I mistyped, I meant to write 25 years younger.
But why would somebody lie from roughly 30 to present as 55?
Well really, the pattern that I though I’d noticed was that people would just bullshit their age by a round number, 5, 10, 20, etc years, in any direction.
An obfuscation/privacy tactic more so than like, a catfishing tactic.
The other thing at play here is that … I was genuinely baffled, in disbelief.
I literally have never seen a 55 yo woman in as good of shape as she is, she’s in better shape than most women I’ve known who actually are in the age bracket I thought she was in.
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Sigh.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
???
Is… is this a problem for you, in some way?
That I have a body type preference, on a website explicitly designed for people to seek out specific consensual sexual experiences?
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
You’ve literally never seen a 55 year old woman in shape? I don’t believe you.
Look up a list of celebrity women who are currently 55 years old.
This idea that women are decrepit and ugly and old at 55 is asinine.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 hours ago
Not in person, not in real life, not ‘in my local area and looking to mingle’, no.
I don’t regularly… go to gyms where 55 yo women are, and … I think all of my intimate partners have been within a max of +/- 3 years of my own age.
I’m not trying to nor did I say that all older women are decrepit and ugly.
I’m saying that generally speaking, women (as well as men), kinda tend to let themselves go a bit, as they get older… and honestly there is nothing wrong with that, that is completely normal. Getting old hurts, it makes staying in shape hard… it would be ridiculous to have basically the same general physique expectations for both a 30 yo and a 55 yo woman, or man.
What is very not normal is to actually encounter a 55 yo women in approximately similar physique condition as ~55 yo Selma Hayek or Cate Blanchette.
It is so not normal to me, that I literally didn’t believe it.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 1 day ago
honestly it’s more disingenuous and sexist to pretend that every 55 year old woman looks like Salma Hayek and Cate Blanchett, velma
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 day ago
It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.