difference between being technically allowed to do something and that thing being a good idea to actually do. Society functions best when people make decisions with others in mind. Sure, you can make most decisions with the “fuck you, it’s not illegal” mindset but is a society where everyone lives that way the kind of place you want to live?