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• velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  You’ve literally never seen a 55 year old woman in shape? I don’t believe you.

  Look up a list of celebrity women who are currently 55 years old.

  This idea that women are decrepit and ugly and old at 55 is asinine.

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  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Not in person, not in real life, not ‘in my local area and looking to mingle’, no.

    I don’t regularly… go to gyms where 55 yo women are, and … I think all of my intimate partners have been within a max of +/- 3 years of my own age.

    I’m not trying to nor did I say that all older women are decrepit and ugly.

    I’m saying that generally speaking, women (as well as men), kinda tend to let themselves go a bit, as they get older… and honestly there is nothing wrong with that, that is completely normal. Getting old hurts, it makes staying in shape hard… it would be ridiculous to have basically the same general physique expectations for both a 30 yo and a 55 yo woman, or man.

    What is very not normal is to actually encounter a 55 yo women in approximately similar physique condition as ~55 yo Selma Hayek or Cate Blanchette.

    It is so not normal to me, that I literally didn’t believe it.

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    • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      55 years old isn’t really that old though.

      You don’t notice women in their 50s in your day to day life at all? They’re all fat?

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      • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Look I don’t know what to tell you… I have no reason to lie about this.

        Yeah, in my life, most older people tend to let themselves go.

        Yes, most older people I’ve known a friends or family or regular acquaintances are somewhat to significantly more fat than they were in their 30s, and yes, by the time they hit 55, many of them also have at least one somewhat to very serious kind of disability.

        Maybe I’m just from a poorer millieu than you, where people don’t tend to have the money or time to afford good food and healthcare and spare time to excercise?

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  • HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    honestly it’s more disingenuous and sexist to pretend that every 55 year old woman looks like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett, velma

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    • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.

      I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.

      I’m responding to the assertion that a 55 year old woman in shape is enough to leave someone baffled and in disbelief because they’re literally never seen a 55yo woman in as good of shape

      I’m not saying every 55yo woman looks like Salma Hayek, but by existing they are disproving this original comment.

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  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.

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    • 7101334@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      I’m not single

      or 55

      but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.

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      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym.

        I mean, more power to you. I’m mostly just saying “Women over 55 who are fit exist, you can find them at gyms all over the country.” I’m not suggesting you need to hit on any of them.

        That said, I can say from personal experience that people flirting with each other at the gym is incredibly common. I’ve flirted. I’ve been flirted. I even dated a Pilates instructor that I met there.

        Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work.

        Lot of flirting happens in offices, too.

        “Captive audience” type shit

        You meet people where you both are. But there’s a tactful way to approach people and a crass way. Don’t go running up to grab someone by the pussy. But smiles and small talk don’t hold anyone hostage.

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      • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        They’re not talking about approaching women at the gym.

        They’re talking about observing women that are over 55 and in shape. Because they exist. Despite popular belief.

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    • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Exactly.

      Literally one can go to the grocery store and find a woman who is over 50 and in shape. I would bet money.

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      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        I mean, fit people still shop. It’s just going to be much more of a crap shoot.

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