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• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  ???

  Is… is this a problem for you, in some way?

  That I have a body type preference, on a website explicitly designed for people to seek out specific consensual sexual experiences?

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  • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    You’ve literally never seen a 55 year old woman in shape? I don’t believe you.

    Look up a list of celebrity women who are currently 55 years old.

    This idea that women are decrepit and ugly and old at 55 is asinine.

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    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Not in person, not in real life, not ‘in my local area and looking to mingle’, no.

      I don’t regularly… go to gyms where 55 yo women are, and … I think all of my intimate partners have been within a max of +/- 3 years of my own age.

      I’m not trying to nor did I say that all older women are decrepit and ugly.

      I’m saying that generally speaking, women (as well as men), kinda tend to let themselves go a bit, as they get older… and honestly there is nothing wrong with that, that is completely normal. Getting old hurts, it makes staying in shape hard… it would be ridiculous to have basically the same general physique expectations for both a 30 yo and a 55 yo woman, or man.

      What is very not normal is to actually encounter a 55 yo women in approximately similar physique condition as ~55 yo Selma Hayek or Cate Blanchette.

      It is so not normal to me, that I literally didn’t believe it.

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      • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        55 years old isn’t really that old though.

        You don’t notice women in their 50s in your day to day life at all? They’re all fat?

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    • HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      honestly it’s more disingenuous and sexist to pretend that every 55 year old woman looks like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett, velma

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      • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.

        I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.

        I’m responding to the assertion that a 55 year old woman in shape is enough to leave someone baffled and in disbelief because they’re literally never seen a 55yo woman in as good of shape

        I’m not saying every 55yo woman looks like Salma Hayek, but by existing they are disproving this original comment.

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    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.

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      • 7101334@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        I’m not single

        or 55

        but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.

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      • velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Exactly.

        Literally one can go to the grocery store and find a woman who is over 50 and in shape. I would bet money.

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