Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up

• CADmonkey@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  The most attention I ever got from a pic on an online dating profile was when my main pic was me on a unicycle.

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  • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Activities, yes! Shows you have interests/a personality

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    yeah because it’s weird and quirky. i knew a guy who slayed because he had a picture of himself laying in a bathtub of milk. he was also a gym bro who agonized about his deadlift and talked about it almost everytime you spoke to him.

    it makes you entertaining and people want to be entertained.

    now if you had been wearing a clown outfit on said unicycle… you might have had not so great results. because that would freak people out.

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• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  statistically men with cats are not desirable. My cat died last year and my matches went way up. Lots of women who would match with me would ask me to get rid of my cat and even when who I met and dated IRL, were very hostile/suspicious that I had a cat.

  You may prefer cats… but my dating experience has show me that women overwhelmingly dislike them. I also have a dog… my dog gets nothing but positive responses. Nobody has asked me to get rid of my dog or been weird around my dog when they met her.

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  • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You said statistically but provided an anecdote. Is this statistically based on your experience in your specific area or do you have actual stats to back this up?

    Because I’ve spoken to lots of women who feel the same way I do. My wonder is whether something else in your profile is attracting women who don’t like cats perhaps or it could be a fluke, because what I’ve heard/experienced does not align with what you have experienced.

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    • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      …cnn.com/…/cat-men-dating-study-scli-intl-scn-wel…

      Cats are coded as feminine. Dogs are coded as masculine. That is just how our society, in North America is. You may not agree, but you are in a minority if you don’t.

      I’m a straight guy that is comfortable about non-straight people, I’m also in a minority. But I understand that most folks in America are very uncomfortable around non straight people, and they view my familiarity with non-straight people as suspect that I’m not fully straight.

      Don’t mistake your personal preferences for those of the broader public. I also ride bike to work, and most folks are very hostile to that… and the people who aren’t hostile to it are also folks who ride their bikes to work. Only 3% of people in my city commute by bike, 97% do not.

      I’ve dated women who loved cats and had cats, and they were weirded out by me liking their cats. Because men are not supposed to like cats, women are. That was before I got my own cat, btw. Once I got a cat I got zero interest from cat-owning women, only from dog-owning women.

      I will get another cat. But I would rather have a cat than be in a relationship with another person who thinks me liking cats is unacceptable or weird for a man.

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      • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I wish I could see more info on the study but I can’t see a link in the article to the actual study.

        I’m very curious to see how their sample was chosen, whether this is America-or even Colorado-specific (study was performed by the university of Colorado). I wonder what kind of distribution they have of people from different states, if at all. I mean, it was less than 1000 people so knowing what population they are testing is important, especially to my “it may be regional” suspicion.

        I say this because none of this judgement about cat men being rejected because they are viewed as more feminine is familiar to me and I really truly think that this study is quite american-biased because that sounds like a lot of rhetoric that comes out of America that really doesn’t bleed much into Canada.

        Perhaps because Canada is a lot more LGBTQ friendly in general, people here have strayed further away from the femininity=bad rhetoric that is so ingrained in America and so women here perhaps don’t see that connection as undesirable. I’m curious to see how the exact same study would play out using a Canadian population.

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• rumba@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Dungeon Crawler Carl montage coming right up…

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