My research in school was exactly this, I set out to prove people on social media lacked social connection irl. What I found out was the opposite, the more people were trying to connect online directly correlated to connecting more offline. Some people just seem to crave those connections anywhere they can get it.
Its worse than ever, also because people don’t seem to realize it’s technology that is keeping them alone. You cant connect and make friends over “social” media or Lemmy or whatever. It’s just spending time to feel less alone. It will never cure it.
MonkRome@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Redfox8@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
No surprise, no surprise whatsoever. We are all evolved to desire community & connection. I realise Lemmy has a large share of those that reject conventional community (myself included), so no criticism. But it’s natural to desire these things (to varying extents), plus many people are just plain sycophantic if course!
1984@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
It makes sense. Human beings need connections and some people will even put up with abusive connections just to have a connection.
tigermountain@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
And why can’t you go out into the real world and meet anybody?
1984@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Fear of things. It’s always fear that is blocking people.
tigermountain@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
People must forget what they’ve read, forget what they’ve seen, and forget what they imagine to be a go out and live. Go to the store, go see a band, go to a museum, go for a walk. You’ll find most people want to be kind and good and help each other.
1984@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
100% agree. The real world is not at all how social media shows it.
Merman_Gothique@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
[deleted]1984@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
I doubt it’s a real friendship. I define it as someone who will actually care about you. Someone who will show up at your door if you need help, or when something difficult happens to you.
Its rare with actual friendship in the world too. People are mostly just colleagues at work.
Merman_Gothique@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
[deleted]1984@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Sure but most people are npcs… :)
I dont mean that literally, I just mean that they just don’t have the consciousness to think about these things.
eestileib@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Nah, I’ve made several close friends in RL from online dating sites and discord. I’ve made some solid electronic pen pals on Mastodon too.
Not as many as going out and being social, but it’s competitive.